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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:I met my boyfriend whilst on holiday, I stayed at my aunt's (not biological) and he is her husband's nephew. Anyway, I decided I needed the holiday after my previous long term relationship ended. I was with my aunt for about two months when he told me he liked me and wanted to be with me. Initially, I wasn't too sure as I was still trying to recover from my previous relationship but after a month of pleading with me and telling me he wants to marry me not date me, I realised that I liked him and that it might be a good idea. We started dating secretly because I was worried about how my aunt might react if she found out (because I didn't tell her or many others that my previous relationship had ended, because I felt I had failed and need time to deal with my emotions). Well, she did and it was worse than I feared, she was completely horrible with him, asked me to move out and then spent the next few weeks and months, convincing him not to be with me. At this point, our relationship wasn't sexual but became sexually probably due to both of us fearing of loosing the other. We were fine for the next few months until I came back and slowing he has become more and more distant and emotionally unavailable and when I confronted him about this he says he's going through a difficult time at the moment (my aunt's husband move out of the home because she was too manipulative and likes playing the victim, and he's also got a mistress as well) and that he feels emotionally drained because of situation around the home. He doesn't tell me he loves me anymore and when I say it to him he tells me he knows. I don't know what to do. I love him and sometimes I'm sure he loves me, so am I seeing what I want to see?Please help!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell I ended it with him and he started chasing after me (typical) but I wasn't interested anymore, I had enough!
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reader, petina1 +, writes (28 November 2008):
 His aunt sounds very manipulative with him. Is he listening to her because she has some hold on him. At his age he should know his own mind. He doesnt seem to be making much effort to keep you, in fact you are doing the chasing. He sounds weak willed. All in all it doesnt feel too good on your part. I should try to move on or it could get messy and your feelings will be destroyed. hope this helps.
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