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writes:Hi i'm maried 31 years, we met 2 women in out local a few years ago and became friends as I thought. It seems now that my husband has been texting one of them for a while (shes a widow) and last month I caught him in her house, he said they are only friends and he calls up to her house every 4 weeks for something to eat and a few beers, he says there is always someone else there. This woman and her friend I thought were my fiends as well but I can't understand why they never told me about their Friday meetings. I find now that I don't believe anything he says and I pass by this ladys house every Friday night to see if he's there. He said he would not call up to her house he would meet them in a pub in future. He is not prepared to end the friendship even thought I asked him to. We go out every weekend ourselves with our other friends but I feel hes making a fool of me. Can you advise
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reader, 48years  +, writes (29 November 2008):
 Married 31 years? Has he cheated before? I am wary of new, single, older female friends...I know too many of them who are desperate for a man-any man-
Yes, honey, I think someone's after your husband. Speaking to him won't work-they all deny everything (wouldn't you?)...Catching him there with his pants down is the way to go. He's the one who is the fool.
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reader, Gypsii  +, writes (28 November 2008):
He's cheating on you with her. Hold him accountable and then ditch her because she's not your friend. Don't be a door mat and don't be anybody's fool.
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reader, petina1  +, writes (27 November 2008):
 Thats not right him going there for a few beers, you are her friend also,why werent you invited, why didnt he mention it. Sounds dodgy to me. Keep your eye on them in future if you are gonna stick around. You've heard of 'merry widows' hope this helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2008): If he is having an affair, he's not likely to admit to it.
Maybe it's all innocent, maybe not. The best thing I could suggest is to invite her to your place every other month, starting next Friday, and when it's your turn, go to her place 'for a bite to eat and a few beers'.
I think you'll know by either his reaction to the suggestion, or their body language whether there's anything going on between them. Keep on passing by her house to check in the meantime though!
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2008): The fact he didn't tell you is not right. A woman who is friends with a couple invites BOTH people over - not just the man. I think she is lonely he is playing to that. I think you have cause for suspiscion so do not be afraid to get tough over this. He should be caring enough NOT to be upsetting you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2008): Quite simply YES, speak to him and get to the TRUTH before it eats you up, don't let anyone make a fool of you even your husband.
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