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writes: I was dating this man for a few months. Everything was going well. We had met families and our children had become close. Then I had a feeling things weren't quite right. Like he sometimes wouldnt return texts or calls etc. So I comfronted him and told him if he would like to date others he should tell me. He said no. That he wasnt seeing anyone else and didn't want to. He said he was very serious and had feelings for me. We had a deep serious talk about the relationship only because I was concerned. Then he called next day and seemed polite. I thought things would be better. Then nothing. Its been a week and a half and no word from him even tho I have called and texted him. Why would a man do this? I have no clue what happened. I'm just confused why would he say all this if he didnt mean it? I do know he's ok by the way.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (11 August 2009):
 Sorry I think it is time for you to STOP calling him. You have given him EVERY opportunity to have a reason ( other then he cares about you) to call you back and he CHOSE not to. Maybe this is how he deals with his confussion. ( if he isn't sure where to go from here)
You CAN'T MAKE him talk to you.
Try and give him some space.
I'm kinda thinking that he was/is worried that you suggest seeing other people because YOU wanted to see other people.. I think he misunderstood that part. Still, give him some time and if he doesn't call you,text or email then I would suggest you let the thought of him go.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI have tried to contact him a couple of times. We had even invited me to go on a trip with him next week. So I called him and left a polite message asking him the exact dates so I could arrange my work schedule. Yes when I said no contact I mean he quit calling me or returning or returning my texts and I have tried at lesst four times. I dont want to push or look desparate. But the words came out of his mouth as tho he wanted to commit but his actions are totally different. I have a feeling he's seeing someone else by the way he was starting to act. I gave him the chance to be honest and he still lied. I dont know.
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (11 August 2009):
I'm sure he's just as confused as you are, and unfortunately, I think some men just don't know how to communicate. There could be several things, but I think you would know him well enough to try and decide for yourself since none of us (or you) can read his mind, which are: he lied and wants to see others, is afraid of commitment, or he has some other issue. I've had to deal with someone just like that for quite some time and have had trouble trying to keep him out of my life. I would say to let him contact you and let him talk to you about it. I think calling him would only have him clam up more, especially if he's not ready to talk and feels pressed for answers.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2009): Oh God! that is confusing. Call him again and ask him what the deal is, if he answers the same way leave him. Did u mean no word from him like he hasnt contacted u at all?? What a jerk he is. I hate to say this but maybe he is seeing someone else??? idk im just guessing. That is weird thought and the only advice i can give you is confront him again. If he acts like this again leave him. You can only take so much
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