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writes:I'm really worried about a date I went on tonight.I was really nervous throughout the date, my shyness always seems to get the better of me. As a result I didn't express myself as much as i'd have liked to. We went for a drink first which calmed the nerves a bit, he was giving me compliments and we was holding hands all night, then went to cinema and held hands during that too lol. He paid for almost everything and then as the end of the night approached, he waited with me for my bus, we kissed and he even said he'll invite me to his mates house party which is next week sometime. Sounds rather positive doesn't it? but i can't understand how he could possibly have enjoyed my company? I just wasn't myself at all... way too nervous! and most of the time he seemed really confident and forward. Just wasn't a good mix! I don't really know what i'm asking here, just want to know what was going through his mind!
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reader, octobersun31  +, writes (16 January 2010):
chances are sweetie that he see's the beautiful you that you don't see. give him a chance. but don't do anything that you aren't comfortable with.
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reader, fishdish +, writes (16 January 2010):
 i agree with the previous post. it takes most people a while to let their guards down and come out about who they really are. i've found that people are usually startled when i reveal my outgoing personality at first, which is usually a deterrent for me to going fullblast at first hehehe. maybe he liked something small, like your smile, and wanted to see more of it and you and it's natural to let your personality come out the more you see him. only time will tell if your personalities mesh well. good luck!
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (16 January 2010):
To be honest, no one will know what was going through his mind except for him. But it doesn't sound like the date went bad at all. For all you know he's thinking that he wasn't quite himself. We can all be that way, I often feel that way. I'm pretty outgoing once you know me, but at first I usually come off as pretty shy. So I get worried with that too. Sometimes I also think if I'm really that shy with someone that they might not be the right person for me, I've gone out on dates where we just hit it off, were having a great time, and I was not shy at all...I was very comfortable and I like that.
On the other hand, being a little shy can be good too. You didn't let everything out about yourself and let him know your whole life story, so it leaves a little mystery about you and some men like that, it makes them want to get to know you better. So don't worry about it too much. He may call you tomorrow, in a few days, or never. Either way, try and keep calm and don't get so curious or anxious that you end up calling him and apologizing for not "being yourself" or something stupid like that. Just wait for him to call you, I'm sure that he will.
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