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Did he dump me?
Q. I have been dating with this guy for 3 years.He recently lives in Lisbon for getting an Portuguese residence.He used to call me and we talked on the phone every week.I live in Madrid since we dont see each other alot,i knew that he doesnt have a ...
A. 6 December 2008: It is a poor excuse that his number didnt work. It is so easy to phone someone from most countries now, there are other ways and if he needed to do this he would have found a way. Sounds like he is messing you about and you need to do something ... (read in full...)
My ex is cheating on the mother of his baby with me and says he wants me back.
Q. Alright me and my ex boyfriend who broke up 2 yrs ago,we are still in contact.I am still sleeping with him,and Have been for 4 months now.He has told me he still loves me and wants me back.But the had a baby with his exgirlfriend 2 weeks ago.I am so ...
A. 6 December 2008: To be blunt, he is using you and probably for sex. If his girlfriend has been pregnant recently she may not have felt like sex so he's turned to you. He is having his cake and eating it. You must tell him not to come around unless he has finished ... (read in full...)
Is he trying to make me jealous?
Q. Hi there, really hoping someone can help me.. I've liked this guy for a good few years now and although we've grown close and I've become one of his best friends he's never wanted to be anything more. Last year he found out that I liked him and told...
A. 6 December 2008: I was going to say that he is treating you like a friend, but after reading the last bit where he is staring at you when he hugs her, that sounds like he is trying to make you jealous. When he tries to tell you about his relationship with her be ... (read in full...)
I've fallen in love with my singing teacher, but shes married and alot older then me.
Q. I'm 16 and quite a shy boy, I always have been and have a very close knit group of friends. I also attend singing lessons and have done for close to 5 years now, and over the years I've built a strong friendship with my teacher who is female bu...
A. 6 December 2008: Be strong and resist these feelings. I know I won't make much sense to you at the moment but you are of an age where hormones are running high. I'ts something that a lot of young men go through at your time of life where they fall in love with an ... (read in full...)
Can any Irish Men help my understand the male mind and how they think?
Q. how does a girls stop being rejcted ? why sme guys only ask out cerain girls and not others? why are guys so shallow and mean ? why do some guys never get rejected by girl they like.but when a girl likes guy she gets rejcted how is that? wh...
A. 6 December 2008: Guys are guys the world over, Irish, British,American, Spanish, Indian, whatever the nationality. And so are women. We are all individuals. The guy that's let you down is the one thats hurt you and only him. I'ts all a matter of personalities and ... (read in full...)
My husband told his ex he only stays with me for our child, I don't know what to do...
Q. Okay I read my husbands messenger conversations, and well he told his ex that he was no longer attracted to me and the only reason he wont leave me is because of 2 year old. I confronted him and he told me that he was just being a jerk and it was ...
A. 6 December 2008: You've caught him red handed havent you. Tell him to go to back to her and he can see the 2 year old at weekends. There! Problem solved. hope this helps.... (read in full...)
My husband doesn't seem to like sex, or even masturbation?
Q. My husband is a 36 year old male who has a low sex drive. We have been married for 3 and a half years and he very rarely initiates sex (usually after I have nagged him about it). He is very affectionate and loving, yet that does not seem to ...
A. 6 December 2008: I've heard of this situation before, if it is worrying you to the point it is affecting your relationship big time and y our husband is agreeing with this and worried about it, a trip to the doctors will sort it out. The fact that he's travelling a ... (read in full...)
How long will the "limerence" last this time??
Q. At first glance this may seem like many of the other 'internet crush'-related questions, but I promise I actually do have a point, so please bear with me for a moment. I've already seen a lot of the answers to these types of questions so I'd like to ...
A. 6 December 2008: It is in a different league is internet friendships/relationships etc. I have spoken to someone on line for over 10 years now and it is just another aspect of my life and I can relate to y ou how it cheers you up and makes your day. I don't know ... (read in full...)
Fashion question...
Q. Is it ok to wear a red satin dress with some simple blue suede heels?...
A. 6 December 2008: you could add a blue belt and bag, and blue hair accessory to even it out, maybe a couple of blue/red bangles. hope this helps.... (read in full...)
I feel awkward since I caught him masturbating - how will this affect us?
Q. Yesterday I caught my boyfriend masturbating. I know its normal and im not "jealous" like some people on here have been. I just think that its something that should be kept private (i know some people like to share it, its a matter of person...
A. 6 December 2008: Just try to laugh it off. You could say something like, 'hey give me a shout next time, if you want a hand'. He's only doing what comes naturally. I have to agree with 'Friend Tom'. The guy thought he had some privacy. Don't let it spoil your ... (read in full...)
He told me he didn’t fancy me anymore but how could this happen?
Q. About 9 months ago my friend told me that he was attracted to me and I admitted that I had feelings for the guy too but we decided to just stay friends. One night, a few months later, he came over to mine and we had a cuddle and ‘dry humped’ and he ...
A. 6 December 2008: He is displaying all the signs of he doesnt want to take it any further with you. I wonder why he thinks you are a bunny boiler. He sounds like he is not interested now, so why would you want to keep at it, is this in your nature and you havent ... (read in full...)
He gives me mixed messages but we are just friends! How do I know if he wants more?
Q. Hi I am so confused. How do I know if a guy wants more than just freindship? Myself and this guy are very close, we do a lot of things together as freinds. I have known him a few years now. I am very reserved on my feelings, always have been...
A. 6 December 2008: Youve been friends for years, maybe he is thinking just as you are, doesnt want to risk spoiling what you have by going a step further. If you are as close as you say you are, be brave and talk to him about how youre feelings are getting stronger, ... (read in full...)
What are some ways to boost my sex drive?
Q. What are some ways to boost my sex drive? I've heard certain foods or herbal supplements can help. I'm on birth control; i've heard this can lower the sex drive? Has anyone else had the same experience? Also due to work and school I'm always ...
A. 6 December 2008: Taking a holiday is a good way to re charge your batteries. Sounds like you already realize most of the probs, 'birth control', school and work'. There is a herbal remedy called 'Maca' which has very good properties in for the sexual health side of ... (read in full...)
He put his hand down my blouse and touched my breasts.
Q. Hi, I need some help I'm so confused. Myself and my best guy friend (Jack) have been flirting ever since we met 3 months ago, and I know you might think it's weird that he is my best friend after three months but as soon as we met we clicked! He ...
A. 5 December 2008: The best kinds of relationships can start with being friends first and you two certainly are friends. I'd just be a bit careful that you don't lose the friendship because he is curious to feel your breasts. He needs to respect you or you could ... (read in full...)
Rejection all the time...
Q. I don't like guys any more because they always reject me and it's really unfair. I am shy, quiet, nervous around guys, I have a weight problem, I'm short, not goodlooking just plain with a fat face. I have so much bad luck with them I don't want ...
A. 5 December 2008: your self esteem is low and i understand, rejection is hard for anyone to take. You need to work on your self esteem. Take up excersise, healthy eating regime,if you can afford to go to the gym then do this or swim a lot of lengths a couple of ... (read in full...)
33 and never had an orgasm!
Q. I am in need of knowing what I am doing wrong here. I have never had an orgasm and for some reason when he is rubbing the "spot" it tickles like hell. I want to but I guess I cant. I'm 33 years old and never had one, that's crazy, that's with having ...
A. 5 December 2008: I don't know if yu have been with the same partner all these years,sometimes it takes a long time if you can't relax fully with the person you are with. Inhibitions about things that have happened in the past,maybe sexually related could put a ... (read in full...)
Semen in the eye? How is it treated???
Q. Everytime me and my girlfriend are having sex, and she has an orgasm, she pushes me off or tells me to get off after she is done with her orgasm, it just makes me feel unwanted. At least she ends up giving me oral or I have to finish myself, the ...
A. 5 December 2008: When she's telling yu to get off , shes only giving her self time to take in and enjoy the experience, so thats normal. If her eye stings with it, rinse out with warm water. It probably hurt when you tried again because you didnt stimulate her ... (read in full...)
I want a baby, but I don't know what my parents would say!
Q. hi the thing is im 18 my boyfriend is 21 i have been with him for 3years and i really want a baby with him i understand the responsibility issue and not just the cute baby side. me and him would but we're both worried about what my mum and dad would ...
A. 5 December 2008: have you made your nest as such to prepare for a baby. I'ts always best to have a home and enough security and income to live on and pay your bills. What kind of setting would your baby be born into. If you are living at home with none of this ... (read in full...)
How soon after having treatment for Chlamydia is it OK to have safe sex?
Q. I had chalamydia last year i had treatment and so did my partner. But i have it again. I had treatment yesterday and so did my partner. Is it possible that the treatment didn't work last time? And how soon after having treatment is it ok to have ...
A. 5 December 2008: Also before you finish with him altogether he needs to inform all the girls he has been with because now they all have it. STD's can stop you having babies in the future if they are left untreated. Next time you start a relationship it is always ... (read in full...)
My partner's child stays with us at weekends which is very stressful for me!
Q. I have been with my partner for 2 and half years, we live together with my 12 year old daughter. He has a 6 year old son from previous relationship who stays with us at weekends. Lately each weekend is becoming stressful and my partner is trying to ...
A. 5 December 2008: Plan some activities for the weekend. The children will look forward to them and I've found that if children are involved doing something with their time then that is where their behaviour can be modified. If children are bored then behaviours can ... (read in full...)
You won't believe this..
Q. Okay, you are not going to believe this, but.. My gran works for a very rich man, and she is very friendly with him. I used to help out my gran, and so me and this gentlemen both new each other. This was around 7 years ago, so when I was 10-11...
A. 5 December 2008: Sounds a bit dodgy to me. If you really can't resist the urge to go round and see him, take someone with you. Do not be in his company on your own. Your gut feeling is telling you that things arent right and only you know your own mind. Tread ... (read in full...)
I'm scared it all ends in tears again...
Q. hi, Please can someone help me, I'm a mess! When I was 19 I met a girl and we got on so well like best friends everything, was good. 2 years on we had a kid got married, after being together 4 years we started to argue a lot, mainly me being ru...
A. 5 December 2008: It's still early days from the last relationship she had. She is on the rebound, you could be an easy target for her feelings at the moment. Why don't you take it really really slowly. Have a day out with her and your child and enjoy some time ... (read in full...)
I just want him to love me for me, not just use me for sex or try to make me the person he wants me to be.
Q. I have been with my bf for just over a year, I love him so much, I nearly died a few months back and since then things haven't been right, he won't open up to me or talk to me. But now I have an STI and I think he has been cheating, he tells me he ...
A. 5 December 2008: If you have an STI you have contracted it from someone, is it him? Has he been treated also, because if he hasnt then it will keep coming back at you as he will still be carrying it. If you still want him and don't trust him , firstly he must be ... (read in full...)
How can I show him how much he means to me and not go over the top?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together for just over a year things havent really gone well, my dad died and we have had some problems. mainly because of me being very depressed and moody. he was going to leave but we decided to try again. how can i ...
A. 5 December 2008: Some men arent very good in communicating or understanding how a female mind works. If youve just recently lost your dad and have been a bit moody, that is so understandable. Have you a close female adult you can talk to, to get some of your ... (read in full...)
Close guy friends have told me men feel intimidated and assume I'm taken. Any suggestions?
Q. Ok, so I'm not super model material but I've been told by people that I am an attractive person, my problem? Men just don't seem to talk to me and I'm shy when it comes to meeting new people. Close guy friends have told me its because men are ...
A. 5 December 2008: I two was a 'catch' when I was a bit younger. When men got to know me I was suprised because they were suprised about how easy it was for them to talk to me. On first impressions one even told me he avoided me because he thought i was a snob. If ... (read in full...)
He wants to marry me next year but I'm concerned about the ex...
Q. my problem is my boyfriends ex.i have been with him nearly a yr he has a 3yr old daughter with is his ex. and has his little girl twice a week the problem i got is im never allowed to go with him to take her home i have asked him loads of times why ...
A. 5 December 2008: My friends ex used to turn up with his new girlfriend when he came to pick the girls up to take them off. She told me that she hated it and really did feel like he was rubbing it in her face. Their situation may be different from yours as her ex ... (read in full...)
Ex boyfriend declared his love then went travelling, how to cope with the months we are apart?
Q. My ex went travelling 5 days ago, he will be gone for 6 months, before he went we met up a few times, made peace and decided we both want each other back. The balls were already in motion for his trip, it was just bad timing. The thing is, I cant ...
A. 5 December 2008: It will do you both good to really think about what you want while you do have this time apart. If he's travelling he will be engrossed in his new adventure. I should just wait and see how often he contacts you because if he is as serious as you ... (read in full...)
I used to avoid his parents who don't like me but now we're invited over for X-mas, any advice?
Q. my problem might seem a bit silly. i lived at my boyfriends parents house for about 5months but i would always avoid his parents, i wouldnt talk to them and wouldnt come out of his bedroom until they went out. i have had some problems with his dad, ...
A. 5 December 2008: my sons girlfriend who moved in 2 1/2 years ago was just like you. She used to stay in their bedroom most of the time, a bit shy I thought. Now tho' she has settled and treated this place like her own home, I can tell because she dumps her coat ... (read in full...)
How do I let her know that I'm diggin' her as way more than a friend?
Q. I've known my best chick friend for 8 yrs now (since sophomore year in college) and I'm completely in love with her! I've never had much luck with the ladies (didn't even start dating til sophomore year of college) but this is one lady I want that ...
A. 4 December 2008: find out if she likes you that way first before you propose wont you. what I'm trying to say is take one step at a time. Have you thought of asking her out on a proper date. Eight years is a long time and so maybe she could already know how you ... (read in full...)
Sometimes when we're just getting freaky, I tend to lose my erection!
Q. Ok I don't know if this is a problem, I'm 22 and I'm a horn dog. I get easily turned on, but if I'm not having sex and we're just getting freaky before we do anything, I tend to lose my erection, could this be because sometimes I get a little ...
A. 4 December 2008: You know what they say 'practise makes perfect'.. Don't worry too much, the more you think about it the more you will create a problem. Just enjoy what you have. Try doing other things while this is happening and I'm sure you'll be okay. hope ... (read in full...)
I have never found true love, but why can't a nice man find me?!!
Q. I feel quite "depressed" I have never found true love even at my age. I was married young and it lasted a few years but I loved him and in hindsight not sure if he ever did love me and I have had dates and male friends - bu-rt do you know no one ...
A. 4 December 2008: I would try to just enjoy what you do have. Being in love is not the be all and end all of y our life and it's not wasted. True , you may never find true love. I often wonder how many married people are in 'true love', I'll bet theres loads. A ... (read in full...)
I'm stuck in a world where I have two hearts... I need help.
Q. This is the story this is how it all starts there me and to guys one called frank and the other called alec their both very nice ppl and very good looking and kind and sweet and just down to earth ppl one 19 and the other 18 a...
A. 4 December 2008: you could just 'date', don't get into anything serious while you make up your mind. It can be perfectly normal for people of your age to like a few all at the same time. It's when you take it one step further that complicates it so you need to be ... (read in full...)
Is this bend normal or caused by masturbation?
Q. im22yrs boy.. i do masturbation dially when i take bath.. now my penis size is 15cm. but it was lightly bending .. is it normal for all boys..or because of masturbation it happens bend...?...
A. 4 December 2008: You men come in all shapes and sizes. I've known men with bent ones. Don't worry about it everyone is different, even us women down there. have fun. hope this helps.... (read in full...)
Does it sound like my boyfriend is still in love with his ex?
Q. Me n my bf have been going out for nearly three months and one of his past ex's did some horrible things to him when he eas with her. Earlier today he was out with her and did not tell me till about an hour ago. She cheated on him 5 times and dump...
A. 4 December 2008: sounds like he's not over her yet. And what was he doing out with her earlier. I should ask her if he is seeing her if he doesnt want to tell you the truth. You need to get to the bottom of it before you get hurt. hope this helps.... (read in full...)
Is my masturbation an addiction or a phase I'm going through?
Q. What`s up guys. I`ve got a question that im really concerned about. Here it goes: myself im 18years old and ive never had sex with a girl and don`t have a girlfriend. So to satisfy my sex appetite, i am used to masturbating a lot. Sometimes i can ...
A. 4 December 2008: I't s perfectly normal so don't worry about it at all.... (read in full...)
When a guy is checking out big boob porn, what is he thinking of his small chested GF?
Q. When a guy is watching a porno with big breasted women, what is he thinking in that moment if his girlfriend has small boobs? What about afterwards? When they are watching, do they wish they could squeeze, lick and just play with big breasts? Do ...
A. 4 December 2008: My man looks at big boobed women also. Lets face it, most of them are fake. my partner said said that he wouldnt like to have a girlfriend with fake boobs for fear of them 'popping', which I thought was funny. It's actually in mens nature to look ... (read in full...)
Whats wrong with our relationship?
Q. Hey guys I think my relationship is failing and I really need some advice on how to fix it. We have been dating 15 months now and it has been great, After about 12 months things just started to get repetitive...We can barely text each other now we ...
A. 4 December 2008: You should really think about the drinking. If she is concerned about it then it could be something that could get out of hand in the future. It's a well known fact that alcohol reduces the sperm count, so that could also be a factor in your sex ... (read in full...)
How do I tell my Dad I'm scared that the guy who takes care of Grandpa wants to attack me?
Q. There's a guy who takes care of my grandpa, and one day when we were visiting my grandpa I was alone in the room with my grandpa and the guy and when I got up to leave the dude was like NO DON'T GO NOW!! in a very very creepy whiny voice. I got ...
A. 4 December 2008: Let your dad know that the guy over there scares you and please don't leave him on your own at any time while he is there. If your dad takes it too lightly then you will have to tell your mum again and stress to them that you are serious. If all ... (read in full...)
Is this just an excuse in case he backs out of the divorce before it's final?
Q. My BF of a few months thinks I'm being jealous and moody. His divorce will be final in 2 months, no kids. I get upset because I bring him everywhere with me, invite him everywhere and introduce him and he never does. He thinks its too soon and is ...
A. 4 December 2008: He's obviously not broken all ties from her to say he's getting divorced. i could understand if there were children in the relationship. There's no real valid reason as to why he should be in this kind of contact and not admit he is seeing someone ... (read in full...)
I just can't figure women out!
Q. Hi, I need some views here about a lovely woman I met a few weeks back. We had a few good dates and got along perfectly and shared some common interests and backgrounds. The last time I saw her, she introduced me to a friend of hers and we went on ...
A. 4 December 2008: She had a short holiday and then went cold on you. She may have met someone else. It is best in some circumstances and nice to take things slowly in relationships and in todays climate where everyone rushes into everything. Maybe she wanted you ... (read in full...)
Now that we're older, how do we formalise dating?
Q. Hey - little bit confused, someone help. When we were younger, going out with someone was formalised by saying "will you go out with me?" It was simple and you knew exactly where you stood. Now that we're older, how do we formalise dating? ...
A. 4 December 2008: Usually a kiss forms the first bond doesnt it? Ask him if he'd like to go out on a night for a drink and see how the land lies from there. Sometimes having a drink makes you feel more relaxed and able to open up more. hope this helps.... (read in full...)
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