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What movie can win her heart?
Q. I was want to make a special night for a girl I know. She is into acting, and loves movies. Her favorite genre is Romance, and her fantasy is to live a scene from a romance movie. I absolutely don't know what her favorite romance movie, nor would ...
A. 11 December 2008: Casablanca,,, Ingrid Bergman and Humphrey Bogart... what a classic.
'Out of all the gin joints in the world, why did you have to walk into mine'' mmm... (read in full...)
I love bad boys! WHY??
Q. Hi! - What is it about "bad lads" that some of us girls cannot resist? I am with a guy who only calls me now and then, expects me to pay for everything when we do meet up, moans alot and also has a criminal record! The fact is I LOVE HIM!! - I...
A. 11 December 2008: Bad boys do seem to be more fun than boring good boys. They love with passion, make you laugh, live life on the edge etc. Then there comes a time when children come along, and you can find yourself alone, cos bad boys don't usually take their ... (read in full...)
I want to break up not sure how to do it
Q. I'd appreciate any input about my situation.... I've been with the father of my child for about 4 and a half years... we've had rough times and good times.. we break up to make up.. he's made his mistake and I've made some too... only this time ...
A. 11 December 2008: You are holding a grudge and it is putting a damper on your relationship with him, you can't forget his mis givings and they will interefere with your life with him. Ask yourself 'is the grass, greener on the other side? or is it worth thrashing ... (read in full...)
In love with my best friend, engaged to my baby's father.
Q. Very long, sorry. I've been in a "relationship" with my boyfriend for 5 years. On and off. Whenever we would break up, it was always him telling me he didn't want to be with me. In vain, I always managed to get him to come back. But for him, it ...
A. 11 December 2008: Firstly you must follow your heart. Your sons dad will always be a dad to him, you must encourage this and never put obstacles in his way. You don't have to marry anyone if you don't want. If you already feel this way you must be open and tell ... (read in full...)
Am I just wasting my time messing with her heart or should I pursue this just to see if something good will come out of it?
Q. Recently I was told by a nice gal that she likes me and that she has been thinking of me but the problem is that I have only known her for a little time and I don't know if I feel anything or even the same thing for her at all. I was recently dumped ...
A. 11 December 2008: You are young enough to test the water with different girls. You could go out on a night out and see how you feel about her. No one is expecting a wedding just yet. Never Ever listen to your mates, at the end of the day you have to be the one ... (read in full...)
Can anybody tell me if there is any way possible to workout a relationship with someone with a drug problem?
Q. Can anybody tell me if there is any way possible to workout a relationship with someone with a drug problem? I've known this peron for over 30 years and always stayed in touch as good friends. He's had a drug problem as long as I could remember but ...
A. 11 December 2008: I wouldnt count on a relationship with him. Drug addicts only love their drugs first and foremost. You've already experienced the lying. His family are not there for him. Any money you may have or earn will be used to fund his habit. The best ... (read in full...)
What else can I say during phone sex? And how do I know when I cum?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 3 years, 4 years in June. The fact is, he and I met over the internet and that is how our relationship started. We talk on the phone every day, and sleep on the phone together every night. We've never met, but ...
A. 11 December 2008: let us know how long the relationship lasts after you have met him in person. You may suprise yourself. good luck... (read in full...)
I want to have a long sit down talk with her and air out the past and our diffences, good or bad idea?
Q. Me and my son's mother have been apart for 2 years, we both have not been with anyone in that time, it was a messy breakup but a necessary one, I've changed 180 degrees in this time, and she has come a long way also, but still carries resentment of ...
A. 11 December 2008: when I divorced my husband, the father of our 4 year old child at the time, it took us nine years of 'talking our differences out', He played an active part in our sons life all those years, we both took him off at weekends etc. What I'm trying to ... (read in full...)
Have I already blown my chance with her?
Q. Hello everyone,Im a guy of 23 and got chatting to a really great girl who is 18 via a dating site and we hit it off straight away. To keep this as short as possible. We met up and went on a couple of really fantastic dates and i felt we real...
A. 9 December 2008: I would not bother her again. She is not treating y ou properly, for one she could have the curtesy to reply to your text. She is ignoring you for a reason, prob trying to sus out her ex and then if she can't you are there for back up. I'm sorry, ... (read in full...)
What to get my 22-year-old girlfriend for Christmas?
Q. christmas is coming, and i can't think of what to get my girlfriend. we have been dating for fifteen months, we are 22 years old, and we live together. i have done a great job with gifts in the past, for last christmas, valentine's day,...
A. 9 December 2008: I'll bet if you buy her a ring she will be over the moon. Young women like rings. Or if you feel threatened by this, buy her a gold chain for her neck with a locket on so she can keep a photo of you there. hope this helps.... (read in full...)
My girlfriend acts snobbishly since she got the leading role in the school play!
Q. My girlfriend (of a year) got in the school play and got the lead. Don't get wrong me I'm really happy for her and she did work really hard for it. But she's acting like a total snob (thats just a nice way to put it) ever since she got the part. ...
A. 9 December 2008: Just support her, it's only because she is so proud. I wonder how many hopefuls tried but your girlfriend got it. She is right up there on cloud nine. Don't burst her bubble. Just keep telling her how proud you are of her and if she needs any ... (read in full...)
Thick, pasty discharge and swollen vagina - I'm doing a pap smear, should I be worried?
Q. I don't know what's wrong with my genitals! I have an extremely thick, pasty discharge, also my vagina is incredibly swollen! I have had swabs done many times, everytimes they come back clear except for BV and thursh and everytime I get treat...
A. 9 December 2008: Could be your underwear, cotton is best, not nylon. Don't use soap to wash down there with and dont use bath salts, bubble bath etc. Radox is worst. If you can stand smearing 'live yoghurt' on yourself that is the best thing to treat thrush. ... (read in full...)
Have I already blown my chance with her?
Q. Hello everyone,Im a guy of 23 and got chatting to a really great girl who is 18 via a dating site and we hit it off straight away. To keep this as short as possible. We met up and went on a couple of really fantastic dates and i felt we real...
A. 7 December 2008: Im sorry but this sounds like her ex is probably making contact in the inbetween times she is dealing with you. Its only been a short time since they split. She has unfinished business by the sounds of it. Let her sort her life out and then make ... (read in full...)
Do people believe in Soul Mates?
Q. Hey, I was wondering how many people believe in soul mates? I really think I've found mine... Here's why: - We seem to say exactly the same things at the same time and it could be something really random compared to what we were just talking abo...
A. 7 December 2008: I believe in mind over matter and if you have an open mind together then thoughts can be passed to and from each other. It sounds nice this new relationship. I think soul mates can be called that when people have been together a long long time and ... (read in full...)
Should I go on the pill? I don't know whether it is right for me...
Q. Me and my boyfriends have currently been going out for 6 months, we first had sex about 2 months ago (both virgins) and i really do love him. I made the mistake of telling my mum that we'd had sex and she said that condoms werent safe and i'd need...
A. 7 December 2008: Condoms are safe if used properly. The pill would make you feel more secure in case sex happens when least expecting it. It's good that you have spoken to your mum about it, thats nice when you can be open like that with her. There are many types ... (read in full...)
I have no sex life with my husband because he's always tired, what to do?
Q. Im feeling really down in my marriage. I have no sex life with my husband because he's always tired and i have lost the intimacy that i used to have with him, how do i get that back? i dont know if i still love him? I want to feel the way i did ...
A. 7 December 2008: I've known my partner for over 30 years, whenever i feel like this i book a cheap B&B away to the coast. We have a walk along the beach on our own and we talk. This always helps to be out of the situation at home and just the two of us. I don't ... (read in full...)
I would welcome more fun in my life, what should I do?
Q. Hey, well here is the thing. My life is so boring! All of my friends have things going on like relationships/hook ups, my brother is going to uni my best mate has a really beautiful girl after him and i have nothing like that at all. Every day is ...
A. 7 December 2008: Check out whats going on in your area for your age. Football clubs, teams etc. Have you a local sports centre you can go to? Is there anything going on at school after school time. Have a word with your parents or a favourite teacher and tell them ... (read in full...)
How to prove I will never lie or cheat again as I found real love with her?
Q. hello, im having a problem with my girlfriend and its all my fault, since a year now that we started this relationship,i ve cheated on her and lied without knowing the reason why i did all this to her, though i lied because i dont want to lose her, ...
A. 7 December 2008: Its like we don't know what we had until we lost it and it's a classic case. You were always alright with your lifestyle, cheating etc. As long as your lady friend didnt find out and you may have gone on doing this for a long time. Now ... (read in full...)
Am I reading too much into the vibes I get from her?
Q. Hi Dear Cupid readers. I've got a problem! Hence why I'm here!! I've got this huge attraction to another woman... I'd even go so far as to say I'm in love with her. I want to tell her because this is killing me. Problem is, I don't know how she...
A. 7 December 2008: Does she know that you are a lesbian? If so you couldl maybe drop a gentle hint like saying 'If you were a lesbian we would make a great partnership?',, Like make a joke out of it and see what she replies. Maybe you could get a hint from this. ... (read in full...)
Even though we used protection could I still be pregant??
Q. I had sex with my boyfriend about 3 weeks ago and we used a condom. My period has come on time, but it is realy light. I'm paranoid and worried i might be pregnant as i have put on weight as well. We used contraception but could i still be ...
A. 6 December 2008: Condoms if used correctly are 99.9% safe. A period would suggest that you are not. But to feel 100% safe in your mind, go to the chemist and buy a pregnancy test, they tell you straight away if you are or not and you don't need to be going on ... (read in full...)
Is he just biding his time with me?
Q. My boyfriend and I live together. Sometimes I think he talks to other women or isn't as interested in me as he says he is. He gets distant and I feel so uncomfortable. Some days he is so loving and other days he gets distant. Is he just biding his ...
A. 6 December 2008: If you live together you will know about his movements. Are you saying he cant 'talk' to women, can he only talk to men. Or is he talking to women like as being in a threat to you. The best time to answer some of your concerns is when he is in a ... (read in full...)
Can she get pregnant if I ejaculate on her vulva?
Q. I've been having sex with my girlfriend just recently. 98% of the time i have wore a condom. but me and my girlfriend prefer to not use them. is there a chance she can get pregnant if i ejaculate on the outside of her virgina. (on her virgina, not ...
A. 6 December 2008: yes, any contact at all near her genitals,even on her underwear there is a risk can enter her. You both need to re think the condom thing or you could end up being parents. hope this helps.... (read in full...)
What song should I do for my audition and do you have any tips?
Q. well, this is one of those questions that isnt really a relationship question.. but i do need help. well anyways.. in a few weeks, i plan to audition for our school musical. im only in jr high, ninth grade.. and this is my first year being invol...
A. 6 December 2008: 'consider yourself'... from Oliver. All the songs in Oliver are classics.... (read in full...)
After 3 years I still just want to talk to her... any advice?
Q. hey my peeps! Listen to my soppy story and see if you have any advice for me. Well im turning 19 in July.. This is my first year out of school. When i was in Grade 11 me and this other girl named "J" started talking through texts and calls. she had ...
A. 6 December 2008: I can see from her point of view it must be hard to trust you now. You just left the country without telling her you were going. Don't you have a phone at your place, or at the airport, or where you went to. That, in anyones eyes would be no ... (read in full...)
How should I initiate things regarding sex?
Q. My boyfriend's taking me out to dinner tonight and I want us to have our first time (we're both virgins). we've talked about it before and agreed to if we're in the right mood and lately if he says one thing dirty I get wet.. and I've always wanted ...
A. 6 December 2008: Well its inevitable that it's going to happen. I'ts all about the place and timing, so you need quiet time together and the scene set after your dinner. You could just relax and cuddle and kiss and I'm sure nature will take over. Enjoy! hope this ... (read in full...)
What else can I say during phone sex? And how do I know when I cum?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 3 years, 4 years in June. The fact is, he and I met over the internet and that is how our relationship started. We talk on the phone every day, and sleep on the phone together every night. We've never met, but ...
A. 6 December 2008: You will know when you do. You should try to get out of this situation now and find a 'real life' person because then you will be able to move on with youre life. I think you are in a rut to be behaving in this way with a guy you don't really know ... (read in full...)
Goths, Emo's, Chavs, what's the point of all this labeling?
Q. Hey, Okay, basically, people like to label people, but why do they take it so far? Goths: They are supposed to be depressed, they wear black, and people don't like them because they are either different or they think that because they wear bla...
A. 6 December 2008: If we all dressed the same, yes it would be boring, but someone out there would find some group to be in, like 'the brown eyed, group, or the blue eyed group'. Must be human nature , certain groups stick together, like lions, and tigers. I think ... (read in full...)
Goths, Emo's, Chavs, what's the point of all this labeling?
Q. Hey, Okay, basically, people like to label people, but why do they take it so far? Goths: They are supposed to be depressed, they wear black, and people don't like them because they are either different or they think that because they wear bla...
A. 6 December 2008: If we all dressed the same, yes it would be boring, but someone out there would find some group to be in, like 'the brown eyed, group, or the blue eyed group'. Must be human nature , certain groups stick together, like lions, and tigers. I think ... (read in full...)
Why is she getting excited over fireman if she hasn't lost interest in me?
Q. My girlfriend and I have been going through a tough time for the past month, we do not live together but been a couple for 14 months now. She works 2 jobs and we do not get to see each other very often, and it is now starting some friction, when we ...
A. 6 December 2008: You sound a bit jealous and paranoid about 'celebrities and firemen'. They are the unreachable people so nothing to worry about, thats how the celebraties make their money by the millions showing an interest in what they are up to and the fantastic ... (read in full...)
Why has he changed so rapidly?
Q. Well, i met this guy through a friend and we started getting along. he was very shy when we used to meet up. one day we started talking about experiences and he said he doesnt make the first move and i sed the same then after i could see he wanted ...
A. 6 December 2008: How did his mates find out about something that you did? This seems to be the point where he has got angry. You both are so young and he sounds like he has been embarrassed to death. It's a tricky time to be at in the dating game when ... (read in full...)
A big misunderstanding?
Q. was at my first works party getting along with everyone and settling in quite well. at the end of the night when there was a small group of us left one of the guys at work came on to me quite strongly he tried to kiss me kept trying to feel me ...
A. 6 December 2008: Office parties are always tricky. No doubt you will be the talk of the office when you do return. It may be that most people were drunk anyway and not taken much notice or seeing it at a big deal like this other guy has. The other guy may have ... (read in full...)
I'm scared I'm going to mess things up if I tell him I like him.
Q. Well for a while I've been hanging out with a friend (who I've liked for a while now...) he's been coming over for a while and we've been having a good time. A couple weeks ago something happened, and we ended up making out. It...was to say the ...
A. 6 December 2008: Making out, always complicates things if one person doesnt know what it entails. He sounds like he has been experimenting on you and is out of his depth. Because when people are in a relationship there is responsibilites and making out with some ... (read in full...)
Can I really get married with these doubts?
Q. I have been with my fiance for four years now and am due to get married in 6 months. I always thought that she was the one for me, but now I am not so sure. My previous relationship of two years (and first love) ended when we both moved away to di...
A. 6 December 2008: I would try to find time to really analyze the situation. Ask yourself and 'remember' why you ever split up in the first place, the reasons, try to remember the feelings you had and how you felt when she went away, try to remember the bad times if ... (read in full...)
I think I love my teacher! But I don't even think he's good-looking!!
Q. i have been feeling like this for about 2 months now, so i know its not a 5 minute fling or whatever. but i think i have feelings for my english teacher! i get so excited for my english lessons and i must admit i do show of quite alot, just for him ...
A. 6 December 2008: It is extremely common for a young girls to fall in love with their teacher. But, it is a no go area. For one, he could lose his job. Teachers and pupils don't mix, he could end up in prison if you are under age for a start. You don't want that ... (read in full...)
Does he really like me but is too shy to admit it?
Q. I am in love with an older guy who I think likes me back (I'm not sure, but he flirts with me a lot; we're good friends at the moment). Anyway, I'm coming home for Christmas and he and I are planning on getting together. He's been joking with me a ...
A. 6 December 2008: Any kind of flirting is a good sign. I wonder what kind of stuff he's going to pour over you. Sounds fun. Have a nice Christmas on your 'date'. good luck. hope this helps.... (read in full...)
We've been dating for three months, how can I tell if he's ready to commit?
Q. This close guy-friend of mine and I have dating/friends with benefits for about three months, but neither one of us has been seeing anyone else since we've started seeing each other. Lately he's been occassionally using words like "not-quite-boyfr...
A. 6 December 2008: Sounds like he is ready to take the next step but is scared in case it offends you. He is certainly dropping hints to suggest this. At least he isnt like some guys who just go for it on the first date. If you are ready to commit it may be you who ... (read in full...)
Why am I the exception?
Q. Shes 23, I'm 18. She has a boyfriend who is 24. About a year ago, we started talking as friends. A few months later I found her calling me every day. We've been talking non stop every day for the past year, without missing a day. Texting is a p...
A. 6 December 2008: You are a nice part of her life. You are filling a need which her current boyfriend isnt. Once you over step the line by taking it a step further then the whole scenario of what you have will change and it could spoil it or at least make her know ... (read in full...)
Should I wait until I don't need my braces to ask her out?
Q. i have no confidence due to my braces but im in love with this girl. should i wait until i get my confidence back in 4 month or ask her out now?...
A. 6 December 2008: Mention it to her that once y ou get your braces off you will ask her out on a date. You never know, she may say 'why wait till then', if she likes you anyway. Good luck.... (read in full...)
29, never kissed and I'm scared at the thought, too!
Q. i am 29 yaers old and i never ever kissed a guy in whole life nevr even once i don,t know ow and partly scared of it too.how do people french kiss ...
A. 6 December 2008: When you meet the man yu are going to kiss, just enjoy the experience and follow his lead. Everyone kisses different to suit the person they are with, there is no set way, it all comes softly and naturally. Good Luck. Hope this helps.... (read in full...)
How do I make sure he's not playing me?
Q. Hi everyone, I am 22yr old and have just come out of a 3yr relationship. My first love and sex experiance. He ended it with me and i was devastated. Its been a month now i feel better in myself and i seem to be getting interest fron men. One in...
A. 6 December 2008: He hasnt met the right one yet by the sounds of it. Does he do his dating on line? There is always another woman round the next corner if he does. The two main things you should worry about initially is,,is he in a relationship now while he is ... (read in full...)
Did he dump me?
Q. I have been dating with this guy for 3 years.He recently lives in Lisbon for getting an Portuguese residence.He used to call me and we talked on the phone every week.I live in Madrid since we dont see each other alot,i knew that he doesnt have a ...
A. 6 December 2008: It is a poor excuse that his number didnt work. It is so easy to phone someone from most countries now, there are other ways and if he needed to do this he would have found a way. Sounds like he is messing you about and you need to do something ... (read in full...)
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