Is she done or just needing time?
Q. After a magical 4 yr relationship my ex dumped me just before Christmas. We had a rough year of fighting bc her ex took the kids away and there was a lot of stress and court appts. I was stressed bc I started a new job. She talked about marrying me ...
A. 2 January 2014: There's really no telling if it's too late or not. It just depends on if she's emotionally over you or not.
If there were problems in the relationship, why did you refuse counseling in the first place? Why only make changes now, after you lost... (read in full...)
Is she done or just needing time?
Q. After a magical 4 yr relationship my ex dumped me just before Christmas. We had a rough year of fighting bc her ex took the kids away and there was a lot of stress and court appts. I was stressed bc I started a new job. She talked about marrying me ...
A. 2 January 2014: I'm afraid to say it sounds like she's done. it sounds like her feelings for you have changed. She said no to the proposal because she isn't feeling the same and didn't want to commit to you unless her feelings returned. She realized her feelings ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend will not take down sports illustrated calendar that his mom bought him!
Q. This question is really weighing me down. This Christmas, my boyfriend of about a years mother bought him a sports illustrated swimsuit calendar. Now, before you roll your eyes and dub me insecure, know that my irritation and issue with this has ...
A. 31 December 2013: You say that that is not how you would decorate your living space. Thing is, this isn't your living space. It's his and his his mothers.
To an extent, I can understand where your dislike comes from my gf (I'm gay) had a pic up of a half naked gu... (read in full...)
I'm afraid I'll lose my b/f of 4 years if he finds out I cheated on him
Q. I have been in a relationship with a guy for 4yrs and I'm afraid that I will lose him if he ever finds that i have slept with another guy who have know for about 3days.what can I do to prevent this from happening...
A. 31 December 2013: Why did you do it if you are so worried about losing him? People seem to forget that their actions have consequences. You don't get to have your cake and eat it, too.
You need to tell him. What you did is already done and irreversible. Let him ... (read in full...)
Was he serious or was it the booze talking?
Q. Hello agony aunts and uncles, Ok so I was out the other night with a friends and her boyfriend in the same bar as this guy we went to school with years ago. We never chatted in school but knew of each other. Anyways he was really drunk and it took ...
A. 31 December 2013: He was definitely drunk. He had no idea what he was saying. ... (read in full...)
He feels our relationship is not healthy.
Q. Dear Cupid, I am 28 years old and my boyfriend is 27. We have been together for almost a year now. Everything was great and he always treats me like a queen. But recently, we started to fight over stupid little things. Due to that, he has tri...
A. 30 December 2013: i think he is being very sincere with you. i think he is communicating with you that he cannot and will not have a relationship with a person who he argues with.
i know for me, personally, i could not be with a person who i fought with frequent... (read in full...)
I feel my privacy is being invaded!
Q. I've been having an issue lately concerning those around me and my private life. For starters many of my friends this year have gotten married, are in committed relationships, and have kids. Since this has come to the attention of my mother and ...
A. 30 December 2013: this shit is common at your age. just ignore it. all of your married friends with children right now will be coming to you in the next five years, craving the freedom you have and telling you how jealous they are of you. they will kill to trade in ... (read in full...)
Finally reaching my breaking point in my relationship
Q. Hey everyone, I have reached my breaking point in my relationship. My boyfriend and I have been together almost a year in February. Here lately we have been fighting non stop! Today we have fought since last night! I am so tired of fighting but I ...
A. 30 December 2013: you say "when we're not fighting, we get along perfect." then you proceed to say that you argue at the very LEAST every two days. so realistically, what you're saying, is that you're arguing constantly, and there really is hardly any time that ... (read in full...)
Is it ok to have an affair when your single?
Q. Is it OK to have an affair with someone when I am single? I don't know the girls boyfriend but I know they have been together for over 3 years. She has been really coming on to me recently and I know something could happen if I initiate it. ...
A. 30 December 2013: do you believe in karma, my friend?
enough said.
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Blocked from facebook after first meeting!
Q. The other night, I went to a bar with some friends. It's a bar where we go quite often. There is this guy who I always see there as well. He usually look at me a lot but never talk to me. It's been going on for about a year. I never really was ...
A. 30 December 2013: i agree with honeypie completely. he most likely has a girlfriend and is hiding you from her. he's eliminating all future evidence in an effort to never get caught for cheating.... (read in full...)
I am too attatched and clingy!
Q. I have a problem and I'm really hoping someone else has gone through this and can help me. I feel as if I'm too attached and clingy to my boyfriend. Not to like an obsessive point, but more like I'm with him as much as I can be, I drop everything ...
A. 29 December 2013: healthy relationships flourish from space, independence, respect, trust, and freedom. and both parties must be healthy independently of each other, in order to be healthy together. make sense?
have you ever heard that saying that you must fir... (read in full...)
I would like to know where my boyfriend is during the day, and night, 24/7.
Q. Hi all, I would like to know if its too much for me to ask my bf about his whereabouts. By asking about his whereabouts I mean just asking him his plans for the day and what he'd be doing, not the crazy gf sort of asking every hour. Personally I ...
A. 29 December 2013: my gf and i let each other know what we are up to and where we wind up going, for the most part, throughout the day. for example, she will let me know when she makes it to work or if she goes out with her friends. i do the same. but there's also ... (read in full...)
He promised to spend New Year's Eve with him but cancelled to be with his friend. Should I stick it out or move on?
Q. I've dated my boyfriend for a year and out of the blue the past January he broke up with me. He became easily influenced by his mates as they broke up with their gfs and were single and he was the only one attached at the time. We spend New Year's ...
A. 28 December 2013: Why can't he spend it with BOTH of you? And to be truthful, new years is something that if I had to choose, I would he with my partner every time. It's just one of those times.
He's proven to you time and time again that when push comes to shove... (read in full...)
My husband had an affair but the woman would not leave him alone.
Q. Please help. My hubby had an affair with this girl about 2 years ago and we resolved the issue. But now th ex refuses to let go. She calls my husband's phn daily, sometimes with different numbers, even up to more than 10 times each day and says sh ...
A. 28 December 2013: Restraining order.... (read in full...)
I cant stop thinking about my neighbour...do I have a chance with her?
Q. Ok so lately I can't stop thinking about my neighbour. Her and her fiancé have lived next door to me and my parents for 2 years and I hit it off with both of them Immediately! They were nothing like the previous neighbours who were much old...
A. 27 December 2013: I'm afraid I think she's just being friendly. She may just have a really outgoing, bubbly personality that you are mistaking for flirtatious.
Besides, she has a fiance. Imagine if she was your girl. Would you appreciate it if some time guy came... (read in full...)
Why is he keeping me in his life?
Q. Merry Xmas to you all, and thank u in advance for reading this. I don't know if my situation is rectifiable or not, so if anybody can help me sort this one I will be truly grateful and if I'm being honest kind of surprised! I know there doesn't so...
A. 27 December 2013: Well first off, yes, you have cheated. It's called emotionally cheating. just because you didn't physically sleep with another man, doesn't mean you weren't cheating. What you did was pretty low. And most certainly cheating in my book.
Movin... (read in full...)
Where is the passion?
Q. I appreciate any/all answers immensely because I'm feeling very lost. I have been dating a man for nearly 3 years now (I'm 22 years old) and he is a great individual..he is kind, affectionate, understanding, loving, intelligent, supportive, has a gr...
A. 27 December 2013: It sounds as if this man is just not "the one" for you. He may be a nice guy and have many great qualities, but that doesn't make him your soul mate.
When you know, you just know. You've probably heard people say that before. but it's the true... (read in full...)
How do I tell him without hurting him? I like my own space and some time to be alone.
Q. Hey guys just have a short and simple question for everyone here... i just want a different opinion and hopefully it will help me sort things out in my head... I have been with this guy for around 7 months and yesterday his family came round fo...
A. 24 December 2013: Hi there.
I COMPLETELY understand where you’re coming from. I’m like you. I need space to myself sometimes. And as much as I can love someone to death, sometimes I just need a night to myself to unwind, relax and be alone. It’s rejuvena... (read in full...)
Why do girls seem to prefer, and date, the guys who are cocky, arrogant, stubborn jock types?
Q. Why oh why do girls prefer the cocky, arrogant, stubborn jock types? Is it because they assume their children together will be born with a lightning bolt in their hands? Girls have done pretty skewed ways of finding guys thinking that they are bett...
A. 24 December 2013: Women don’t prefer jerks. What they prefer is confident, independent men. And those are universally attractive traits. Meaning, it isn’t just women who are attracted to those traits. Men are attracted to women like this, as well.
Having confiden... (read in full...)
Do others have weird turn ons like mine?
Q. This is a strange question but is it weird that I get turned on by guitar solos? Or really anyone who knows how to play guitar very well..And also do you have any weird turn ons that will make me feel a bit more normal about mine? lol....
A. 23 December 2013: That's why I learned to play the guitar. Lol. That's completely normal. ... (read in full...)
It bothers me we do nothing together .....
Q. Hey everyone, So my boyfriend and I have been having some major issues. we've been fighting a lot! The major thing is we never do anything. this is our routine every day during the week. He works 11pm -7am and I work 11:30am-5:30pm. he gets off...
A. 22 December 2013: I would be bored as hell, too. I don't blame you. Maybe just try to express it one more time, that you really need to get out more and do things with him for the relationship to work. And then ask him one or two more times to do something with you. ... (read in full...)
Did I overreact over his drunk texts?
Q. My boyfriend went out drinking yesterday. We had some disagreement two days ago. He first texted me if I was having a bad week back then, which I told him I did before. So I just simply replied "yes". He then texted me "I hope your week gets b...
A. 22 December 2013: I agree. "Kid?" Who says that to their boyfriend or girlfriend?
Either way, I think you have insecurities in this relationship that caused this incident to blow up into more. If you felt comfortable in the relationship, you wouldn't have made suc... (read in full...)
Its make or break time for our relationship.
Q. i need help desperatley!! my 2 yr relationship is on rocks.....2 kids involved 1 is his. constantli arguing, he starts them, i get blamed. his attitude has changed, so has mine because of all the crap im getting. the kids get it to. my 5yr old is b...
A. 22 December 2013: Yeah the youngest one won't even remember him and the five year old will bounce back just fine. Young kids are resilient. ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend storms out because I wasnt in the mood for sex
Q. My bf basically stormed out of my apartment because i wouldnt have sex with him. We've been together for 6 years. Some nights neither of us feel like it (bith tired from work etc) or even he doesnt. No big deal. He kept going on and on about how ...
A. 22 December 2013: Wow, you're dating a 30+ huge baby. He's throwing tantrums like that over sex? My God.
Let him be pissed. In fact, what would really be good is if you just changed the lock and your number. That ought to teach his whiny ass a lesson.
You don... (read in full...)
My fiancee is being abused by her mother
Q. Well, I recently found out that my fiancee is being emotionally and verbally abused by her mother. I looked up under section 6 felony. But does this mean that my fiancee mom go to jail or get a warning etc? But this is crazy how my fiancee's mom is ...
A. 22 December 2013: What the hell is this post? And these weird ass updates. ... (read in full...)
Am I being mean or is she trying to use me?
Q. I know lots of you guys can give me insight because we all in some way felt there was a person who wanted to use us in some way. I appreciate all advice. Okay so my girlfriend and I have been dating a good month or two. We hardly spend any time ...
A. 22 December 2013: As a lesbian myself, I feel completely justified in saying that most lesbians are f*cking crazy. I've dated so many losers just like you describe. And that's what they are - losers.
I'm a very courteous and respectful person, so I'm appalled... (read in full...)
Its make or break time for our relationship.
Q. i need help desperatley!! my 2 yr relationship is on rocks.....2 kids involved 1 is his. constantli arguing, he starts them, i get blamed. his attitude has changed, so has mine because of all the crap im getting. the kids get it to. my 5yr old is b...
A. 22 December 2013: Wow, such a healthy relationship you have. Sorry for the sarcasm.
You say your relationship is on the rocks. The reality is that it needs to be dead. My God.
The man you describe sounds like a complete nightmare. He tells a one month old to... (read in full...)
I wanted to celebrate, but he got drunk and fell asleep!
Q. It was mine and my boyfriend's second anniversary today ( the anniversary of our relationship, we aren't married ). He has Bipolar Disorder, and he sometimes drinks a lot. I was upset this morning , as I hadn't had a message from him saying happy ...
A. 22 December 2013: well first of all, it really only depends on you and how you feel. if you feel hurt, you have every right to feel that way. and it's only natural to feel let down. after all, you feel neglected and forgotten. i can't blame you for that.
if it... (read in full...)
My girlfriend told me she doesn't like girls anymore then broke up with me
Q. My gf of 6yr recently up n told me she doesnt like girls anymore but she loves me. I asked how is that possible and she said it faded. So we ended up breaking up and getting bk together and she started acting distant from me. I came home fromwrk ...
A. 22 December 2013: as a gay woman, myself, i feel your pain. i've dealt with quite a handful of women who dabbled in the gay dating world for a while with me. but they never would have ever settled down and been happy with a woman. i suppose it was just for fun until ... (read in full...)
His ex wife wants him back!
Q. Well hello I really need some help... I been with my boyfriend for about 6 months now and he has two kids with his ex wife... Things have been great with us and he has been there for me through everything... I love his children too... The day w...
A. 22 December 2013: unfortunately you already ARE second best to her. he made that clear when he said that he's going to leave you for her come the beginning of january as long as she still wants to. he's only hanging on to you in case she changes her mind. you are his ... (read in full...)
We have a secret friendship.
Q. A long time ago I briefly met a guy at the end of a festival. He lives on the other side of the country. We exchanged numbers and ended up talking online for almost a year. We both were in relationships when we met and I still am though he is single ...
A. 22 December 2013: i suggest you cut contact with him and stop being shady with your boyfriend. not cool.... (read in full...)
I promised my girlfriend to never kiss or do anything sexual with her or masturbate, any comments?
Q. I have no idea what to do or dont do. I made a few promises to my girlfriend and two of them are to never do anything sexual to her (including kissing) and never masterbate. Since my girlfriend thinks sex is gross and painful, I respected her ...
A. 22 December 2013: wait a minute here .. let me get this straight. your girlfriend says she doesn't want to kiss or have sex, EVER? not even on your wedding day? and you're not to masturbate either?? i'm sorry, but WTF? this is really too much. no body can handle ... (read in full...)
Should I ask my boyfriend about his ex?
Q. I'm in a kind of confusing situation. When my boyfriend and I first started dating I know he was still talking to his ex girlfriend all of the time and at that time I thought he maybe still had feelings for her, despite him saying he didn't. ...
A. 19 December 2013: I still talk to a handful of my exes and they are purely platonic friendships. However, that's not always the case in every situation.
How long was he with her? How long had they been split up prior to you two getting together?
I think those... (read in full...)
Does my wife want me back just because she knows I was seeing someone else?
Q. I have been with my wife tens years and married five . She recently left me for about the third time 6 months ago. We have an 8 year old daughter who is not biologically mine but i have raised her and love her as mine. Each time we break up wife ...
A. 19 December 2013: Wow that was all confusing lol. Well my answer still remains the same. your ex doesn't seem very pleasant. ... (read in full...)
He wants to go "no contact" after our breakup but the pain is unbearable for me
Q. hello, I need some advise. I am in the in the mids of breaking up with my bf with whom I am with for 4 years. Is there anyone there who could help me lessen the pain a bit? I have read everywhere that the no contact rule should be applied but I do...
A. 18 December 2013: Wow, you're a very strong woman. Good for you for standing your ground!
You've got the right attitude. And soon you will feel so much better. You've already started getting there in just a handful of days.
Good luck! ... (read in full...)
I feel so used -- he dropped me as soon as we slept together
Q. Hello, I understand this is probably a trivial and common question, but it is really getting me down as this has never happened to me before. I met this guy and we got talking, we had a in depth conversation and he was really sweet. We changed ...
A. 18 December 2013: Man, most guys will at least humor you and make it less obvious and blatant. But he just flat out slept with you and then blocked you. Sheesh. What a douchebag.
I'm sorry this happened to you. All you can do is chalk it up to a lesson learned.... (read in full...)
Does my wife want me back just because she knows I was seeing someone else?
Q. I have been with my wife tens years and married five . She recently left me for about the third time 6 months ago. We have an 8 year old daughter who is not biologically mine but i have raised her and love her as mine. Each time we break up wife ...
A. 18 December 2013: what everyone has failed to notice is that you are not a man. you are a woman. this being said, you unfortunately have no rights to your daughter. this is the horseshit of being in gay relationships. not being recognized under the law is painful and ... (read in full...)
When are you ready to settle down? How do you know?
Q. How do you know when you're ready to settle down? I want someone to come home to every night, to be there for my son and I, but I still look at all these attractive men and think wow. I have so many options. I'm seeing a sweet, kind, amazing man who ...
A. 18 December 2013: i swear to you the saying is so incredibly true: "when you know, you just know."
i never understood that. but it's real. when you meet that "one," it makes you realize why everyone else didn't work. it's just different.
good luck.... (read in full...)
How can I look at things differently, so that I don't think all my relationships are doomed?
Q. So aunts and uncles, I need some pointers here! I am about to go on a date soon with a friend of 6 years. He has been with me through the ups and downs of my bad relationships in the past. So obviously we have gotten close. He's such a sweet, ca...
A. 17 December 2013: I know a lot about BPD. And to be honest, you're making it sound much more simple than it really is. If only it were just as simple as letting it go.
You can't just decide one day to get over your abandonment issues and that be the end of it. If i... (read in full...)
Is it ever a good idea to get back together with an ex?
Q. Do any of you think it's ever a good idea to get back with an ex? I broke up with my ex in February (after we had been together for a year) and starting in June we had about 6 months of no contact. (fyi, he's 29 and i'm 23) Neither one of u...
A. 17 December 2013: you mentioned three reasons why you broke up with him:
1. you were insecure about his past relationships.
2. he didn't like travelling as much as you.
3. he said hurtful things you couldn't let go of.
i will break these three things do... (read in full...)
Even though I'd never do anything about it, is this attraction wrong?
Q. I am in high school and I play football. Since it is a high school football team, we have players from 9th grade to 12th grade. I am friends with a lot of the players in all grades. The problem is that I am beginning to be attracted to one...
A. 17 December 2013: Well you may be bi-sexual. Or you may be straight and just attracted to this one particular guy. Or you may in fact be gay and just discovering it.
I figured out I was gay when I was 18, myself. I always thought I was completely straight but ever... (read in full...)
Why does this get to me so much?
Q. I'm worried and don't know who to turn to for help. I am in love with a lovely, caring sensitive man. I think the world of him, he is everything I dreamed of yet there are these insistent doubts. I have suffered many abusive relationships, survived...
A. 17 December 2013: I once dated a woman almost like you described, but you definitely have it worse.
My ex would come behind me and straighten out everything I touched. And I'm a very considerate person, always trying to be respectful of others, so it really m... (read in full...)
He wants to go "no contact" after our breakup but the pain is unbearable for me
Q. hello, I need some advise. I am in the in the mids of breaking up with my bf with whom I am with for 4 years. Is there anyone there who could help me lessen the pain a bit? I have read everywhere that the no contact rule should be applied but I do...
A. 15 December 2013: Is this arranged marriage the reason you two split? I've experienced this somewhat before. My gf was from Saudi Arabia living in the US and her mother constantly tried to arrange marriages for her. She finally stood up to her mother and told her she ... (read in full...)
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