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writes:In a few months i'm going to be 17, and i just can't shake the feeling that i have wasted the prime of my teen years. I've only ever had a gf for like 2 months, only kissed one girl, have barely been to any parties or stuff like that. I go out like one weekend i every month if i'm lucky, and i only have a very small group of friends who seem to only want to hang out with me when they don't want to look like a loner. I always have to hear from these friends and my brother about the stuff they've done and have planned to do, they all have a partner or some love interest, they all go out every weekend (some of them every night) and when i compare my life to theirs i just hate the fact that i have nothing to show for my teen years!! How am i supposed to change this?? Reply to this Question
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reader, lm9hi  +, writes (9 August 2009):
 you say that your friends go out every weekend and most weekdays, why not invite your self out with them, just ask you never know they might say yes. If your not confident try to change your style, a new clothes sense or new hair style so that people will nottice, ask your big brother to take you shopping or do you have a big cousin that could help you? just try to be more confident, try to be random & make people laugh, why not ask your brother if you can go out with him one night, or next time his friends are at yours talk to them and make friends with them. young teenage years can be exicting, the time to make memorys, but its the older years that count, you can really do anything when your 16-17 because your to old to hang about the streets ect, but to young to go out to pubs ect, invite friends over to yours and have a wee drink or something, thats what i mostly do. Anyway stop worrie about things and just enjoy life, and as for not having a girl friend, iv never had a boyfriend and yet i love life, iv been with boys but never had a relationship, i think its more fun my way :D
just let your hair down and have fun :) good luck xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2009): Yeah, I totally agree with Emilysanswers. I share the same experience too when I was your age. Everyone of my peers were drinking and sleeping around and cutting classes. Guess what? Now they call me when they need money as they are jobless. They have a bunch of kids to raise and have husbands who didn't finish college and had really low paying jobs. They are suffering.And now they tell me all they have is regrets.It's true, you wont even feel its really significant what you did during those teenage years when you get older. But ofcourse, don't stay at home too much..socialize with the right kind of people.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (9 August 2009):
Yeah, films and games will often make it seem like 13 is the new 21.
Why do you think we have so many underage pregnancies now?
The fact is that being a teen is when you WANT to do al this stuff but can't.
Life gets interesting in your 20's when you have the money and freedom to go out and do all this stuff.
Work hard in school and go to a really cool university and you'll soon see the change.
In my experience, all the kids at school who drank and sex early on are all REALLY poor and REALLY REALLY boring now. My sister in law won't even come out to the pub any more because she feels like she's done it all and just wants to stay in her house being dull. She's 26. Plus they all have 19 kids by now as well. Yuck.
I am out when ever I have the chance and go to festivals and will be going travelling soon too.
Don't worry about it and look forward to leaving home and getting away from your town and seeing the world.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, pinktopaz  +, writes (9 August 2009):
Seriously, don't even worry about your teen years. Be glad that you didn't spend all of it in a relationship with someone. Your prime is in your 20's. Don't worry, you have plenty of time for all that stuff. When you look back, your teen years don't account for much. You haven't even begun to live life yet!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2009): If you feel bad because you are not a social butterfly then get some coaching on this aspect that you view in yourself as a MAJOR WEAKNESS. It isn't really because we are all different, with different abilities and proclivities. However, you're just a kid and in your milieu a major hindrance.Since schools out and you have no school counselors you could ask your parents or you could go to the local YMCA to get the facts on organizations that can help you hone your social skills.BTW, wait till you're 50 and repeat your complaints. What will you think of your complaint at 16?
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reader, aprilfools +, writes (9 August 2009):
 I know the feeling.I'm 18 and just graduated high school.I hated it!It's such a difficult time.I'm a very quiet person, always shy so I never talk to someone unless they talk to me.Many thought of me as a snob but I'm not like that at all.I'm just shy...And another thing!Relationships ARE NOT always what they seem to be.My fiancee and me have been together since we first started high school and between me and you, I've missed out on so much because of him.I'll never know what it's like to go to a sleepover(because he always wants to be around me and gets upset when I hang with other people), I've lost all of my friends(and I only had three...), I missed out on prom(because he "didn't have the money to buy a tux"), and I'll never know what it's like to have guy friends(because he's very jealous when other guys talk to me). I love him dearly and I wwouldn't trade him for the world but being in a relationship through your teen years is VERY frustrating and it takes alot away from you...If I were you I would just stay sungle and date around. It's good for you to get to know as many irls as you can.And if you think of yourself as unattractive, don't!You seem nice enough.Just be friendly and polite with girls and they'll appreciate you.And no matter what you look like, there will always be atleast someone who thinks you're attractive. You're unique! Everyone is, so there is no one else like you anywhere. Accept yourself and others will accept you as well =]
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