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writes:I'm 31, and married with a 5-year-old son and a 1-year-old daughter. I've been married for 4 years now.Last week my husband told me he wanted a divorce. I was shocked when I heard it. I asked him why, and he said "I'm not well-endowed enough for you, find someone else, you can do better than me! I mean it!". I said to him that I loved him (I love him loads, he's a great husband and father) but he insisted I didn't really love him.However, he still insists upon divorce claiming he isn't well-endowed enough for me.How do I convince him that he's being irrational here?? He's insistent about it, and I'm getting worried.He's never been like this before, even talking with him got nowhere.I need help, but don't know what to do next.thanks, Michelle
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reader, sissybabysusie +, writes (30 December 2008):
 If size has never been an issue before then there has to be another reason for his behaviour.You did not mention if infact his size is a problem for you.I personally have encountered problems in that some of my past relationships failed dueto my penis size which is excactly 3.5 inches erect.Having said that I have mangaged to satisfy partners by other means so really size should not be an issue.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2008): Dear Poster
Have there been any other problems between the two of you in the past?
What was your sexual relationship like? Have you both been happy and satisfied sexually? Basically, were you sexually compatible?
I do believe there is a more deep rooted reason for him wanting a divorce.
However, with the limited information available, his behavior sound bizarre and I agree with Fade 878, he needs medical attention and a visit to the family doctor a.s.a.p is advisable. He might be able to refer you to a psychologist or counselor if needed.
Best wishes, lots of smiles; keep us posted.
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reader, aunty_rach +, writes (27 November 2008):
2 words...couple conseling
he obviously has some sort of issue and before he jumps into the world of divorce maybe you need to talk about it properly, being with a professional may help him to talk about what is really bothering him
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reader, Gypsii  +, writes (27 November 2008):
He's using the endowed issue to cover up what's really going on. You need to tell him that you'll give him a divorce but only on the condition that he tell you what's really going on. Believe it or not, since he mentioned his sexual organ as the issue, there's a possibility that he's having some latent sexual identity issues (i.e. possible transsexual, homosexual, etc..). It's highly unusual for a man to cite endowment as a reason for divorce. Most are too egotistical to even get into that line of conversation so, again, something else is amiss.
Couples counseling is in order. Contact a good therapist so that the two of you can sort out what's going on. Either way, the marriage is in crisis so you need help now! Hang in there!
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2008): I really dont think this is his real reason. Are you sure he isnt having an affair? Or something like that? I dont want ot be pessimistic but there is something else going on here...
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2008): I've got a feeling that other issues are involved. The first thought that came into my head is that he's suffering from depression. If that's not the case, then it sounds like there's a fuse blown in his brain somewhere and he needs some urgent professional help.
I'd suggest a quick phone call to relate, and ask them if they've come across this sort of thing before.
If you're happy with him, and have never shown any disappointment about what he's got in his underpants, and have always complimented him on his lovemaking skills, then this has to be something else other than what he's saying to you.
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reader, petina1 +, writes (27 November 2008):
 Four years down the line and he's saying this. There could be some other reason he wants 'out', this is a poor excuse. Tell him that its not size that counts its what you do with it. He could be having a mid life crisis. hope this helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2008): It seems very inexplicable. Either he's just using that as an excuse to cover for some other reason. Maybe he got the feeling from you that his little guy wasn't enough for you?
Or as person below said, he's got some mental issues.
Again, very strange.
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