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writes:Hey there, about two years ago I met the love of my life, my true love and at the time I didn’t realize how I felt until I let him go. Long story short I had a boyfriend for fours that treated me like crap. I broke up with my BF of 4 years to be with my true love but I couldn’t even phantom how amazing he was cause I was so use to be treating badly. I broke my true love to be with my ex cause he said he had changed which was a total lie. Him I ended up breaking up officially. I have been single for about a year and a half and for a year and for a year I have thought about my true love every single day. So I have finally conjured up some courage and I faced booked him, asking him how he was doing and well that was a week and a half ago and were still chatting. How do I about express how I feel with out coming on strong? We kind of mention something about meeting up but it was vague, should I give him my number tell him to call me? Is it too soon? He’s not really putting that much out there. I have already accepted all the circumstances. All I want is the chance to tell him how I feel, I just don’t know how.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 August 2009): If he's still your true love and he is still in love with you, then you should see him and tell him what happened. The road to forgiveness with a person you love is paved with contrition. That is, you have to be humble and loving towards him and tell him that you were hurt just as badly as the ex-boyfriend did to you as you did to him.The real issue is whether this true love truly loves you. If he does, then he will always look past anything that you've done to him just about, in order to have you back.If he's missed you as much as you have him, then the only awkward moment you'll have is wondering why it took so long for you to reconnect.Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2009): well its a good sign that he still wants to talk to you... but i'm sure he has reservations because you broke up with him to be with someone else... its hard to believe that someone that does that ever took you seriously hes probably waiting to make sure that your not running back to him on some rebound and are going to pull the same thing again.... best way to do it ive learned to it is in a passing joking tone.... his response to it will let you know if he is open to the subject or not
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (12 August 2009):
Well I think you're right, you don't want to put too much out there at once. I'm sure you broke his heart and he has his reservations. Given that, I think that you're going to have to let him know your emotions a piece at a time. I think you should meet up, but something more as a, "Hey no hard feelings, let's catch up" type of thing. Then during your meeting, let him know that you feel bad about what you did, your head wasn't in the right place and to this day you feel that you made the wrong decision. After that, he should give you his response and then you can go from there. Let it come naturally, but don't come on too strong like a, "I think about you all day everyday and I want to you back so bad I'll do anything." Be honest but have some self control at the same time. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2009): Put yourself out there for him, and keep things slow. If things don't work out, there's always someone else and at least you'll have closure if you go out with him again and you two talk things over. Give him your number, and see where things go from there. Take a chance; you'll regret it if you don't. Good luck.
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