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He doesn't tell me he loves me anymore ..what's going on?
Q. I met my boyfriend whilst on holiday, I stayed at my aunt's (not biological) and he is her husband's nephew. Anyway, I decided I needed the holiday after my previous long term relationship ended. I was with my aunt for about two months when he told ...
A. 28 November 2008: His aunt sounds very manipulative with him. Is he listening to her because she has some hold on him. At his age he should know his own mind. He doesnt seem to be making much effort to keep you, in fact you are doing the chasing. He sounds weak ... (read in full...)
Why doesn't my boyfriend love me...?
Q. Me and my boyfriend met 2 years ago. He exposed his love to me at the beginning. He loved me so much at that time. About 6 months later he is starting to change. I really love him so much. I always agree and accept whatever he wants. He even knows ...
A. 28 November 2008: I'm always a bit wary of people who confess undying love early on in a relationship. It can lead to a false sense of security on the other parties behalf. Sounds to me like he was using the old 'chat up tecnique to win you over. If he's wanting ... (read in full...)
Should I be worried that he's cheating on me?
Q. Well here it goes again my 3rd question in 5 days guess I needed more help then I though or I just think way to much either way here it goes. My b/f who just turned 18 and I had been dating 3 months everthing was going great I loved him he lov...
A. 28 November 2008: The important thing here is that you are still keeping the lines of communication open. Simply tell him about your concerns. Sometimes it's actually easier to talk on the msn so ask him on there. It can be difficult for anyone having a long ... (read in full...)
Massage techniques.
Q. Hi My (fairly new) partners had a rough time at work lately and has been poorly though she is getting better now. I've done my best to cheer her up (flowers to work etc) but when I next see her I want to give her a relaxing massage, help her unwi...
A. 27 November 2008: the atmospheric setting of the room can do so much to aid with the feelings of relaxation alongside the massage. Run a nice bath with some expensive oil in first. have a few candles in the bedroom already lit for the ambience. fresh Flowers are a ... (read in full...)
I am thinking about suggesting to her about maybe involving other men so she gets satisfied but how do I go about this.
Q. Let me start by saying I love my wife so much but we have a little problem. We have had 3 great children and as things happen my wife is larger down below. I only have a small penis just under 5 inches, now we know that is not enough in that d...
A. 27 November 2008: don't involve anyone else, what if she wants the other guy, then what will you do, there is always a slim chance of that happening. go to anne summers, try a different sex toy every week, spice up your life. Its funny how 'you' are suggesting the ... (read in full...)
Is my relationship over? Loving someone and to love someone...
Q. I have been with my gf for 5 years now, we are engaged and I feel as though our spark has gone. I love her more then anything else in the world and she is "in Love" with me. I don't think I'm in love with her any more, I take her for granted, don't ...
A. 27 November 2008: sounds like you want more from the relationship or even life. You settled down too quickly before seeing what else is out there in the world. Its never a good idea to stay with someone simply because they love you. If you both dont feel as ... (read in full...)
Is it just sex???
Q. Hi, Ok I am 18 years old and I am at college right now. I stay in the dorms. Before I went to college, I wasn't a virgin. The only person I ever had sex with was my ex-boyfriend of 2 and a half years. He and I waited 2 years before we had se...
A. 27 November 2008: Yes the fact that he can't enjoy your company and just 'chill' anymore. The sex has changed what you used to have and cannot go back to now because you are on a different plane with him. Do you want more, do you want to finish with your boyfriend ... (read in full...)
Should I keep on fighting or just stop being friends with them?
Q. i need help. so my friends are pretty much telling me we should go our seperate ways cuz i have a bf. they say i think boys are more important then themm but thats not even close to true and i always tell them that. so whenever i hang out with my ...
A. 27 November 2008: Its always tricky, where boyfriends come in to the picture. I'ts fine if you and your girlfriend go out with a boyfriend and his mate, but your girlfriend feels, not only jealous but pushed out as well. Maybe if you see your boyfriend at a ... (read in full...)
Help...hot tempered girlfriend!
Q. My girlfriend is kinda hot tempered...she blews off for unwanted things..even if its her fault?? there is one time where she lied to me and blew off at me as though it was my mistake..but we did talk it over..my question is why.?? How can you blew ...
A. 27 November 2008: when someone lies to you and then 'blows off', then she is hiding her guilt behind a screen of noise. It makes you back away and not talk about the real issues. It's like a wall of talk, a psychologist would say that if you keep talking and not ... (read in full...)
Is it okay to feel contempt for the man that is dating my ex?
Q. Is it okay that I feel great contempt for the man that is now dating my ex-girlfriend? They had been together before she met me, but had separated because he had 'a lot of baggage' (her words). We started dating and then he comes crawling back 'a ...
A. 27 November 2008: just by her telling you that she still loves you, i get the feeling she is enjoying the attention of you both. Shes gone back to a situation where she feels comfortable, like 'better the devil you know'. If nothing changed before then she could ... (read in full...)
How to heal a father/daughter relationship after his affair?
Q. My husband had a affair a year ago and it has been a long year.My 13 year old daughter is having a hard time, she started pulling her hair out we put her in counselling . This has helped a bit but every time she pulls her hair her dad gets on her ...
A. 27 November 2008: You need to tell him straight not to tease her, she is suffering mentally and it's not to be laughed at. Try and ask him to take her out for the day, just father and daughter and have quality time with her. This may make her settle a bit if he can ... (read in full...)
Why did the other boy work better and not this one?
Q. hey. so me and my boyfriend have had sex quite a few times. we went out in the summer time and started having sex. it never felt good for me. one time it almost felt good but not really. we did it like 10 times while we went out btw. then we broke ...
A. 27 November 2008: I hope you arent going to be another statistic of a teen mum. It is against the law to have underage sex. You need to concentrate on your school work and try and better your self for your future. Believe me, these boys will be talking about you ... (read in full...)
I believe in fighting for the one I love, but how do I do that in this situation? Any Advice?
Q. I've been with my girlfriend for approx 18 mos, we had a slow, deliberate start for a few reasons. We both had been burned in prior relationships (not recent though, I felt we were both pretty far moved on by the time we both got officially going, ...
A. 27 November 2008: you could just try dating or keep the lines of communication open. I was wondering why you didnt have space, were you in a flat, possibly with not a lot of rooms to have your privacy in. Or a garden where you could go sit in to think on your own. ... (read in full...)
Should I forgive him for having a affair with the housemaid or should I leave him?
Q. Should I forgive him for having a affair with the housemaid or should I leave him?...
A. 27 November 2008: tell him to go.... (read in full...)
Why doesn't he want me?
Q. My ex dumped me 3 months ago, and im still talking on the phone to him everyday, and sometimes we meet in the evenings for sex and thats it, he left me to go bk to his ex the mother of his child, we where together 10 months, anyway basically she ...
A. 27 November 2008: sounds like he's keeping his options open and you are there if he wants you for the moment. If he's scouting about on the net, wont be long before you are dropped. If you see a future tell him to stop scouring the net and come of those sites ... (read in full...)
Is my husband making a fool of me?
Q. Hi i'm maried 31 years, we met 2 women in out local a few years ago and became friends as I thought. It seems now that my husband has been texting one of them for a while (shes a widow) and last month I caught him in her house, he said they are only ...
A. 27 November 2008: Thats not right him going there for a few beers, you are her friend also,why werent you invited, why didnt he mention it. Sounds dodgy to me. Keep your eye on them in future if you are gonna stick around. You've heard of 'merry widows' hope this ... (read in full...)
He's 24, I'm 17. Is this wrong?
Q. He is 24 and I'm 17. I know he's not a sleaze because when we met, he thougt I was at least 21 and I thought he was 20 ish. We became really good friends, and after 3 months of just friendship we found out the actual ages. About a month after that ...
A. 27 November 2008: girls are more mature than boys anyway, so the mental age would be about the same. I't nice you have an older boyfriend, one a bit younger may not treat you as good or be a bit immature. 24 isnt that old anyway. hope this helps. ... (read in full...)
How do I discretely make him come to me?
Q. Hi, my boyfriend and I broke up a little more than a month ago. We go to school together, and therefore we see each other every day. I would love to get back together with him. I have worked on the things in my life that was part of the break up. ...
A. 27 November 2008: get a new hairstyle, wear a bit of makeup, be popular with all the girls. Show that you are confident. Chat to his mates when he's not around so that they'll say 'hey , shes a great girl,etc etc'.. Make it look like you arent bothered about the ... (read in full...)
Why won't my family accept my boyfriend?
Q. any advice is welcome. this is rather embarrassing to write as i am 29. been with my boyfriend two years,he is a divorcee with two kids. we dont live together.(i met him when he was divorced) we have many arguments yes but my problem is my family ...
A. 27 November 2008: Yes, spend the time with your man. If your family want to see you, tell them, they know where you are. You are old enough to do just what you like, sounds like your parents are very manipulative, now is the time to put a stop to it. Have a nice ... (read in full...)
Is this relationship over?
Q. I am 25 and have been with my gf for 5 years now, we are engaged and I feel as though our spark has gone. I love her more then anything else in the world and she is "in Love" with me. I don't think I'm in love with her any more, I take her for ...
A. 27 November 2008: You are just in a rut. Get away for the day, the weekend, anything. Put some lust and spark back in to it. Don't throw what you have away for something you may regret. Relationships do take time and go on a different phase every couple of years. ... (read in full...)
Was he looking at her?
Q. this is going to sound really crazy but its really getting me down! ive been with my bf for 6 months and never had any probs with him. the other day we were outside our flats when a boy and girl walked past. he was fiddling for his keys and i saw ...
A. 27 November 2008: its a natural phenomina,men look at women, whether they are fat, thin, blonde or brunette, they cant help it. They do it without even thinking. It doesnt mean anything. I keep saying to my husband if he glances at women while he's driving 'RIGHT, ... (read in full...)
Do all women expect you to read their minds to some degree?
Q. Girls keep leaving hints, sometimes I get them sometimes I don't. Of course I don't really mind when it comes to little things, but when it comes to huge emotional issues it seems to come out at an unexpected moment. Unexpected as in "how was I ever ...
A. 27 November 2008: Long term relationships where the communication is good brings best results. I've heard of couples been psychic this way, each knowing what the other is thinking. Flipping in and out of short term relationships will not open the pathways to the ... (read in full...)
Are guys like wolves on online dating sites? It's unbelievably hard being a woman!
Q. I tried an online dating site. Out of curiosity I set up a fake female profile to see what it's like from their end. It's absolutely ridiculous! What an eye-opening experience. I got bombarded by messages. The guys were almost like wolves. It...
A. 27 November 2008: You can usually tell the genuine ones. They talk with respect. The others just want to talk about sex. Also thank god for 'blocks' on sites. hope this helps.... (read in full...)
Will I regret saving my viginity for marriage?
Q. Has anyone saved themselves for marriage and then regretted it and wished they had slept with their partner before or wished they'd had more than 1 sexual partner? Thanks...
A. 27 November 2008: How lucky your husband will be. Sex is best when there is true love involved. hope this helps.... (read in full...)
I feel like there's something wrong inside of my head and I need guidance.
Q. I really hope this doesn't sound stupid. :( In the last few years, I've had a few problems in my life, as everyone does. My brother attempted suicide two years ago and it kind of put my family in a really awkward situation.. Like, everyone was los...
A. 27 November 2008: You maybe could do with some counselling. You seem to be surrounded by depressing people in your family and you may have inner guilt about giving up your child also. You need to put everything into perspective and deal with it then let go on each ... (read in full...)
Should I break up with her before I go to the university?
Q. Hi me and my girlfriend have been going out for 1 year now and i'm going to university in 2 years time. I keep thinking i want to break up with her when i'm at uni. I know its a long time off but i'm gunna be miles away and i'm always thinking ...
A. 27 November 2008: If this was right for you , then you wouldn't be questioning it. I'ts only natural for you to have these feelings, you could try being honest with her and cut down the time you see her or finish it altogether. Going away to University will give ... (read in full...)
My ex asked me to have sex with him! Should I?
Q. Hi, I've just split up with my boyfriend who i was with for 8 months and my ex before that has always been there for me. He's always come round when i needed him and gave me a shoulder to cry on, he's been like a big brother to me (: The other we...
A. 27 November 2008: Go out and have fun, you are just a child. You shouldn't be having sex at your age. Isn't there something out there you could be studying in your spare time to get a better education and future for you. Don't end up just another statistic for ... (read in full...)
My husband had an affair with his sister in law. What should I do?
Q. HELP!!! I just found an email on my husband's account from his siter-in-law. It was refering to them having sex and loving each other. I asked my husband about it, and he told me everything. This affair went on before I was in the picture. We have ...
A. 27 November 2008: This could split the family wide apart. If you think he is genuine and it's over then go and see the sister in law in private. Tell her you know all about it, he's your husband, he has confessed, you have no secrets and tell her you are willing ... (read in full...)
Am I over reacting about my wife and her son?
Q. I am 66 nearly 67 and my wife of 12 yrs is 22rs younger. we have both had previous marriages. We have 2 children and my wifes eldest son aged 23 (from her prevous marriage has come to live with us in the last 3 months having been kicked out of ...
A. 27 November 2008: put a tv in your bedroom and turn it up a bit to block out the activity in the next room. My sons bedroom is next door to mine and i must admit i cant let myself go knowing he is just a few inches away from the wall. Sex can happen any time so ... (read in full...)
He's not well endowed enough for me so he wants a divorce....
Q. I'm 31, and married with a 5-year-old son and a 1-year-old daughter. I've been married for 4 years now. Last week my husband told me he wanted a divorce. I was shocked when I heard it. I asked him why, and he said "I'm not well-endowed eno...
A. 27 November 2008: Four years down the line and he's saying this. There could be some other reason he wants 'out', this is a poor excuse. Tell him that its not size that counts its what you do with it. He could be having a mid life crisis. hope this helps.... (read in full...)
He wanted me to stick my finger up his bum! Why?
Q. my bf and i was having sex the other day when he wanted me to stick my finger up his bum, why did he want me to do this, he said he liked it mut my nails where to long, i was going to do it again last nite but he said no why did he want me to do it...
A. 27 November 2008: He was obviously in the throws of passion when he said it. Sex can be different each time and maybe he didnt get anything out of it like he thought he would the first time so he decided not to go there again. The only rule in sex is if both ... (read in full...)
No penetration - could I be pregnant?
Q. I'm really scared!! =\ One day I was at my boyfriend's and after some time we were kissing and he was laying on his back and I was on him [no penetration] I was with my underwear but then he started masturbating. After some time he ejaculated and ...
A. 27 November 2008: There is a possibility of you getting pregnant if any of his fresh sperm went near your genitals. Take a pregnancy test to put your mind at ease then you won't be pannicking all the time. If you are getting closer you need to be thinking of ... (read in full...)
My best friend likes a guy, who likes me, should I tell her?
Q. Okay here's the thing, my bestfriend likes a guy, but the guy likes me instead. How do i let her Know and how do i do it with out causeing a fight....
A. 27 November 2008: Tell your best friend's guy that you are not interested and then it's up to him to pursue your friend. There is nothing worse than best friends falling out over a man. If you do like him and want to be with him you will have to do this sensitively ... (read in full...)
Stomach bug or Pregnancy?
Q. Ive been sleeping with this guy for about 5 weeks, and im really scared im pregenent, Since yesterday afternoon during work i begain to feel faint, and had to go to the toilet 3 times as i had a bad stomach, i also felt like i needed fresh air ( ...
A. 27 November 2008: Yes you need to rule out that you are pregnant. And if you had unprotected sex you need to rule out that you havent caught something off this guy. If it does turn out to be just a stomach bug you need to be thinking about contraception cos if you ... (read in full...)
Did I have a right to feel insecure in this relationship?
Q. I'm trying to gain some insight on things.. I wish my ex would come back but I have questions the situations that happened over the course of the 3 years I was with him. I wanted to reveal some aspects that made me feel insecure which led to a c...
A. 27 November 2008: I'm not making any excuses for him. Maybe he hasnt learned etiquette, you know, like introducing you etc. I've known my hubby 30 years and sometimes when he speaks to someone in the supermarket, i always say, who was that, why didnt you introduce ... (read in full...)
I originally married him to help with his green card, will it work?
Q. Originally I married my husband to help him with his greencard. The first couple of years we fought constantly, and I tried to leave him several times. Eventualty, I got tired of fighting. Now we have been together for 4 years now. I was in love ...
A. 27 November 2008: Yes, try to enjoy what you have now. You are letting the old feelings of the past distorte your life now. Try to forget the other guy and concentrate on the here and now. The grass is always greener, until you cross over the fence, i'ts just a ... (read in full...)
Could she really like me?
Q. sorry for my bad english. will i meet this girl and shes in all my classes and am not sure if she likes me she's allways giving me mixed sings like some days she toroally ignores me and other days she stares at me alot and when i talk to her she's ...
A. 27 November 2008: Yes looks like she can't keep her eyes off you. What are you waiting for? hope this helps.... (read in full...)
Should I give up on my marriage or keep trying?
Q. Hi My husband has left almost three months now. We have a 14 year old daughter. I want so badly to have my family back. He says he doesnt love me anymore. I have found out he has slept several nights at another womens house that use to work with him ...
A. 27 November 2008: I'ts the age old thing isnt it, the grass is always greener. Maybe you got in a rut while you were married to him. If he's talking to you nasitly he's obviously on the defense. I personally would let him go, he's obviously been looking elsewhere, ... (read in full...)
How do I split my time between my boyfriend and friends?
Q. Hello, right well i have this prolem, me and my two best mtes were so so close done everything together, tld each other everything but then i got a boyfriend, i hve never felt like thid for anyone before, he means everything to me but so do the girl...
A. 27 November 2008: Its all in the natural process of life and love. Your girlfriends one day will also find a boyfriend and they will be in the same situation. You can always think if youve not seen your girlfriends for awhile just mention to your boyfriend you are ... (read in full...)
What's the easiest way to get out of this without having to deal with his crap?
Q. I am currently in a relationship. I have been in this relationship for a year in December. I moved out with this guy in March - as we clicked so well, and it felt as though it could work. While we have been living with each other we have had lots of ...
A. 27 November 2008: I'ts early in the relationship and you sound like you are still trying to get to know each other. That can be hard at first when you move in together. It may help if you can afford to go out together for a bit of fun or leisure rather than leave ... (read in full...)
Is there a way I can tell I am pregnant...this soon after having sex?
Q. I recently had a one night stand with a very very good friend of mine and well we kind of had a problem with the condom. I went to the doctors and took a morning after pill but there is still a niggling feeling in the back of my head... what if?...
A. 27 November 2008: You should be okay if youve taken the morning after pill. Have you thought of other contraception now so that you won't have as much worry next time. If you want confirmation that you arent pregnant you can get very reliable pregnancy tests from ... (read in full...)
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