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writes:Valentine's Day s____.That’s right I’m saying it. Here is a day dedicated to love. For most the holiday celebrates the love between two people together and in romantic love. It’s a wonderful day for lovers.But for those of us not in love, between relationships, just plain alone the day sucks. Is there any consolation prize for us lonely hearts…no. The lonely get nothing. No dice! Nada!Am I depressed? No no…I’m far from being desperate and depressed. But I can see how others could be. It’s just no fun being left out of a day where those who celebrate have so much joy and love and all the good things that go with it. Here I am just few days ago my divorce was finalized. A few years ago I asked her to marry me, yes on this day. That was a special day at that time, and I held Valentines Day even more sacred than our anniversary because of what that moment meant. Just a couple days ago I got copies of the judgment in the mail. The divorce was no big deal…we both wanted it, and our differences were too wide to settle. We did the right thing, both of us, splitting up. And I can say I am as actually happy that’s over and settled. I have a sense of peace about me now that it’s all over …. But being alone…on this day, Valentines Day, is nasty. I’m just going to let it pass quietly by. It’s the only way to let the hurt minimize. I will avoid watching TV filled with Ads showing happy people in love. I may just pop in and old prison escape or a war movie…something without women. I suggest the same to others in the same position. Just blank it out of your mind. Don’t think about it. It's only 24 hours and you can sleep through half of it. Come Friday it will be all over. Friday night I’ll be at bar with friends. Who knows…. I just might meet the girl I will spend next Valentine's Day with. Until then Valentines Day s____!
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reader, SamuraiRick +, writes (25 May 2008):
SamuraiRick is verified as being by the original poster of the question Dear Grimmreality...
You want me to feel sympathy for what you are going through with your "freak stripper girlfriend?" If you have a so-called "freak stripper girlfriend" how can you expect anything long term if she is your girl and still stripping? I've been there pal, yah, I have dated girls of that type... You should have no expectations with that kind of girl and just enjoy her company for what it is....if she gives up stripping for you, then you might have something...if she is still stripping, you will never be completely happy with her. It goes with the territory big guy. At least you got what you got and if its in the past then just keep it as a good memory and move on.
I have no problems with dating strippers, but would never expect it to last long, unless she quit her job for me, or had some kind of understanding. If you cant live with her doing her job, you either have to adapt or keep things simple with her.
How did my question about being lonely on Valentines day go into a tangent about dating strippers???
Why did you get me started!! Now I'm the one giving advice!!!
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (16 February 2008):
 I LOVED your article! Sorry it's a bad day at the moment but it sounds like things are moving the right direction for you now.
I'll give you one and only one reason to like this day: chocolate!
Other than that, I'm with you. (I am happily married, BTW, so this isn't a rant about relationships.) This is a day that's been set up by marketers who want to sell you all kinds of things you don't really need (other than chocolate). It's kind of like Christmas, where you get to watch all kinds of really sappy movies about how wonderful families are together in the season, when in fact it's just another way to part you from your money, selling you things you don't really need. And don't forget big family get-togethers can be really really stressful.
I have a girlfried who used to call it "knife in the heart" day! We laughed about it and came up with all kinds of ways to cope with the fact we didn't have boyfriends at the time. She's now happily married with two children, so I expect that it's not quite the same for her nowadays, but I do treasure the fun we had turning it into a joke. I still secretly think of it as "knife in the heart" day.
Arbor day, now that's one that isn't over-hyped. Yet. Can we celebrate that one? With chocolate? Doesn't that come from trees? Cocoa beans? Let's all have a big party on Arbor Day, with loads of chocolate!
LOL.
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reader, GrimmReality +, writes (14 February 2008):
 Today's My birthday! I am alone again after telling my freak stripper girlfriend to F&$K Off this morning because I caught her lying AGAIN. On this day of all days? You think you got it bad?
PUUHHHLLLEEESE!
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