I got along great with my boyfriend's sister, until I found out she has gotten an abortion and doesn't seem to care about it.
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for over 3 years now. In that time of course, I've got to know his family and the person I've always got on with the most is his sister. Most of my boyfriend's family are quite rough (swear a lot, drink etc) but his ...
A. 25 September 2012: Women get abortions for a myriad of reasons. One may get one because she's simply not ready for a child, another may get one because carrying through with a pregnancy would risk both her and the baby's life. Who are you to say which reasons are ... (read in full...)
Is this implantation cramp or normal cramps?
Q. A few days ago i fingered my girlfriend that might have traces of dry precum on my finger,4 days later she is feeling these cramps,she said that it feels like her period is coming earlier than usual. Our clothes and everything were on so there is ...
A. 19 September 2012: Highly unlikely, but if her period is late have her take a pregnancy test to be sure.... (read in full...)
Am I selfish to want to break up with him 2 years after he cheated?
Q. Hiya, my boyfriend cheated on me two years ago I agreed to give him a second chance we have a family a house now. We didn't do these things to fix the relationship I found out about the cheating after we had settled. I find myself thinking more an...
A. 13 September 2012: No, you aren't being selfish. It was big of you to want to give him a second chance. It's not your fault the feelings just aren't there for you, anymore.
Just tell him you have tried to move past what happened, and be happy, but you just can't se... (read in full...)
Should tell her myself or let her find out in the end?
Q. I have kind of a weird situation. One that would either make me sound helpful or make me sound like a raging *itch. I dated a guy named "Mike" and he turned out to be a complete butt hole. While we were dating he started talking to a gir...
A. 13 September 2012: Tell her!
Usually I'm all for staying out of it and letting things happen as they will, but sometimes us girls have to stick together. I definitely feel like this is one of those times.
Could it backfire and make you look like a desperate ex t... (read in full...)
Keep the baby, adoption, or abortion?
Q. Im 19 yrs old and i just found out that im pregnant. I was taking the pill, have been for 3 mos. Idk how but i must have taken it wrong or maybe it just failed. Anyways my current bf and i have been dating 8mos. He is rather self absorbed, and is ...
A. 13 September 2012: Yes, like everyone else has said, this is your decision to make.
I've been in your shoes, and everyone who knew was telling me to get an abortion. It's quite depressing on top of all the emotions you're already feeling. In the end, that's t... (read in full...)
How can I calm myself down and stop thinking about this? I couldn't stand his paranoia and name-calling!
Q. I recently split up with my boyfriend because we argued a lot. He was very paranoid and called me a slut a liar and a cheat practically everyday although he had no grounds for it, that's just the way he is. Well I checked out his facebook and a ...
A. 13 September 2012: You can calm yourself down by remembering how LUCKY you are that you got out of this relationship!!!
Guys like this tend to have a stronger hold over us than the nicer ones... and I wish I understood why that is, but I just don't.
He spen... (read in full...)
Don't trust him, I'm ready to GO!
Q. I have been with my bf for five years now, and like most couples we have had to deal with various issues, in our case it is the issue of infidelity and trust, me being the one who doesn't trust him. He has stepped out on me several times, and each ...
A. 10 September 2012: Your boyfriend doesn't even bother to hide it, anymore. You know exactly what's going on, and he knows you do, and it doesn't impact what he does or how he acts at all.
What does this say to you?
By now I'm sure you're aware that he doesn't ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is making me choose between her or my best friend!
Q. Ok so my girlfriend and I have been dating for almost 2 years now. About a year ago while we were still dating my best friend ( a girl) Hun out at her house and things got carried away. I touched up on her and touched her private areas a little bit. ...
A. 10 September 2012: When I saw the title of this post I already had my answer ready to go. A good partner wont make you choose! Then I read your post, and now I understand why she's making you.
You've cheated on her with your best friend. Not only that, but you hid ... (read in full...)
I think my dad is cheating on my mum - what do I do?
Q. I apologise for the length, but I am in a rather desperate situation and need help. So a couple of days ago, my 12 year old sister (and I am 16) came bursting into my room saying that she found things on one of the laptops we have. She was cr...
A. 9 September 2012: My parents split up when I was 20, and I found out years later that my mom had cheated on my dad. When I found out, I confronted her, and she lied to me about it. Not only that, but she had lied to both my brother and I previously about him being ... (read in full...)
B/f cheated, got her pregnant but says he loves me more. What do I do?
Q. my boyfriend of 3years cheated on me for 3monthes with a girl much younger than me and even got her pregnant. i found out recently from the girl her self. i asked him but at first he was denying later on he told me the truth but he says he loves me ...
A. 5 September 2012: Leave him in your past. If he loved you more, you wouldn't be in this situation to begin with. He's made his bed, not let him lay in it.
Like other people have said, you got LUCKY. You could have married him, had children with him, before h... (read in full...)
If someone is ready to be pleasured how can they not be ready to give pleasure?
Q. Is something wrong with me? My boyfriend and I (I am a gay man) have been together almost 3 years, we are getting married in November. We live together and have a very open and public relationship. The problem I am having is in the bedroom. Our...
A. 5 September 2012: First, until this issue is resolved do NOT marry this man. I'm sorry to say that after reading your post, all I could think was "are you sure he's gay?"
It just doesn't make sense to me that after 3 years he wouldn't be ready to touch you. I f... (read in full...)
Not sure if I'm ready to start anything sexual with him yet, what should I do?
Q. Hi, I am 14 and soon to be 15 in one month, and my boyfriend is 14 which he has just turned 14 but we are in the same year at school. We have been going out for a month on friday and it has felt like longer as we were 'seeing each other' a week ...
A. 15 August 2012: Do you really want to do something with him, just so he can brag to his friend about it afterwards? This is something that is supposed to be private, and kept between you and your boyfriend. It's a decision you should make together when you're both ... (read in full...)
Emotional baggage and how to avoid dumping it?
Q. So, I am not even sure where I am going to go with this but I'd just like opinions. I recently started a relationship after years of being single/recovering from abusive exes. And my boyfriend is absolutely amazing, well-mannered, g...
A. 15 August 2012: I think your best bet is to communicate this with him. Whether you want to or not, we all have a bit of baggage (for the most part) that will come out at some point or another in a relationship. By telling him about your past experiences and your ... (read in full...)
Are women put off by skinny men?
Q. I know everyone has different tastes and personal preferences, but in general, are women put off by skinny men? I'm 23, and while I eat like a horse, I just have never been able to put on any tangible weight, and have virtually little muscle a...
A. 15 August 2012: I love skinny men, too. I always have. So I think you may have luck finding a woman who does! ... (read in full...)
There's this guy. And he's cheating on his girlfriend.. with me!
Q. There's this guy. And he's cheating on his girlfriend.. with me. I'm the other girl. I honestly love him and think he's the one. However, he told me he's thinking of breaking up with his girlfriend to be with me, but he hasn't yet. and...
A. 15 August 2012: Do you really want to be with a guy who's cheating on his gf with you? Does that not worry you at all about what he'll do in your relationship... should you even have one?
Let's face it, when a guy tells you he's going to leave his girlfrie... (read in full...)
I want him to get a divorce so we can marry. Why does his wife keep trying to get his attention? I want her gone.
Q. im living with a man twice my age. yes he could be my daddy. but i love him. he works hard, cooks for me, cleans. and i dont have to work. the problem is is that his wife is still in the picture. she just wont get the hint, that he loves me and n...
A. 15 August 2012: To me, it is quite obvious what is going on here.
As a man twice your age, I assume he was married to this woman for quite some time. I don't know how long they have been separated, or what the problems were in their marriage that lead to the s... (read in full...)
Should I be upset about planning an abortion?
Q. I just found out I am 4 weeks pregnant. I'm going to have an abortion. I don't feel guilty about it at all, in fact im actually happy about it. Shouldnt I be crying?...
A. 15 August 2012: I don't think you "should" feel anything. When I had mine, I was already quite attached. In fact, it was because of pressure from my parents that I even got one in the first place. I was young, and in no shape to have or raise a child. It is not a ... (read in full...)
Is it weird that I am still single? I always worry what people think of me.
Q. I have been single now for 7 years. I am 25 years old.I am beginning to think there is something wrong with me. It's either I meet guys who aren't interested in me or guys that I am not interested in but they are. I have been on many dates but the ...
A. 22 July 2012: Believe me, there's nothing wrong with being single!
If other people find it weird or embarrassing that you've been single for so long (and I don't understand why they would), then that's their thing. Like Aidan said, you aren't a more successf... (read in full...)
Even though I'm with her, I still feel incomplete and unfulfilled.
Q. Here's the thing, I'm with a girl that I use to be short term friends with. She's a great girl and everything but I just don't feel any real love towards her. How did I up with her then? It all started a couple months ago when I use to flirt wit...
A. 22 July 2012: I do see your reasoning, and while it's a good thing to not want to hurt somebody, you made quite the wrong decision.
You can't force yourself to like someone, as you've found out. It seems she was into you for a while, and when you agreed t... (read in full...)
Are some people meant to be single?
Q. I have been dating a guy for 2 or 3 months now, after a shaky start when I didn't think his relationship history was great. Fast forward to now, I should have seen him twice this week but made excuse the first time and just didnt reply to message...
A. 21 July 2012: I think some people are truly happier on their own. It's not that they don't enjoy their friends and family, or even the odd relationship here and there, they just do better on their own.
Personally, I like to be in a relationship, but I do prefe... (read in full...)
His friendship with his ex wife is pissing me off!!!
Q. I've been with a man 4 years who's not divored. He is 50. Him and his ex-wife (she's with a man 5 years) can't seem to let go. They talk on their phones behind my back and won't stop and it hurts me. I have expressed anger and upset but it ...
A. 21 July 2012: By staying with this man, you are wasting your life! It has been 4 years now, and he's been talking to his wife behind your back this entire time.
If a marriage with you hasn't entered his mind yet, I'm afraid it's probably never going to. He's... (read in full...)
I'm confused by his behavior.
Q. Dear cupid I met someone at a meeting and it seems that he liked me he kept hugging me and staying near me all the time.So we kept contact after the meeting. He asked me out on a date and he coudlnt keep his hands off me at the cinema and kept h...
A. 20 July 2012: This guy just doesn't seem to know what he wants!!
One day he's very physical with you, the other he's telling you he sees you as friends. You have a right to be confused, because this is confusing.
If I were you, I'd just forget about him... (read in full...)
Girlfriend WANTS to perform oral on me. However, I DON'T want it!
Q. Hi. As the title suggests, my girlfriend does want to perform oral sex on me. She keeps asking, every, single, time that I'm alone with her. I tell her, "No. I'm not ready for that. I am, however, ready for intercourse.", and she tells me she doe...
A. 20 July 2012: Yeah, I agree with other people when they say they don't quite understand this.
Am I right in assuming your issue isn't with the oral sex itself, but with what will happen to your semen? I'm very confused. Is this a personal thing? A religiou... (read in full...)
Is it over for us? Is there anything I can do to help the situation?
Q. I have been in a relationship for almost 5 1/2 years. I love my bf very much and I know he loves me. Our only big issue is marriage. About a year ago we broke up for about 4months because he wasn't sure if he was ready for marriage and I've been ...
A. 20 July 2012: What this boils down to is that you want to get married, and he doesn't. He's not unsure, he's not depressed about it, he's not committed. He just doesn't have the balls to tell you that.
You're being strung along, here. As others have said, th... (read in full...)
My husband financially supports his ex girlfriend, is at her beck and call; ultimatum or just leave?
Q. My husband sold his whole duplex to his ex girlfriend, even though she hardly ever paid her rent to him for her side when we lived in the other. She's constantly calling needing something, and he jumps, sometimes making me do things for her, too. ...
A. 20 July 2012: You and your child are your husband's priorities, not his ex gf. He clearly still cares about her in a way that you have picked up on, and feel threatened by. She's manipulating him into giving her a free ride, and he doesn't seem to mind.
Of co... (read in full...)
Is this normal for all men or is my bf an ass?
Q. I was having a fight with my bf about him flirting( especially online) with wayyyy too many girls. He said, "they don't matter because you came first". I told him that I don't care if I came first...............I WANT TO BE THE ONLY ONE! He asks me ...
A. 20 July 2012: So, you're telling me your boyfriend - the one who willingly entered into a relationship with you - is flirting with other women... and you're unhappy about it?
GOOD! No, it's not normal. Your boyfriend is an inconsiderate, insensitive, ASS!
... (read in full...)
I encouraged my friend to be honest, and now she is blaming me because her boyfriend might leave her.
Q. Okay, this may get a little confusing, but bear with me here please. I have had the same best friend for almost four years which isn't too long but for a high school girl friendship, that's an eternity. We've had our ups and downs, some my f...
A. 18 July 2012: As her best friend, you are more than entitled to give your advice/opinion on the subject. In fact, that's a crucial part of being a friend.
However, her business is still her business. It's not your place to interfere in her life, or try to make ... (read in full...)
I'm getting sick of him still getting angry at his ex. Should I continue to endure this uproar on his part?
Q. In a relationship 5 months both of us are one year out of a marriage, both still going through a split of property etc... My problem is that we ask each other for advice and we give each other advice, but he doesnt use it and just keeps getting ...
A. 17 July 2012: Yep, Abella nailed this one on the head. He is not over his ex; not even close.
If he's blowing off your texts because he's mad as his ex, or trying to call her to sort things out with her, that's the biggest red flag you could ask for.
I kn... (read in full...)
I've been dating my friend for the past year but he doesn't want any of our mutual friends nor his family to know about it
Q. Dear Cupid I am been dating my friend for past 1 year, but he doesn't want any of our mutual friends to know. He hasn't introduced me to his friends or his family. Recently he asked me not to send any text messages, i usually don't send much ...
A. 17 July 2012: I hate to start off negatively, but I have a feeling he's either ashamed of you for some reason, or he's with someone else and you're the other woman.
Him saying he wants to wait to tell people until the time is right just sounds like an excuse. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's best friend is coming onto me, what should I do?
Q. I have a boyfriend and he has a girlfriend but he seems to still put effort to get with me. Ask me for dinner, trying to get my attention, chat asking about me and my boyfriend etc. He's also my boyfriend's best friend. How he could still tryi...
A. 16 July 2012: You are feeling uneasy because you know that it's wrong. That's your conscience tapping you on the shoulder, saying "don't do it!"
If I were you, I'd listen.
If you have issues with your boyfriend, and the lack of time you spend together, ... (read in full...)
How do I make him break up with me instead?
Q. My love life is crazy now. I met a guy and i really like him and he loves me but we have a long distance relationship and i think i have gotten over him i promised him i would not break his heart. How do i make him break up with me instead?...
A. 16 July 2012: Well, you're asking us for advice on how to get him to break up with you instead of you doing it yourself. Then you say you want to know how to tell if you still love him before you do anything.
I think it's safe to say you DON'T love him.
... (read in full...)
One night stand cheat on my girlfriend of 3 yrs,..Should I tell her or live with guilt?
Q. Ive been with my gf for 3 years now and our relationship has been the greatest thing in my life. Weve been though a hell of alot with each other and theres nothing i wouldnt do for her. Weve talked immensely about not cheating on each other bc we ...
A. 16 July 2012: There are some people who will tell you not to tell her, that you'd only be placing your guilt onto her shoulders. I agree with those people.
There are some people who will tell you that you absolutely should tell her, because she deserves... (read in full...)
Was he cheating on me, or was it just a lapse in judgement?
Q. Please, any advice is so appreciated! My boyfriend and I (22 and 21) have been seeing each other for a little over a year. I am his first serious relationship. He is my second. I am a go-getter. I am very motivated in both school and work. I am a...
A. 16 July 2012: You seem very condescending towards your boyfriend. We all have different attitudes about our lives, our careers, our relationships, etc... Trying to force him into yours isn't right, and it's not healthy. We choose our own paths, and like BimBim ... (read in full...)
My wife has a crush on a man she met online. She denies it, I know its true
Q. wife has a crush? My wife of 2 years has recently been speaking to a guy daily since they met online about a week ago. They meet online every night speaking by mic, he compliments her very often and flirts as does she, they spend hours talking ...
A. 16 July 2012: She definitely has a crush, but whether it's more than that or not is really something only she and he know at this point.
I see a lot of people here saying talking to someone of the opposite gender isn't right when you're married, but I don't ag... (read in full...)
Dating 2 years and he's bored with me. Should I end things?
Q. Dated this man for 2 years. He's bored with me already. He prefers gym over dinner with me. He prefers to chat online with random girls over chatting with me. p/s: we don't live together Should I put up with this?...
A. 15 July 2012: Why on earth would anyone put up with this????
No, you should NOT. What you should do is leave him to his gym membership and online girls, and find something better for yourself... because you surely deserve it. ... (read in full...)
My wife cheated on me and is now worried that I'm cheating on her. Its causing a great deal of stress in our home
Q. I had recently discovered that my wife of 12 years was having an affair for past one year. I confronted her with the evidence I had and she admitted it. She has promised to end the affair, which I presume she did, and work on marriage. I do not ...
A. 15 July 2012: While I sympathize with the pain her affair has surely caused you, you have gone about this in a way that I don't quite think was appropriate given the circumstances.
You've said you don't want to divorce her because of your kids, but is that the... (read in full...)
I've moved to be with my boyfriend and now I'm depressed thinking I've made a big mistake...help!
Q. Please help! Feel like i'm losing it all :( I will try and make this short. Been together with my boyfriend 11 years we have had our ups and downs. We are compatible for the most part and sex is not an issue. But I have put up with a lot and have...
A. 11 July 2012: What I'm seeing here is someone who isn't supportive of you. You moved away from family and friends to be with a man who lured you there with empty promises. Things aren't going perfectly, and he's on you about them. You do whatever you can for him, ... (read in full...)
If b/f was over ex why would he even be talking about her?
Q. Dear Cupid, Last night i was hanging out with my boyfriend and some topics came up that kind of upset me. First off... our relationship is fairly new and we've only been dating for around several months. I know that he got out of a long term rela...
A. 11 July 2012: I am sorry to say I understand exactly how you're feeling!
What worked for me was to be vocal about how I was feeling with my boyfriend. They may think you're being ridiculous or insecure or jealous or blah, blah, blah, but on some level you are ... (read in full...)
How do I tell my gay friend I like him as more than a friend without ruining our friendship?
Q. i have a gay friend who is a boy how do i tell him i like more than a friend without destroying the friendship we have at the moment?...
A. 11 July 2012: You don't tell him. If he's gay, he will never feel the same way towards you and a relationship will just never happen.
I'd suggest trying to move past your feelings and just continue with your friendship. It's clear you care about him, but don'... (read in full...)
Too early in the game to ask him to start experimenting in bed?
Q. I have just started dating this guy and things are off to a great start. We've started getting intimate pretty early on in getting to know each other but I've been crossing an idea recently and wonder how he would take it . Even though we a...
A. 11 July 2012: I don't know if it's too early or not, but if you're concerned about that... maybe you could test the water a little bit? Drop a few hints here and there, maybe ask him what some of his fantasies are.
Or while you're in the midst of having s... (read in full...)
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