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writes:Hi Cupids,I have just started sort of seeing a guy. We became friends very quickly and ended up in bed very quickly too. I thought it might just be a one off thing, but we both felt this incredible connection and like we'd been together forever. One of the problems is he had just started seeing another girl in the last week too.We had dinner the next night and he said that as he was going away for work he wanted to end things with her, so told her that night. We ended up hanging out again the next day and had sex again. He tells me all the things I want to hear like how much he likes me, but I don't know whether to believe him. Hes going away for 3 months tomorrow, and is going to be single, which I'm fine with as we aren't going out. He was all keen for me to fly and visit him in a months time for a weekend, but when he saw me today he never brought it up. He talked really dirty to me and was joking with me, but lied that his phone was dead when I text him and when he left me he just said 'keep in touch'. Do you think I should scrap the idea of going to visit him? I want to give him a chance if he really does like me, but am worried I'll book the tickets and go and then he wont want to see me and I'll be by myself in a strange city for 3 days.
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reader, pinktopaz  +, writes (7 August 2009):
I would suggest that you don't make any plans and that if he wants to see you, he can make the arrangements, pay for at least half of the tickets and for wherever you guys will stay. Guys can put their emotions aside unlike women. So being that he's going to be gone for several months, he's not going to be taking anything too seriously as far as the relationship that you two have or had. Don't let him have all the benefits of this FWB deal, he needs to put forth effort too if he wants to see you.
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