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writes:Guys, your point of view would be interesting.So I met this guy, not interested in him at first but he was in me..very interested. I decided what the hell, give it a shot, and we started dating. First off, I slept with him on the first date. We continued seeing each other romantically for a month, then he acted all weird and distant. So I told him, let's be FWB. Ok. 8 months later, we are still seeing each other once a week, as FWB, but he takes me as a date to an out of town wedding, out to dinner, I met his cousins and friends, etc..all the while calling our 'relationship' a FWB or quasi-bf/gf thing.Long story short, he moved away and I'm still heart broken over it months later. He texts me or vice versa once a week since he moved away over the summer. But if he only thought of me as a FWB, why did he take me as wedding dates, dinners, etc but without any commitment talk?I'm just wondering even though it's over and that's the best thing for me. Really for my own knowledge. Do you think he actually liked me or was just using me the whole time? He is very honest, and when he left said I 'would hold a special place in his heart' and that if was staying in my city, I would be his gf.What is up with this guy, I need a man's perspective!!
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (19 January 2010):
You said you were happy being a FWB. He took that literally, and that's what you were. He didn't use you, because this was what you were happy with. For him to take you on dates and such means he did care about you. It wasn't all about sex. And he said goodbye in a really nice way. He didn't use you, and he did care about you. For what it's worth, I think he still does.
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (19 January 2010):
You might want a man's perspective, but it's pretty easy to figure out. If you tell a guy that you want to be FWB, believe it or not, they're usually okay with it. You told him that, so he went with it. You were his friend with benefits...you were his girlfriend without the title or the committment that would make you feel comfortable. I don't think he was using you though, I think he probably does care about you or like you, but was just fine being FWB since you made it clear to him that's what you wanted...
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