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writes:Hi Aunts, My Problem isn't really a big one but its driving me mad!My Girlfriend is super attractive Shes 5 11' skinny long brown hair she could pass as a model.Thats not the problem though the problem is every where we go shes constantly being hit on and checked out and by every guy that walks by.She hates its.What can i do! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2009): She knows she's hot and this will not stop. Tell her to ignore this behavior from the men. Tell her to act nonplussed. You can also suggest she dress down but I highly doubt she'll fancy that.
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reader, Beingblack  +, writes (8 August 2009):
 She hates it? Or do YOU hate it?I lived with a model. I know exactly what you are feeling. My ex didn't hate it at all, she couldn't handle it when men DIDN'T look at her!Yes, men stare, and ogle, and wonder what she is doing with you as her boyfriend. Get used to it. If your relationship is strong, you won't notice after a few months.
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reader, busy04  +, writes (8 August 2009):
 Are you serious?
You neither her can stop people from looking, that's what people do (men): they look! Ignore it, don't pay it any mind.
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (8 August 2009):
Oh boo hoo. She's one of those girls that just hates being pretty. If only she were ugly or at least average and people would just leave her alone!
Seriously, she should enjoy it now because when she's old it's not going to happen like it used to. As long as she doesn't flirt back or check them out, big deal. There's nothing you can do. You should be glad that you have a girl that's so attractive that other men can't stop staring at her.
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reader, Renee okc +, writes (8 August 2009):
You could by her a ring and maybe guys will see the ring and assume that she is married and they won't give her a second thought. I have never heard of someone complaining of being it on but it can be annoying if it is at the wrong time. Try the ring on the finger and see what happens, unfortunately we can't stop what others chose to do. All you can do really is be gracious say thank you but no thanks and move on Sorry Dude.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2009): Look on the bright side. All these billions of men want her. But they can't have her. Because she's with you.
And most of these guys would probably willingly sacrifice a finger to be the man in YOUR position.
So she hates all this attention. That's a shame for her, and she shouldn't regard it as a terrible thing to be admired. Attractive people obviously get 'checked out' by a phenomenal amount of passers-by - they can opt to feel offended, or decide that it makes their day. Her choice. Would she rather be gorgeous and the focus of attention, or ugly and never 'checked out' by anyone? We can't have it all ways.
The only way to stop guys staring at her is to radically work on making her appearance less sexy, or walk around in a burqa and veil, or never leave the house.
I can't identify a single detail in your post that qualifies as a 'problem' worth worrying about. Put it this way, would you honestly prefer that she loved the attention of other men instead of hating it?
Count your blessings and thank your lucky stars.
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reader, baddogbj  +, writes (8 August 2009):
 Growl at people.
Honestly, works wonders.
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