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writes:Games! Why do people in relationships play these games?! My bf has weird phrases that he uses and I don't know if he means them or not. Like when we argue, he'll say something like "I honestly don't think this is going to work out anymore.." and then I'll want to walk away since he's saying he wants to end it..but then he'll say "so you're just going to walk away now??" I know that when I'm angry and upset, I'll start speaking of breaking up, because secretly, deep down I want his reaction to be "don't say that! I still want to be with you." I like the reassurance that he still wants in. But when he talks about breaking up, I always thinks he means it..but could it be that he's only saying it in the heat of the moment or waiting for me to reassure him? Or should I just let it go this time and have us go our separate ways? Reply to this Question
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (7 August 2009):
If you don't want him to play games then you shouldn't either. If he's going to to say that he thinks you two should break up but doesn't mean it, you can either really "walk" or play his game. So option one when he says that you can leave and not speak to him for several days that way you can "train" him to not speak such nonsense. Or option two, if you really think that you shoudln't be in the relationship together, tell him that it's agreed and walk out of his life.
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