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writes:Should I date my mom's assistant manager? Hi i'm 25 years old and have not had luck with men in my life. I always end up with jerks but I just recently found out my mom's assistant likes me. I have known him for years and we get along good, though I am quite shy. He always makes an effort to talk to me he even came to help me when I had a flat tire. My mom told me that she herd him telling another employee how much he wanted to ask me out. My mom likes him and is ok with the idea. But sometimes she gets pissed at him for things at work.I'm scared if we date it could be a problem if my mom is mad at him. Or what if we date awhile and we break up it could be akward for my mom and him. He gave me his number but I have never called him and every time I see him he keeps giving me his number agian. He knows I have it! Oh what do I do I like him but I see so many possabilities for drama. Thanx for reading and any input.
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reader, SamuraiRick +, writes (6 July 2008):
 I think there is potential here for conflict, but also a lot of fun, romance, comedy and adventure... I totally want the movie rights to this story.
The conflict can be a little hairy, but what is the fun in life if you dont run into a few waves on your journey?
But the only way to see how it turns out is to take the risk and see where it goes. I think you should go ahead and date the guy. What harm would it do just to date him. You might end up liking him...then again you might find it goes nowhere. But sitting around pondering it is a waste of time. Go for it.
Call him and take the plunge. Why would you even post this question if you werent thinking seriously about it. DO it!
And tell us how it goes. If there's some conflict ..good! Makes the story more interesting....and a better movie. I want the movie rights!
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (4 July 2008):
 I dont think there is any real correct answer for this. You are damned if you do and damned if you dont. If you dont you may let the love of your life slip through your hands, if you do , you may split up in three weeks in a hail of bad words and accusations and your mum is his boss. He would have to leave his job .
How about something down the middle, give him a call and arrange to meet up for a movie on a Saturday afternoon. Get to know him even better by hanging out as mates but just the two of you, if you feel intimacy is around the corner spell out that you want to be sure you are going to be a real item as it will be so uncomfortable if things turn out bad. Hell, it still may be, will he be able to work for his girlfriends mum?
Guys arent so crash hot at seeing these things in the future, and he may be very blase about it, but there is a reason for the rather crude saying "don't screw the crew".
good luck.
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reader, ChiRaven +, writes (4 July 2008):
 The question boils down to an imponderable here, and that is HIS level of maturity. Is he sufficiently professional to keep his personal and work lives separate? I don't think you can really answer that. It's going to be a gamble. You've correctly identified part of the down side ... that if you break up it may put your mother in a difficult position. The other part, of course, if he is REALLY immature, is that he might feel that because he has some "power" over your mother that he has some power over you.
I think the best thing to do would be to have a very serious talk about this with your mother. You said she is OK with the idea, but have the two of you really gone into the "what if's" of the whole thing? If you have, and she's prepared to deal with what might happen if you and he have an explosive break-up, then there shouldn't be any real reason not to go out with the guy. I'd recommend taking things nice and slow with him, though. Don't jump into anything too heavy too quickly. That would reflect poorly on you AND on your mother.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2008): It's true that your mom may have some drama, and it's true that this guy could be some pshyco.....but it is also true that this guy could be your husband for the next 57 years if you gave him the chance. It's all about risk....Do you risk it and find out, or do you just hang by the walll paper and feel lonley? The choice is your Love Bug...Please let me know how it turenes ouut... I an a sucker for a good love story....and yours sounds like a good love story!!!
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