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writes: Girls keep leaving hints, sometimes I get them sometimes I don't. Of course I don't really mind when it comes to little things, but when it comes to huge emotional issues it seems to come out at an unexpected moment. Unexpected as in "how was I ever supposed to have known that?".This is just a general question though. Do you as women expect the men in your lives to somehow figure things without explicitly saying to them? If so to what extent and what kind of things does it cover? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2008): I don't really know entirely well, but I found this funny example on the net:A man and woman are on a long drive together...Woman: "Would you like to stop for a drink?"Man: "No"To the woman, her question was the opening of a conversation about whether they should stop for a break and, if so, where should they stop and what they should do to satisfy both their wants.To the man, it is a simple interrogative. He's not thirsty, so he answers with the simple "No".Thus, the woman ends up thinking "He doesn't care about my needs" while the man thinks "What am I supposed to do, read her mind? If she wants to stop for a break, she should say so!"
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reader, petina1  +, writes (27 November 2008):
 Long term relationships where the communication is good brings best results. I've heard of couples been psychic this way, each knowing what the other is thinking. Flipping in and out of short term relationships will not open the pathways to the female mind. The word sensitive comes to mind as women can be more sensitive than men. (well in some cases). Hope this helps.
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reader, MissUnique +, writes (27 November 2008):
 I don't. But I know lots of women that do. If a guy started doing that to me I would be freaked out and unsure of a lot of things. How on earth are you supposed to figure out the situation when all they do is leave little hints here and there? I'd just prefer it if they told me outright.Although sometimes I guess you just expect people close to you to know your every thought and feeling.You can guess but you can never entirely know. But I'm not exactly your typical woman when it comes down to it. I'm in the army, a girly girl and when I leave the army eventually I want to be an interior designer. No idea why I'm saying this to everybody :)The only advice I can give you on all of this is never bring up this fact in an argument like Boredatwork said. Just take a guess in the dark and cross your fingers while hoping you're right. Actually don't. It may make things worse.
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reader, Reebe +, writes (27 November 2008):
 You mean you can't? ha only joking!
I suppose every woman thinks that her man "should just know" but men are guilty of this too!
Of course the only way to know what is on someones mind is to ask them.
Although sometimes women think that dropping huge hints might work, but it doesn't you have to actually tell them!
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2008): Yes, In a sense, I guess we do! We want our guys to know us well enough to know what we think or want! But of course that's not possible. It is unfair to you guys, and disappointing to us.
And that is why I keep saying...COMMUNICATION IS THE FOUNDATION OF ALL HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS!! None of us are mindreaders. We must open-up and let our partners know what we are thinking, hoping, wanting, wishing and feeling!! That goes both ways too! Men find it even more difficult to open-up, especially when it comes to feelings!
It's easier if you begin your relationships that way, and with practice, it will become natural!
And it is okay for you to ask questions, the more questions you ask, the more answers you will get!
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reader, Boredatwork +, writes (27 November 2008):
 Unfortunatly yes... Annoying isint it ;)
But heres the trick... Never mention it in an argument it will only make the situation worse.
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