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I need some advice on how to move on from this obviously unhealthy relationship
Q. Hello All, After searching for hours on the internet, I found this site and decided to try to get some insight from others. I have been going through a year long break up (yes, that is correct, we have been breaking up for a year), but perhaps ...
A. 16 December 2008: Your story is of a similar one with my sister in law, her boyfriend has an alcohol problem. He is paranoid all the time, they always fall out when he's been drinking , or wants a drink. But he can be so good to her when hes that way out. I think ... (read in full...)
What can I do to curb my sexual desires?
Q. I was wondering is there anything I can do to curb my sexual desires? My boyfriend and I don't get intimate very often, in fact we go months without any sort of intimacy. I need to know if there's anything I can do to squash my sexual urges so that ...
A. 16 December 2008: Yes, there's a good solution, find another sexy boyfriend. You are only young and it could be a problem between you as you go on with him. So many couples part because of it, you may as well just be his friend because he certainly isnt acting like ... (read in full...)
I am pregnant and scared about giving birth... Is it true that during labour...?
Q. Hello =] I had quite an embarrasing question. I'm 7 months pregnant and I yes I am scared about giving birth (which is natural) but i have a more embarrasing problem. My fiance and mother are going to be in the room, and there is one thing I hav...
A. 16 December 2008: thats so true as well icelordess, I signed for 'no students' to be coming in when i was in labour, but I must say, there were loads, and we had a good laugh, they were all prodding me and feeling the bump, but they were lovely girls and to be honest ... (read in full...)
When will I stop feeling high and get normal again?
Q. hey, so on saturday i got high for my first time. i was at my friends house with a bunch of people. a while later i felt like i was going to pass out, but they told me its gonna be like that my first time. so then i went to sleep at my friends house ...
A. 16 December 2008: while ever you have to take a drug to feel 'high', you will never be normal. You will just be on the statistics of a 'waster' and a druggy. What kind of 'friends' encourage this anyway. Tablets are the start of it, then before long you'll be ... (read in full...)
I am pregnant and scared about giving birth... Is it true that during labour...?
Q. Hello =] I had quite an embarrasing question. I'm 7 months pregnant and I yes I am scared about giving birth (which is natural) but i have a more embarrasing problem. My fiance and mother are going to be in the room, and there is one thing I hav...
A. 16 December 2008: You will have an enema when you first arrive, its painless, and then you can have a shower. You will be laid on a disposable sheet and if there is any soiling at all it is quickly removed. Your boyfriend would be offered a place at the side of ... (read in full...)
All he wants to do is go out with friends and text other girls
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for a year now in the beggining when we meet i was not really interested in him because of our age difference he is 23 and i am 31 although i look alot younger than him he told me he did not care about the age ...
A. 16 December 2008: Let him go. The relationship has run it's course. He still isnt mature enough for you and wants to see other girls. It sounds like he has already been messing about behind your back and starting a new life without you. Don't let him straggle ... (read in full...)
How do I go about finding a date online?
Q. hi, i am lesbian but i live in muslim country and can't find any lesbian in my country. So i decided to find some one internet and start a online relation but after searching for so many days i can't find anyone. i wanted to ask you how can i find ...
A. 16 December 2008: sign on to a chat site and in there will be various groups of people to chat to. Yahoo chat is free, so register in that. They have a lesbian chat room there. sign into www.yahoo.com and there should be a link. You have to download the site, ... (read in full...)
He wont leave his girlfriend, I wont leave my husband, but we still love each other
Q. I have been married for 11 years with 3 kids. About 4 years ago i met this guy and it was like we were made to be together. It took him over a year to kiss me and 6 months later we made out and that has been all we have done for over 2 years we...
A. 16 December 2008: So he won't leave his girlfriend, you won't leave your husband. Theres been no sex yet. I think if the time comes when you take that next step, then the complications will come with it, they always do. Just be very careful, because if you husband ... (read in full...)
Would I be stealing him away?
Q. My friend has a girlfriend who goes to a different school, but I have a crush on him. We've been going to the same school for five years and been friends for two or three. We sit really close together, and he always offers to share his iPod in study ...
A. 15 December 2008: Alls fair in love and war, they say. If you think he likes you too, ask him how he is getting on with his g/f. If it's a favourable answer then forget it, but if he's faultering in his remarks, then you know there is a gap for you to move on in ... (read in full...)
This girl wants me on the rebound but I feel bad as her ex might be in love with her....
Q. This girl has broke up with her boyfriend , and i talk to her quite alot at school , we tend to flirt but thats what i do with every girl , for fun at school , now she wants to have a snog and do other stuff with ME !! , i dont mind doing it , but ...
A. 15 December 2008: When you are young its common to have a different b/f g/f every other week. Only take her on if you want to, for you, not worrying about the other guy, theyve split up, remember! good luck.... (read in full...)
I'm obsessed with my girlfriend, any self-help methods you can recommend?
Q. i am in a relationship with a very charming and beautiful woman who is my classmate in the university and also a ex-colleague in a modelling agency. she's bisexual, and i was straight before i met her.. it wasnt too difficult for us to get to...
A. 15 December 2008: I just think you are deeply in love. It's nice that she isnt trying to stop you from been attentative to her, some straight couples may find that rather flattering. If she isnt objecting then she probably likes it that way. Just mention it to her, ... (read in full...)
I'm missing him a lot but don't want to appear clingy, what do I do?
Q. Hi. I recently started dating a guy - we've been together for about 4 weeks but live really close to each other so have been seeing a lot of each other. I go to his and he makes me dinner and we spend whole days just visiting places and getting ...
A. 15 December 2008: Keep in touch by phone, ask when he's coming back to you and maybe you could make up for Christmas, make him a New Years dinner at your place to make up for missing him at Christmas. He may be flattered by that. Hopefully next year you may go with ... (read in full...)
I want him at any cost, what to do?
Q. I love a boy very much...I want him at any cost...he is my good friend,we have a very good time with each other but I want to have love relationships with him...both his and mine friend tease us by each other name...some of my friends say that he ...
A. 15 December 2008: There isnt a lot you can do unless it is annoying you and then you must tackle the people that are doing the annoying and ask them not to do that anymore as it bothers you. I'm afraid that it's the age group you are with, they can be quite silly ... (read in full...)
We barely talk or interact with each other as we are not allowed to date!!
Q. i still love my ex boyfriend so much. we got together because i was getting hints that he liked me and he admitted to my friends that he did like me and at the same time, i was falling for him. we were together for three weeks. everything was fine ...
A. 15 December 2008: His parents don't want him to see you and he is respecting their decision. Do you not know why they don't want him to see you. Maybe if you found out why, maybe you are both too young to date,etc. You may be able to cope better when you find out ... (read in full...)
Am I pregnant?
Q. I started the pill almost 3 weeks ago and I took it correctly (on the first day of my period) so that it was more effective and I've been taking it at the right time everyday. When I'd only been on it for 3 days or something me and my boyfriend of 8 ...
A. 15 December 2008: Firstly a home pregnancy test should be done, they are very acurate these days and in the early stages. Secondly, did you read the instructions of the pill, I think you arent supposed to have unprotected sex for the first 14 days of taking it.
I... (read in full...)
I want my driving instructor but he doesn't want to cross that line...
Q. I've been doing driving lesson for a few months .........the problem is I have started to like my instructor in more than just a friendly way. I told him this. He didn't exactly say - Oh no! We had a good chat about it. He is said he found me attr...
A. 15 December 2008: I'ts one of those scenarios where we put people on a pedestal, like a pupil who is lusting after a teacher or someone who thinks they are in love with their boss. Because whatever job or situation there's usually someone in control and I suppose ... (read in full...)
I like my friend's older brother! How to make him notice me?
Q. so there's this guy i like but i'm not exactly sure if he also likes me, he's really cool around me like he would always hug me n all that, me n him would always have the "eye contact" but then one of my girlfriends he's always joking around with ...
A. 15 December 2008: He may just be looking at you like a 'lil sister for the fact that he is 8 years your junior and you are his sisters friend. In saying that, nearly all my friends had a relationship with my bro' who took full advantage that they fancied him. These ... (read in full...)
Am I thinking too much? Or we are simply over?
Q. Hi all. We haven't meet each other after a fight 3 weeks ago. Few days after the fight, I called her, she said it is over. When we met online, she is there talking to me. It isn't as much as before but from her saying, am still her bf. 2 we...
A. 15 December 2008: sounds like she is talking with another guy online, y ou probably have picked up on this. She would be back in your arms already if you had any chance with her. She seems to have energy for the online games and not you so I would suggest she is ... (read in full...)
I have become close to a girl who is in a LDR, I have trouble letting go, any ideas?
Q. I have trouble letting go. I have become close friends with a girl in my class even though she is dating someone, but they are dating long distance for the first time and they haven't seen each other in 3 months (he doesnt treat how she should be ...
A. 15 December 2008: I'm sure the longer you see her you are filling a void in. I wouldnt give up as LDR tend not to last if there is someone else in the picture, which is y ou.
You will make it harder for her to resume the relationship with the other boyfriend beca... (read in full...)
Any tips for experimenting with sex?
Q. Hi, Any ideas and tips for experimenting in sex? - Anything to do with costume/roleplay? -New positions? -Any good lubes? -Toys? -Places to do it? Any answers to these or more would be great :) Ta xx ...
A. 15 December 2008: Sex is a two way thing. Everyone is different. Some people like certain things and others are a big turn off. The only advice I could give to you is to ask the person you are having sex with what they would like. Then you won't scare anyone off ... (read in full...)
Is this a foolish thing to do, appropriate, selfish or what?
Q. About August of last year I developed a crush on a friend in one of my classes. I've kept it quiet. January of this year she asked me if I liked her. I replied that I did. She informed me that she didn't feel the same way and wanted to continue ...
A. 15 December 2008: Youve already discussed this out in the open with her. She knows your feelings and still you are friends. It might scare her away if you start telling her again how you feel, she knows already from previous. If you really feel happier about ... (read in full...)
Isn't what he's done to me cheating?
Q. I'm writing because my head is so confused I don't know what is right or wrong any more. I've been with a guy now for 4 years living together and he's been fathering my 2 children, don't get me wrong he's a nice guy, good father to them but I've ...
A. 15 December 2008: hes been talking to all these women on line and on facebook and even his ex. Ok so he says theres been no sex. I wonder how far the line he would have carried on before an 'offer' came up. Then what? Would he retract to them what he's been ... (read in full...)
He stares at me does he like me?
Q. i like this guy in my coll.His friends use tease me with him and my guy use to get irritated but now days he smiles when they do so.And one of his friend told me that he changed a lot!But the problem here is he acts cool if he sees me.The other day ...
A. 15 December 2008: Well at first he's sounding like he is interested in you, I wonder why he doesnt reply to your text. Have you got his correct number, check that out with his mate? Is he really really shy?.. I would specifically ask his mate to pass a message on ... (read in full...)
I just broke up with my boyfriend and its hurting like hell.
Q. I just broke up with my boyfriend and its hurting like hell. I was the one who suggested we break up, I really didn't think he would agree. He says we won't get back together coz I'm self centered and wants things to go my way-which is true. I...
A. 15 December 2008: 2 months on the larger scale of things is nothing in a relationship. It takes years and years to fully understand your partner. He sounds like he has had enough of your games and you did him a favour by finishing it where he may have wanted to but ... (read in full...)
Her boyfriend doesn't know she has a baby. Should she tell him?
Q. Have a friend of mine, who has been dating a guy for the past one year. My friend has a baby but she is afraid to tell her boyfriend because it might ruin their relationship please give any suggestions to help....
A. 15 December 2008: Sooner or later the 'truth will out'. If she intends on any future with this guy then the sooner she gets this out in the open the better. She could say that she hasnt mentioned it before because she didnt think that they were going to be together ... (read in full...)
Is it appropiate for a guy who has a girlfriend to tell other girls he thinks they are cute?
Q. Is it appropiate for a guy who has a girlfriend to tell other girls he thinks they are cute and so on? It really hurts my feelings when my bf does this. I know it doesnt mean he is necessarily cheating on me, and in fact i dont think he is at a...
A. 15 December 2008: He is obviously young and acting immature as he doesnt take your feelings in to account. Sounds like he likes the attention these girls are giving him. I wonder what he would be like if it were the boys acting that way with you. If you are meant ... (read in full...)
If you swallow sperm, can you get pregnant?
Q. Hi, my question is really embarrassing and I know a lot of people will feel awkward answering it... but I have always wandered but I am to embarrassed to ask any one else... Ok so I'll cut to the chase... basically if cum (sperm) gets on or in any o...
A. 15 December 2008: No you can't get pregnant if you swallow sperm. What kind of sex education are you getting at school. This is not me being funny but wondering how on earth y ou would think this in the first place. It may help you to do some research about ... (read in full...)
I slept with my g/f's mom! Do I tell her?
Q. I have been with my girlfriend for quite a long time now. but only last week, i slept with her mum. i regret it completely, we were both drunk and my girlfriend was too drunk to notice that we'd gone up stairs. should i be honest with my girlfriend, ...
A. 14 December 2008: if you dont want to break up with y our g/f then you musnt tell her. You musnt ever be in her mothers company when you are drinking. Also let her mum know you are sorry, it wont happen again, you both don't want to hurt her daughter and hopefully ... (read in full...)
Is it normal to be 17 and not like sex?
Q. Im 17years old and im not in to sex yet i like snogging my bf and touching him in places i and like to top half but if he take his boxer off in front of me i would probably run my mate is all ways saying to me have you not had sex w...
A. 14 December 2008: I was the same at your age. I had lots of b/friends. Never wanted sex with them, they did nothing for me so i didnt want to. But after i'd met my partner (of 30 years now) I felt like it was so right and not afraid to walk about naked in front ... (read in full...)
Do men like short or tall girls?
Q. Do men like short girls or tall girls. I am 5 feet, but have gotOk figure, Breast: 36 waist 27 butts 36 fair complextion and long hair. But i feel inferiority complex due to my short height. ...
A. 14 December 2008: speaking as a petite girl (5ft). I'm very strong willed, ive never had trouble getting a guy. They initially think i need looking after 'till they get to know me of course'... Doesnt matter what size you are, if you have a good personality with it ... (read in full...)
What are some hot things to say while having sex?
Q. What are some hot things to say when your having sex that will get him really turned on?...
A. 14 December 2008: That is so funny 'shania'. lol!
And on another note tell him you would like him to watch while you make love to your best friend 'another female' of course.... (read in full...)
Should I wait to have sex until marriage?
Q. Ok so i want to have sex soon but of course i want to wait for marriage or at least until i'm 18. But if i do have sex soon it'll be with someone i trust and know. So do u think i should wait. Thanks your opinion is appreciated. By the way i'm very...
A. 14 December 2008: My mum used to say 'you can have sex with anyone, why him?'
But it really is true, there's loads of young people your age who see it as a hobby, next to computers and tv. Just sex, not love or commitment. So I would wait and not rush at all beca... (read in full...)
Childhood sweethearts...
Q. Two years ago I got divorced. We were married for 12 years. Before that I was in a long relationship with what was my childhood sweetheart. We started dating in our early teens and were together for 10 years. It all ended badly, we both went our ...
A. 14 December 2008: Try to think of the reasons why it ended badly before, are those reasons still around to haunt you both? She is still married, what is she playing at?
I would suggest you could keep chatting online until she decides what she wants to do with her ... (read in full...)
Ex back on the scene... does he want me back?
Q. I am so upset at the moment and have been for the past month after my ex-boyfriend came back into my life. He ended things 6 months ago, and after much effort on my part to make things work, I finally gave up and moved on. I met someone else and ...
A. 14 December 2008: He must have been at a lose end when he came back into your life, then left again. I personally wouldnt trust this situation. He hasnt treat you very well messing around with your head. Try to remember all the things why you split up in the ... (read in full...)
How do I make my teacher round my grade up?
Q. Hi everyone, I need your help My teacher gives me an B since I got 89.65%. I mean it's really close to an A, but he didn't round my grade up. What should I do? I sent emails to him three times to ask him, but he sounds he doesn't want to ...
A. 14 December 2008: Can't you get another independant teacher to look at it to see what grade they would give it, like a second opinion. I wonder if there's a place where you can 'appeal' against the teachers decision. You must look into it if you gueniunely feel ... (read in full...)
I feel stupid!
Q. Me and my boyfriend broke up and right after we broke up on wednesday we talked like 10 seconds later then after that 15 minutes later and then we talked Thursday, Friday, and Saturday about the break up. Well it's more like me questioning him about ...
A. 14 December 2008: Yes sounds like he is confused. Maybe his mum has seen another side to him at home, the real him being himself and hurt and confused and that's why she's said he can't date until he's a bit older.
It is very young to be having a full blown rela... (read in full...)
How can I stop losing respect for myself and becoming their worst enemy?
Q. Ok Im in search of honest answers for my problem. Basically, Im 25 years old and Im single. My last serious relatonship ended when I was 21. I was with the guy for 3 and a half years and I split with him cos I no longer loved him. I have not ...
A. 14 December 2008: Well I think that you are a very strong person and very intelligent. You have analized your behaviour very well indeed. This is what I'm picking up on. For one, you have been on antidepressants for a long time. When you first go on them, ... (read in full...)
Is he playing head games?
Q. ok there is this guy ive been seeing for 5 months now. well all of a sudden he is having second thought about us he said hes scared im too nice go figure and that hes worried because i have kids and he dont well first off hes 7 years younger then me ...
A. 14 December 2008: Makes me wonder what else he is doing when he's not seeing you. Some men don't want the responsibilty of other peoples kids either. I would be wary of him, I think if you keep pursuing him he could hurt you. He sounds like he cannot say what he ... (read in full...)
Online dating: should I message again?
Q. I'm trying an online dating site. If anyone has any experience with this, I would appreciate your insight. I really don't care if women read my messages and don't reply but sometimes I message prospects and my message is never read nor is my p...
A. 14 December 2008: Sorry to sound 'fickle' but you must try and put a picture of yourself on the profile bit, because that alongside gender and age is very important when online dating. You will get more responses if you do this.
I know loads of people who 'onl... (read in full...)
Do you think he's interested in getting back together?
Q. there's this guy, ive dated him a few times over the past two years, but we had othre things to concentate on (work/college/he's in a band) we've remained friends, not very close ones though, yet he's always been there fro me if i had a problem ...
A. 14 December 2008: Could be one of two things. One is that he sees you as a good friend and would like you to see how he's doing, and how he's operating in the band. Two is that maybe he would like to get back with you. I would suggest you go with an open mind, you ... (read in full...)
Should I try and trust my brother again?
Q. My brother (he's 19 and im 15) put me and in fotser care a 5 months ago after our parents went to jail. He couldn't take me in because moved in with his girlfriend (also 19) and he rather not be responsible for a immature winey brats he actullay ...
A. 14 December 2008: Speaking as a foster carer, i know families are very very important. Your brother at 19 wasnt ready to commit to you at that time. I would give it another go,but don't forget to play your part correctly. Treat him with respect and try not to fall ... (read in full...)
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