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writes:I am in high school and I play football. Since it is a high school football team, we have players from 9th grade to 12th grade. I am friends with a lot of the players in all grades.The problem is that I am beginning to be attracted to one of the freshman players. I am friends with his older brother and I am friends with both of them. I sometimes hang out at their house so I do spend a lot of time with both of them. He usually can make me laugh. I actually had a sex dream about him a few times.Is it normal for males to be attracted to other boys? How wrong is it that I had sex dreams about a guy four years younger than me? I do not view myself as gay, especially since I always been attracted to girls.And for the record, I would NEVER try anything with him, especially since he is 14 years old and I am 18 years old. I do not see anything wrong with 18 years old being friends with a 14 year old since we are teammates and I am also friends with his older brother.
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reader, AvgGuy1 +, writes (21 January 2014):
 I'm sure you're well aware of this... but SHOULD you get physically (sexually) involved with the young man YOU could be in for a world of trouble if anyone finds out.
Remember, you are 'legal' now and if you do anything with anyone underage, you can be arrested, charged, and possibly put in jail/prison... and THEN you'll have to register as a sex offender - for the rest of your life.
If you do find that you, or both of you are attracted to each other... you should DEFINITELY keep it strictly platonic.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (17 December 2013):
 you sound like a lovely NORMAL teen boy.
it's certainly normal to find other people of the same sex attractive even if your sexual orientation is predominantly heterosexual. Sexuality is a spectrum and there are wide ranges of where folks fall on this spectrum from 100% heterosexual missionary position in the dark to wild 100% homosexual flagrant orgies. It's my personal belief that EVERYONE is capable of loving ANYONE if they just are open to it.
Having a sex dream about someone does NOT mean you want to have sex with them or that you are gay... you really can't control your dreams... I had a dream the other night that I met the president of the united states while wearing nothing but beach shoes... doesn't mean I want the POTUS to see me naked in a hotel lobby.... in flat beach shoes no less...
It's nothing... and I would not even think it's necessary to mention it to anyone.
relax your mind you are 100% normal.
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reader, llifton +, writes (17 December 2013):
 Well you may be bi-sexual. Or you may be straight and just attracted to this one particular guy. Or you may in fact be gay and just discovering it.
I figured out I was gay when I was 18, myself. I always thought I was completely straight but everyone knew but me, apparently. I thought I was attracted to guys, but the moment I slept with a woman for the first time, I knew I was never into men. I was just so socialized to expect that I was straight, that it had never even dawned on me that I wasn't. Lol. Sounds crazy but it's true.
You're still young. You may still be figuring out what you want and what you're attracted to. That's normal. Take your time. You don't have to label yourself one way or another. No need. Human sexuality can't be labeled so black and white like that.
As far as being friends, you are not in the wrong at all. You are teammates and friends. And you're also friends with his brother. that's normal. But yes, trying to hook up with him is illegal and could get you in a world of trouble.
I wish you the best.
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