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writes:Around a year and a half ago a fairly new teacher started teaching me for my Spanish course. The first few weeks of term were relatively normal, as I came into the school year two weeks late as I was on holiday I had missed some of the syllabus. I approached the teacher and asked her if she was free some lunch times to help me catch up, and she happily agreed. However shortly after the lunch time lessons I would notice her staring at me during lessons, each time I would look up and catch her staring she would look away instantly. Then came the casual touching. I would stand next to her and she'd move visably closer, she would put her hands on my waist to walk past me. In class when I needed help she would come over and rest her arm over my arm, and rest her hand on my back. Soon friends also began to notice the continuous staring and touching. In the lunchtime lessons she began telling me about her life, things that teachers shouldn't disclose to pupils. The final straw came when she gave her cell phone number to me in case I ever needed to contact her. I didn't like this, so I tried to distance myself, avoiding her in between lessons. She seemed to notice my frostiness towards her and took it very badly. Began ignoring me, and cancelling extra lessons without telling me. In lesson time she would continually belitte me and take her anger out on me. I couldn't think what I had done wrong. It got to the stage where she stormed into one of my other lessons, chucked my book at me and began shouting at me in front of my other classmates. I was utterly humiliated. I couldn't see what I had done so wrong. I hadn't liked the way she was acting and I had taken subtle steps to stop it advancing any further, as I felt uncomfortable. Is this my fault?
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reader, fishdish  +, writes (16 January 2010):
 wow she sounds like a sociopath. i think it's important you get your side of the story out there cause she might just latch on to someone else like this someday..it's problematic
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 January 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks guys! :). I would've reported her by now, but she's using her position to her advantage. I'm an extremely quiet person in general, and after one of her shouting episodes around 2 months where she said 'Look how good I've been to you, giving up my free time to help you. I didn't have to do these lessons. I could have decided not to help you but I did.' I stupidly said back 'This is getting ridiculous' and walked off. I know I shouldn't have said that, but she used what I had said as the cue to call home. My mom had to come into the school and see her along with 2 other teachers. It had totally ruined me. I had never been in trouble before, other teachers couldn't quite believe it. My parents were totally disappointed in me, so relationships at home were strained for a while. At the moment she's being relatively nice, but I am so intimadated by and what she's capable of next.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (16 January 2010):
Not, it's not your fault at all. She needs to be reported.
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reader, fishdish +, writes (16 January 2010):
agreed, i'm sure you're cute and all but your teacher is a being a pervvy pedophilic creep. she needs a reality check..from her boss (the principal). go straight away before she gets even more violent or singles you out in more vicious ways.
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (16 January 2010):
Umm wow! This teacher is EXTREMELY inappropriate! You need to report her to the dean or principal because you felt that she was sexually harassing you, then started taking things personally and canceling the lessons that could effect your grade and has now physically attacked you. This is highly inappropriate and if all you say is true, she shouldn't be working there. No, it's not your fault.
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