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writes:Well here it goes again my 3rd question in 5 days guess I needed more help then I though or I just think way to much either way here it goes.My b/f who just turned 18 and I had been dating 3 months everthing was going great I loved him he loved me we were a match made in heaven as most people would say " they are so cute together I wish I had a relaship like that". After 3 months I went away to be a exchange student to Thailand. He NOT we decided we would stay together while I was gone. I was gone to be gone for a Year but I hate it so much here I get to come home 5 months early. Anyway the only reson I didnt want us to stay together is I felt like I was going to hold him bac so I left the desition up to him. when I first got here this were going great Ii mean between me and him not me and the country lol. We talked everyday just about and I would call everyother week adn on the off weeks he would call. we would write letters to each other even if we talked everyday that week. well recently we havent been calling each other Im guilty of it to. Emails stoped coming and so did the letters now we talk for 1 hour basically every other day over msn. Should I be worried he is cheating on me? I asked him what was up he just said I have been really busy latly. i would get a little frustrated but then he would say somthing so completely cute I couldn't stay made at him. ia he just saying what I want to hear? Is there a possiblity he wont be mine when I get home. Or Im I just being parinoed. Trust me I am one to over react so if I am just say so plz.Thanks for your help. Oh and plz nothing hurtful with the holidays here and his 18th birthday just passing I'm not one to take any kind of jokes that are mean thanks again!
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reader, pepper27  +, writes (28 November 2008):
 Hi Sweetpea
Oh hunny its so hard to leave behind the one you love, And the first few months of a relationship is the most special..I understand just how you feel hunny....
You talk a lot on m.s.n this is good sweetheart, But all this worry will get you nowhere I'll tell you a story..I have a friend who is married and she has gone back to uni and her husband is still here and so many people said to her "how can you leave him? How can you trust him? Well she said if he is going to do something then I cannot stop this from happening and I'm not putting my education on hold any longer because I want a family so what will be will be"
She had a little talk with me and said "you no hunny it matters not what people say if he is going to do something behind my back then he could do it while I was here as well as when I'm away and I trust him. If anything was to happen then he has lost the best thing to ever come into his life and with that she was gone...Hunny your worry's and fears are understandable but at the same time you are worrying when you should be enjoying this wonderful experience and if he leaves you (hopefully not sweety) but if he did then he is the one who will have lost a beautiful young woman who cares very much for him....Think of yourself and don't worry so much hunny life is for living, And I'm so envious of your wonderful trip, HAVE A LOVELY TIME WITH LOVE N HUGS MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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reader, petina1 +, writes (28 November 2008):
 The important thing here is that you are still keeping the lines of communication open. Simply tell him about your concerns. Sometimes it's actually easier to talk on the msn so ask him on there. It can be difficult for anyone having a long distance relationship. Can't you read between the lines when you are communication and the words used to be able to see how he feels as well. But you need to be blunt and ask the questions you have in your mind that you have written on here. You can't always judge peoples emotions by the written word. Can you not get a web cam set up so you can see his face, and his yours when you are speaking via internet. Good Luck. Hope this helps.
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