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writes:My bf basically stormed out of my apartment because i wouldnt have sex with him. We've been together for 6 years. Some nights neither of us feel like it (bith tired from work etc) or even he doesnt. No big deal. He kept going on and on about how tired he was too. I guess i just didnt feel in the mood, i dont know really but he stormed out aaying i was rejecting him. Ive troed to intiate things and i always get shut down. I understand his ego might have been hurt a bit but its not that this is the first time and the fact he stormed out, didnt say goodbye and left my front door opwn really annoys me. He is in his mid 30s. So, knowing him, it will take about 3 days for him to contact me. Do i contact him? I kept telling him not to go home etc but still went. ( On a side note, the fact we've been together six yeara and still dont live together, no sign of getting engaged and not seeing each other a lot is really getting old. Its been playing on my mind a lot lately).
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (22 December 2013):
 You do NOT contact him.
I doubt it was his ego and even if it were, so what? Is rejection or disappointment somehow more pleasant for you than for him?
This relationship has seen better days. His childish behaviour, his sullenness and the fact that after 6 years you're going nowhere are good reasons to end it and walk away for good.
Don't contact him. Ever. If he contacts you just tell him it's over. No discussion, no explanation, no working it out, no more chances. Nothing.
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reader, llifton +, writes (22 December 2013):
 Wow, you're dating a 30+ huge baby. He's throwing tantrums like that over sex? My God.
Let him be pissed. In fact, what would really be good is if you just changed the lock and your number. That ought to teach his whiny ass a lesson.
You don't treat people like that. It's ridiculous. Unless you've been rejecting him every night for an extended period of time, it's BS. Don't tolerate it.
Ignore him for a while. And while you're doing that, evaluate if you even really want this relationship, as it's clearly not going anywhere any time soon.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (21 December 2013):
 Maybe it's the feeling of not moving forward (for you that makes you feel less in the mood?) 6 years and not living together? That is odd to me. Engaged or not. I would say that by then you (both of you) ought to know if you WANT to be with each other.
My guess is he doesn't want to change how things are now. When he gets mad he can just walk away. Kind of hard when you live together.
How old is he btw? 5? Throwing a fit because you don't feel like sex when HE wants some?
I would NOT text or call him. And he better be ready for a long talk.
You two need to figure out of you are on the same page or not.
Could also be that he is picking fights with you so YOU will dump him.
If he DID propose, could you handle more of this juvenile behavior?
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reader, M Proops  +, writes (21 December 2013):
Well it's your body and he should respect your feelings.6 years seems a long time for you not to have engaged by now.Maybe he does not want to commit to you.He's acting like a spoilt child for not getting his way.I don't think there's a future in this relationship.
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