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*ickiloveselvis
writes:this is going to sound really crazy but its really getting me down! ive been with my bf for 6 months and never had any probs with him. the other day we were outside our flats when a boy and girl walked past. he was fiddling for his keys and i saw him look up and down the road in their direction. me being totally paranoid thought the worst and that he was looking at the girl. a couple of days later i asked him and he went mad said i was a loon and started having a go saying cant i even look up the road without being accused of something etc. he told me on the phone he wasnt looking at her and also said to me so just cos he was looking in their general direction it means he was looking does it. i do believe him cos ive never known him to lie about anything hes a very honest person but no matter how many time he tells me he didnt do it and however many times i tell myself that i just physically cannot forget it. help! Reply to this Question
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reader, Tigerlily  +, writes (28 November 2008):
Okay... say for devil's advocate sake he was looking at this girl. What is it about that that is getting you so down? What do you imagine? That one glance at another female and he is madly in love with her and has totally forgotten about you? And this strange woman on the street is just going to go run off with him and fall into his arms? Does that sound reasonable, or likely?
Can you honestly say that you have never seen a good looking guy the entire six months and just... looked? and went "wow cute" in your head and then forgot all about him 10 seconds later? You've NEVER eyed up Brad Pitt in a magazine? Sure you have. We all do it. It's totally harmless.
He glanced at a girl for second, and you have been looking at her for days. It's time to let it go. Think about all the wonderful times you've had together. Make a list. Focus on that.
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reader, petina1 +, writes (27 November 2008):
 its a natural phenomina,men look at women, whether they are fat, thin, blonde or brunette, they cant help it. They do it without even thinking. It doesnt mean anything. I keep saying to my husband if he glances at women while he's driving 'RIGHT, IM GOING BLONDE'. for a laugh. hope this helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2008): I totally agree with the other two here. You're working yourself into a lather over nothing. Keep going on like this and you'll end up lonely. No guy is going to put up with this sort of paranoid behaviour for too long.
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