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*ashxx
writes: Hey, I'm 15, and I want a boyfriend. I don't want any of that "you're too young" sh*t. Just give me nice answers :). Ok, so I'm home-schooled, and I only know 3-4 guys, one's Wayy too young (he's like 10), one likes me but just as a friend (which I totally understand), and the other's already have girlfriends. So how do I met more boys? How do I know if they like me? And how do I know if it's love or hormones? (because believe me I mucked up a friendship with a guy because of hormones :/) so please any advice/tips/experiences thanks!Oh and by the way, is it normal to want a boyfriend at 15? Reply to this Question Share |
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reader, Fatherly Advice +, writes (19 July 2012):
OK I'll Bite.
Tashxx,
First off I'll give you nice answers when you write a nice question. Sorry just had to be said.
You have asked two important questions that deserve good answers. First how can you meet more people. You have received some good answers, so I thought it might be instructive for me to tell you some of the places I met girls who were important in my life.
On my grandmothers front lawn, (honest). At a swimming pool. At a campground. At a track meet, (participating). At a church dance. In class. While waiting for another girl to show up for a dance. Set up as a blind date. As you can see opportunities are everywhere.
Second you asked if it was normal to want a boyfriend at 15. I have met very few young men or women at your age who are not interested in some sort of romantic / dating / sexual connection with members of the opposite sex. My advice is not to try to tie it down to one person so soon. That is going to be harder than it sounds. You have no need of an exclusive relationship for a few years. Right now have lots of good friends, and try not to get jealous.
I hope that was a nice enough answer.
FA
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2012): its perfectly normal to feel this way so dont worry, maybe you could go to a youth club or other group to meet new people and a potential bf. Im not saying your too young, but dont be in too much of a hurry to fall in love, just enjoy yourself and be safe. x
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (19 July 2012):
it's normal to want a boyfriend at 15
do you go to church? can you meet boys there? at youth group? that's where I met most of my high school boyfriends... at youth group... they even went to different schools....
what about hobbies you have? do you have any clubs you can join?
you will know if they like you... they will pay attention to you and talk to you and blush when around you...
if they tease you they may like you but are not mature enough for a relationship yet...
you don't know if it's love for a while... and hormones will come into play so just learn to say no for a while so that you can get to know them as people not playtoys.
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reader, Serpico +, writes (19 July 2012):
I dont know about "normal," but its not unusual.
That said, I do think 15 is a bit young to have a steady bf or gf. It simply allows just far too many opportunities for choices you're likely not mature/experienced enough to be making.
In the next 10 years, you're likely going to have more bfs than you can count. Dont rush it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2012): hehehe i'm sorry this might sound evil :) :P but allll the best..!...i wish i could go back to being a kid,and choose to never fall in loove again.. :) you aren't too young..but at your age the problem is ..that th guys around your age are gonna break your heart because they are still boys and haven't developed the required hormones needed to fall in love ..(maybe just hormones to want sexual pleasure)...and men older than you are way too older for you and may use you in a wrong manner...i would call a 18+ guy dating a 15 yr old perverted. because your still a kid and a man old enough to "love" is way too old for you ..he can only see you as a little girl. the case would be different if the same guy turned 21 and you turned 18 :) Go out to sports and various other activities..meet new people..make friends, learn new things...love happens...it can't be forced. and trust me i'm 24 and still don't know if i'm with my love or what..!it's too complicated to distinguish between love and infatuation...and to handle it...you need maturity . it's certainly not a rosy field of romance out here honey. it's full of heartbreaks, baggages,psychological disorders and a stunt in the growth of your personality ....i'm not trying to scare you or say never venture .just warning you and getting you prepared!
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reader, Angel S +, writes (19 July 2012):
Hi,
Well it's perfectly normal to want a boyfriend, I guess romantic interest is everywhere these days and this has influenced you. But the thing you need to realise is that you can't jsut click you fingers and get a boyfriend. You really must wait to find someone who you believe you are attracted to and are friends with.
You have girlfriends right? Some may go to public/private schools and you can meet boys through mutual friends. At your age I suggest getting to know boys in your area such as your street, your school, local clubs for sport or something. Actually the best way is to not go looking for a boyfriend but for you to just meet someone when the time comes. Enjoy your life for now you really don't need to worry about things like that.
Xo xo
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reader, Myau +, writes (19 July 2012):
Its fine. You need to look at expanding you social circle. Think about where you go out for fun ans see if you can try new things.
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