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writes:Okay so my Lady is great and she does it all for me. What I really want is to do it for her. I want to give her great Oral sex but she is to tickleish down there. When I try and go down on her she squeezes her thighs on my head and screams due to it tickekling. She always says she wishes there was a drug or something she can take to make her relax so she could enjoy it. Any Ideas?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2008): I am a girl that doesnt like to get oral either. I think it is weird and i am scared my guy will think it smells or tastes bad. I have had 2 people give me oral and both never said anything to me and both were willing to do it again. but its all in my head. I bet she has the same problem.
why dont the 2 of u take a shower together. that way ur both nice and clean and I bet she will be more willing to let you go down on her.
hope it works
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reader, SugarCookie +, writes (22 June 2008):
I get that way too. Start by wetting your finger and having a rougher touch on her clit. Not so rough it hurts but enough that it doesn't tickle. Next try rough kissing around that area legs, pubic area, and vaginal lips. Slowly start making the kisses softer and if it tickles the go back to a pressure that didn't tickle and then work back down to softer. When you actually start to use your tongue make it a hard point and then become softer as she gets used to it. This wont necessarily work the first time but with time it should start to work. I believe that if she wasn't comfortable with you down there she would shove your head away not trap it down there with her thighs. Good luck!
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reader, Uncle Sneaker  +, writes (22 June 2008):
 Try it with her on top - kneeling over you while you're lying on your back. Let her control it.
Just be careful you don't suffocate!
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reader, madflash +, writes (22 June 2008):
 This is a tough one. My first guess is that she isn't ticklish at all, but embarrassed. I've been with several women who didn't like oral simply because they were too self-conscious about it, some of them to the point of phobia.
Alcohol numbs the tickle response, and decreases anxiety. So you could go that route. Also, giving her oral in a jacuzzi might be just the kind of stimulation (and good clean fun) she could tolerate both physically and mentally. I'd try both simultaneously at first, and work my way to doing it straight and in a normal bed.
To begin with, make sure you convince her you want her vagina as unclean as she's willing to give it to you. (This is odd, but stick with me--I'm sure you don't actually want it that way. This is for her psychological benefit.) Just convince her you would rather taste all her sweaty juices, and smell the most pungent feminine aroma her vagina can deliver, but that you'll settle for her being all soapy clean and in a hot bath if that will make her feel less embarrassed about it.
As for the possibility of her actually being ticklish, if the other suggestions of going slow, and working through her sensitivity to touch don't work, attempt tying her down. (With her permission of course, and only in the case of 'last resort'.)
I used to have to tie down one of my girlfriends due to her getting too ticklish at the point of orgasm. Once we resorted to this practice we happily discovered that she was multi-orgasmic. She went out and bought a brass bed and then she literally ran to the closet to get the ropes whenever I came over. It was such a blast, being able to please a woman so intensely like that. And there's nothing funnier than smoking a cigarette in front of your lover after giving her the best orgasms of her life, and then having her beg you for just one drag. (Don't worry, I gave her a puff--and she was very grateful).
Sometimes, I guess, having no mercy pays off.
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2008): I disagree with most other posters that say its not really about being tickelish. I used to be sooo tickeish ALL OVER my body. But as me and my first bf slowly experimented things, I got used to him touching me in those tickelish areas and they became less tickelish. Think of it this way....at some point in everyones life they are tickelish under there arms. Soem stay this way, some get over it. The ones who become non tickelish get over it because they get tickeled all the time, so often, it justb ecomes normal. Its prob the same in your partners situation.
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reader, lexilou +, writes (22 June 2008):
 Its not so much she is ticklish it is more likely due to being oversensitive. I have the same problem and add that to an incident when I was younger involving oral sex and what would now be considered date rape means my poor hubby rarely gets to give me this treat as I clamp up too. I have to be plied with wine first to get me to relax! For me its the clitoral area that is over sensitive and I cant bear direct contact immediately it has to be built up.
Get her to relax first with massage and other foreplay. Then when you do start oral sex dont dive straight but in kiss her outer thighs, inner thighs and her outer vagina area first, build up to it slowly and gently but not too gently as that makes her tickle more. Then when you go in for the kill avoid her clitoris to start with and relax your tongue, dont tense it up. Keep it loose and wide like you are licking an ice cream and just occasionally catch her clit with your tongue. If she acts like she has had an electric shock and clamps up again then avoid the clit unless she asks you too lick it when she is nearer orgasm. Talk to her to find out which bits she likes you doing and which she cant take x Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2008): i agree with the female reader. it's not about being ticklish. i mean, think about it... are you ticklish down there? imagine your girl wanting to lick your anus for the first time. you're nervous, self concious and maybe a little uncomfortable. you need to work up to the good stuff. don't just dive into it. make her want it. she will.
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reader, yourwifey +, writes (22 June 2008):
hmm idk either it does sometimes tickle for me esp when im close its almost unbearable sometimes but it usually fades [for me] after a min or two :/ wish i could help
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reader, LaydeeOfSorrows  +, writes (22 June 2008):
 While your doing it, try to get her to concentrate on something else and focus of her breathing, to control herself.
Maybe there is a drug or something that can help, im not sure though.
If she's too ticklish, maybe stop for a while.
Its a hard question!
Good luck!
xx
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reader, SamuraiRick +, writes (22 June 2008):
 Ticklish is a problem. If she squeezes her thighs tight enough she could break your neck! That's not good!
Hell, man, I don't know what to tell you!
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reader, cakau +, writes (22 June 2008):
 hmmm..ticklish huh? In my experience as a woman, I would giggle when i was feeling self-conscious or when i was not really in the mood. Maybe you should get her really excited to the point that SHE will ask you to go down on her. You could also try using your hands first so that it is not a sudden and awkward feeling down there. let your body be familiar with hers. Ask her to tell you what she wants so that there are no surprises. And assure her she is sexy..make her feel sexy..set the mood so that she will feel confident and relax.let me know how its progressinglove
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