Why does he want me to swallow?
Q. My husband doesn't get turned on by intercourse. He only gets turned on by oral sex and he wants me to swallow, and I really don't want to most of the time. Why is that so important to him?...
A. 13 January 2023: I'm sorry for your loss, OP... (read in full...)
My husband's ex travelled 90 miles to see him
Q. Hello guys. Not sure how to deal with this problem involving my husband and his ex. On Friday afternoon, his ex had come to our house, I didn't recognize the woman asking for him, she said she hadn't seen him since 1995, and wanted to talk to hi...
A. 20 April 2022: Yep to everything Miss Rita said :)
Seek legal advice. See if you can get a restraining order of some kind. (which might be hard but worth a try).
Sounds like she is fixated on "The One that got away" (your husband). And that turned into onli... (read in full...)
Married but attracted to a workmate
Q. Hi there! So, I know I'm probably gonna get a loooooot of answers telling me not to be a slut and to stop acting like a baby and so on and so forth. I've read them on numerous other posts. But I would really appreciate some kind advice please. ...
A. 20 April 2022: There are ZERO reasons for you to be friends with this horny creep at work. He isn't looking for friendship, he is looking to hook up with desperate and lonely coworkers. Married or really young women are usually "easier" targets. The married women, ... (read in full...)
How do my trainer and I deal with weirdness of his crush on me?
Q. Hi. Call me Marcus if a name is needed. I am a 20-year-old college student in my third year as undergrad. I am on a 100 percent scholarship for swimming with stipend so I don’t have to work and just focus on school and swimming. My scholarship ...
A. 20 April 2022: " Results are results, right? Who cares if he digs me? "
Just no, OP
What he did is NOT OK on any level. He was grooming you into thinking this is "normal" because to YOU it made sense to get your body fat measured on a regular basis. He made i... (read in full...)
My son's friend's mum left the kids alone at night
Q. My 12 yrs old son went to stay over with his mate, I assumed the mum of said child would stay in but my son told me she went to her mates for drinks and left them till 2am alone in the house to do what they liked , my son has never been left alo...
A. 20 April 2022: That is just not OK.
And what kind of mother (or father) does this? Oh yeah, I said OK for another child to be in my house overnight so I'll go drinking?! Did she think because it was 2! children it was Ok?
My aunt was a widow with 4 kids. She... (read in full...)
Am getting social blowback admitting my virginity
Q. For this anonymous letter I am Calvin and my girlfriend is Susie. Like the real Calvin and Susie from the Calvin and Hobbes cartoons, Susie and I have always lived in the same neighborhood. Unlike the cartoon Calvin, I have always liked girls and ...
A. 20 April 2022: FA put it so great, I have little to add.
Some think being a Virgin or NOT a Virgin is some sort of badge of honor. YOU decide what it means to you.
There is NOTHINg wrong in CHOOSING to not have sex before you are ready or before you are C... (read in full...)
My First Love returned.. now it's messy
Q. I'm 36 years old. About 8 months ago, i met my first love where we dated back in highschool. We used to date in McDonalds, the local malls and he was my first love and first kiss. We broke up eventually. He got married to someone else. Recently,...
A. 19 April 2022: "Should i call him to speak to him?"
No, you should do as he suggested and Fuck off.
I agree he Cc'd his wife, to make SURE she knows that HE is trying to focus on the marriage and NOT have anything to do with you.
"He has also blocked ... (read in full...)
Can I encourage these people to just move away?
Q. My new neighbors, a married couple, scare me! My husband and I are quiet friendly people. We tried to say hello when they moved in but they actually seemed annoyed we even spoke to them. Since then, they have done everything humanly possible...
A. 19 April 2022: Maybe it's time to consider getting a good fence?
“Good fences make good neighbors” As Robert Frost so cleverly said.
If they can't even be arsed to say hello, I don' think they are going to deal with their pets' poop or even give a shit (pun... (read in full...)
I only want to see my parents in a public setting
Q. Growing up, I did not have a good relationship with my parents and my brother. My dad had a temper and was a control freak. He also blamed others for his mistakes. My mom was a drama queen who freak out about everything. She also had to go t...
A. 19 April 2022: If your husband grew up with "decent" or even "good/great" parents it can be hard for him to really understand how you feel about your parents. However, I'm sure if you explain that you LIKE and WANT your privacy from your parents due to the ... (read in full...)
Why does he want me to swallow?
Q. My husband doesn't get turned on by intercourse. He only gets turned on by oral sex and he wants me to swallow, and I really don't want to most of the time. Why is that so important to him?...
A. 17 April 2022: Why hasn't he had a vacetomy?
If he is 100% sure he doesn't want kids?
I mean sex should be pleasurable for BOTH people involved, shouldn't it?
It doesn't sound like you two are very compatible in the bedroom.... (read in full...)
Sister involved with married man. I am worried about her
Q. My sister who's 28 told me that she's been dating this guy since November (when lockdown had well ended by then, but Plan B was in the news) and that he's married but had been in the process of divorcing his wife since September yet she refuses to ...
A. 17 April 2022: It's hard to tell someone who is 28 what to do. Asperger or not. People who are in affairs get caught up in a fantasy where they are the "main character" and they "think" they are not "really" doing anything wrong because well THEY feel great!
... (read in full...)
Needle play?
Q. My new boyfriend has introduced needle play and I'm wondering if anyone else has tried this. I am into new kinky things and actually enjoy needle play. He has done patterns on my belly, back, and my buttocks. It really is not that painful. He uses ...
A. 16 April 2022: " It really is not that painful."
Yeah, nah, never done that, and since I have a fear of needles that would not be something I'd feel a need to try.
Are you the one to always "receive"?
If so, I'd question that. Makes me think that his ... (read in full...)
Son found nude photos of me
Q. My 14-year-old son recently came across some pictures of me that his father took of me back when we were teens.we have been together for a long time and got married when I was pregnant with my son. The pictures were in an old shoebox filled with ...
A. 16 April 2022: "Which is worse, thinking your father has kiddie porn or knowing that you just saw a teen version of your mother naked?"
The first. Hands down.
What I would have a chat with your son about is WHY he went through stuff that isn't his to go ... (read in full...)
I am seeing a side of my husband that I don't like
Q. Hi all. I am married to a man who has started showing me sides of himself I never knew. Prior to getting married, he was always apologetic if he offended me. After 6 years of being married, he has shown an arrogant side that disgusts me to say the ...
A. 16 April 2022: Are you wrong for being offended?
Nah, not really, but I feel you are a little over the top on this. you read WAY more into this than was meant.
He probably just said that because he recognized her and remembered his little "scam" that got ... (read in full...)
Tired of being wary of husband
Q. My husband and I have been married for 12 years this may. I once caught him taking herbal pills along with viagra. He told me he was too ashamed to tell me. We talked about my feelings of omission and lying and he quit. Now, I just found a whole ...
A. 16 April 2022: Does he have a prescription for them?
If not is he really aware of the risk that comes with Viagra? Is it worse for him to TELL you that he needs a little help in staying hard/getting hard rather than having issues due to the side effects?
"Yo... (read in full...)
Should I have a breast reduction?
Q. Should I have a breast reduction? I feel really awkward about this, I am 38G (uk size) in bra size and it's depressing, they are so heavy and yes they retain the shape and they aren't the worst and I understand that some women would love to ha...
A. 15 April 2022: "My boyfriend won't support me getting a reduction "
That is one idiotic BF!
"He tells me women would kill for them and that he has seen ugly breasts." So what? He is NOT the one living with them.
It's not up to him to make this choice. If ... (read in full...)
Best friend wants me to take responsibility for her adult daughter if she dies
Q. I’ve known my friend for 23 years, she is one of the nicest people I know and I absolutely treasure our friendship. She is 5 years older than me so I’ve always seen her as a big sister. I’m even godmother to her eldest daughter and this unf...
A. 15 April 2022: You have to be honest. Seems like everyone walks on eggshells around this kid.
BE honest with your friend. Tell her I'm not ready or willing to take on that repsonsibility. Her daughter is 19, so legally an adult. " Technically, the end of your ... (read in full...)
Why does he want me to swallow?
Q. My husband doesn't get turned on by intercourse. He only gets turned on by oral sex and he wants me to swallow, and I really don't want to most of the time. Why is that so important to him?...
A. 15 April 2022:
When you swallow you are being as submissive as heck, you are basically as intimate as it gets. 1. he doesn't have to stop his climax 2. if you swallow you are "accepting "all" of it, in a way. And 3. for some men it's a little bit about dominanc... (read in full...)
Married and attracted to female coworker
Q. Help! I'm so confused about what I'm doing! I'm a 32 year old female who has been married to a man for the past 3 years. I've always identified as 100% straight. And now I just don't know what the heck I'm feeling anymore. I started working ...
A. 14 April 2022: I think you need to wake up and smell the coffee.
" I know what I'm doing is wrong because I'm married and she's with someone." So why do you continue?
It sounds like you are participating in an emotional affair or the beginning of one... (read in full...)
Do I check into mothers past? Report her?
Q. Hi everyone, I was recently at a meeting with a nurse regarding my children as they are being assessed for autism. Present in the room were myself, the nurse and my husband. The nurse asked about our family backgrounds so without going to a great...
A. 14 April 2022:
" What would you do in my situation"
I would feel a sense of obligation to check and see if she is still working. I would have given the nurse your mom's name.
However, your allegations ARE just that, allegations (even if they are true).... (read in full...)
Did the pandemic kill it?
Q. I am a British woman. In June 2019 I met a man during a very short trip to Hungary, a place I really love and was, at the time, thinking about moving to. I was interested in talking to the locals and the man (let's call him Janos, although ...
A. 13 April 2022: Wish Janosh a happy life and then cut contact and focus on the guy you are with now, It's not fair to EITHER guy for you to string them along while you "decide" what you want to do.
As far as Janosh, well, I think you were a |holiday romance"... (read in full...)
Is my reaction to an awkward moment considered 'harrassment'?
Q. Hi there. I cannot believe I am writing this but here goes. It is sort of a weird role reversal sexual harassment reality check. I am not trying to get anyone in trouble. I think I might be part of the problem, but now I am sort of the focus in ...
A. 13 April 2022: Jacob, talk to your supervisor alone. Let her know how embarrassing it was already.
While it IS a "natural body function" and they handled it in a joking manner (instead of with disgust or disdain) THEY were not the butt of the joke or the one ... (read in full...)
Is fantasy better than reality? Cheating and enjoying vs real life relationship
Q. I am a 49 yeard old happily married man for 28 years, we have had our ups and downs like most but for the most part our relationship has been happy and healthy. We have 2 children aged 16 and 6. I have a great job and thus my wife does not need to ...
A. 13 April 2022: So what you are asking is, is it a SURE BET to divorce my wife for a BARELY adult woman?
It's not.
You are TWICE as old as your "mistress". What do you actually share in common? Great sex? Well, that is a solid foundation!
Bringing up the... (read in full...)
She and I have a crush on each other. How do I go from here?
Q. Hi A member of staff in my child's school has a crush on me ( I am married) and I also have a crush on her. She is in a senior position. I have known she has a crush on me because she kept checking me dropping time, trying to get my attention...
A. 13 April 2022: A "good morning" should suffice. She isn't a friend or relative she is a worker at your child's school.
I don't know why you think you would have to move your kid to another school, that seems a bit over the top.... (read in full...)
Is it time to let her go?
Q. I guess I should start by saying "Hi and thanks for taking the time to listen to my personal issues" There's this woman, we'll call her Mary. Mary and I have been off and on since we were both in our early twenties. We're now around our mid t...
A. 12 April 2022: OP, Good luck with the move, I think it will be good for you to get out and meet new people, see new places and better yourself as a person.
Should you tell her before you go that you care?
No, she knows. However, you two are NOT a good fit a... (read in full...)
He asked for my panties
Q. Hi so I'm seeing this guy, we started hanging out 2 weeks back. And then things escalated to a kiss and then cuddles, I am not sure if we're dating or not, I'm scared to ask him but he is now asking me for sexual favors like a handjob, even though I ...
A. 12 April 2022: Give him back the t-shirt and tell him to go kick rocks.
The guy is the RED flag here, girl.
His whatsApp status is a manipulation tactic to get you to think you are doing something wrong.
He doesn't respect you AT all. He keeps pressuring... (read in full...)
She and I have a crush on each other. How do I go from here?
Q. Hi A member of staff in my child's school has a crush on me ( I am married) and I also have a crush on her. She is in a senior position. I have known she has a crush on me because she kept checking me dropping time, trying to get my attention...
A. 12 April 2022: You are married, behave yourself! And so is she!
And she probably hasn't gotten a clue about your crush, she just saw someone who at first seemed friendly, then acted weird, so she pulled back.
Grow up and get a grip.
... (read in full...)
We are struggling to fit in
Q. My question's about dating. I've been dating this lady, since early February, and we've met when restrictions allowed. Luckily our province and town hasn't been hit badly by lockdowns or that... just masks and social distancing. However, s...
A. 12 April 2022: 1. Video "dating" works for some, for others, it might not be a "thing". So no worries there. You two have to move forward however you two feel it works ORGANICALLY. There isn't a "this is how everyone dates" set in stone set of rules.
2. " ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend's brother is a problem
Q. I have been seeing my partner for almost 2 years, and our conversation is now turning to moving in together. We both have our own houses and the plan is that I will move in hers and rent mine out. Decision based in part on her work commute, I work ...
A. 12 April 2022: Good for you to have had the chat with her and perhaps "making" her see why you felt it wasn't realistic. I get why she got upset, I'm sure she has a lot more faith in her brother, but I think she needed to hear that. Also, imagine the Brother's GF ... (read in full...)
My New Flatmate Is Very Self-Centred And Narcissistic, How Do I Deal With Her
Q. I am a professional lady who just turned 30, and recently had a girl my age move into my flat as my flatmate (we are renting from a private landlord). She is reasonably clean and tidy, etc, and works in a good career as a doctor, but some aspects of ...
A. 11 April 2022: Maybe you need to find a way to suggest she moves out and you find another roommate.
She sounds exhausting!
Or you need to let her know you are JUST roommates, not besties, and then stick to doing YOU and she can do what not without you.
... (read in full...)
My boyfriend’s coworker keeps asking him to cheat on me with her, and he keeps saying no. what do I do?
Q. Earlier this week, my boyfriend told me that he has a coworker that has been flirting with him all the time. she finally asked him to meet with her outside of work, and he did. (it was just next door at a food place). she somehow knew that we’ve ...
A. 11 April 2022: Your BF needs to tell her if she doesn't stop this, he will have to take it to their boss.
This is borderline sexual harassment. which is NOT to be tolerated at work.
Also, your BF is fibbing. HE has told her about the issues you two have. Or... (read in full...)
Husband is addicted to magic game and I am sick of it
Q. My (29F) husband (31 M) is addicted to Magic: The Gathering, is ruining our relationship and finances Some background: My husband and I met in our early 20s and have been together cumulatively for 8 years. We have been married for 3. He has played...
A. 11 April 2022: Well, for one I think you two NEED to have a sit-down and do a budget.
He can set aside money for his cards/game and you can set aside money for your hobby (even though cooking benefits you both).
You NEED to tell him just this:" I am fee... (read in full...)
Should I go to the wedding of an ex best friend that I can't stand?
Q. I have a friend, Pamela, from highschool that I haven't seen in years. She wasn't a real friend, when I was being bullied, she prefered to stay friends with them and even acted as if she wasn't that close to me, which hurt me and I'm glad I went to ...
A. 10 April 2022: I agree!!!
"I have to ask this: why can't you just say "no thanks" and walk away?"
Just say no. And then you block her! She isn't a friend, she is pestering you for whatever reason.
And because you won't just tell her no, you are now in t... (read in full...)
Niece wants to live with us after graduation
Q. Niece (17f) wants to live with me (30f) and my husband (33m) when she graduates My husband and I are planning on getting a "fresh start" at the end of the year after saving money for a down payment. My niece is graduating high school soon over...
A. 10 April 2022: The biggest question is this, DO you really WANT to do this? Does your hubby?
What is the niece going to be doing for work? Does she have any real qualifications? (my guess is no)
And why are you now have to take on the parental role?
... (read in full...)
Could my friend be toxic?
Q. I am a young 27 year old entrepreneur and my time at this point in my career is so important to me as I'll be launching my business in a few months. I am single and freshly out of a tumultuous 2 relationship with a narcissist so I have been tryi...
A. 9 April 2022:
Let the "friendship" run its course. Just be less and less available.
Put her number on silence or block it and if she later contacts you through other means give a low battery, gotta go excuse.
Or when you are good and ready to "dump"... (read in full...)
She cancelled our first date because of who I follow on Instagram
Q. I'm 34 and she's 24. We matched on Tinder, eventually transitioned into Instagram, then started texting,and she let me know she prefers talking on the phone. I gave her a call, we talked for nearly 2 hours, finally set up our first date and I was ...
A. 9 April 2022: Yep to Ruby's answer.
"Yes, for many women this viewpoint is normal. "
If I was on the "dating market" looking for someone to spend time with long-term, so a partner, not a casual fling or hook up, I would WANT to ensure that HIS values, mora... (read in full...)
My girlfriend recently came out as non-binary
Q. I have been dating my girlfriend for around two years now and we plan on staying together for the long run. Quite recently she (whom from this point on I will use gender neutral pronouns with) has come out as non-binary. They don't identify as a ...
A. 9 April 2022: "How do I deal with this change and most importantly accommodate them to make sure they feel comfortable at all times around me?"
Talk to her.
But also consider that YOU need to be comfortable too. So the two of you need to ask questions of eac... (read in full...)
My boyfriend contacted his ex during a trip
Q. Hi DC Aunts and Uncles. I have come here for some advice. Maybe I myself already know the answer but I want to get some input from you. So my boyfriend of 2 mths went on a trip with his friends and just returned home. During his trip away he was...
A. 8 April 2022: "If I ask him about it, he will know I looked at his mobile."
Well, you DID look!
BUT you can avoid owning your own actions if you don't want to by just telling him that you don't think it's going to work out, wish him GOOD luck with his li... (read in full...)
My girlfriend's brother is a problem
Q. I have been seeing my partner for almost 2 years, and our conversation is now turning to moving in together. We both have our own houses and the plan is that I will move in hers and rent mine out. Decision based in part on her work commute, I work ...
A. 8 April 2022: Let us know how the chat goes.
I hope she will realize that she is babying her Brother and that isn't helping him, her, OR the relationship.
... (read in full...)
My dad drove my car drunk
Q. My dad came to my area for a short vacation and is staying at my place. I have to work from home during the day so I let him borrow my car. Today he met up with a friend who works at a bar. The friend served him cocktails and then my dad drove home ...
A. 7 April 2022: Bye Bye, dad. In the morning ask him to leave. At least that is what I would do. It's absolutely unacceptable for a GROWN ass man to think it's "funny" to drive drunk and it's absolutely unacceptable to verbally abuse you when you tell him that... (read in full...)
The mystery of friends son
Q. Hi guys! I would appreciate some help with understanding a, for me, strange situation. About 11 years ago, my husband and I met a couple and we started hanging out together. We had a lot of in common, including a country house in the same neck o...
A. 7 April 2022: I mostly agree with WiseOwle,
You don't know what happened and what their story of Sam is. You know something is off, but it's also NOT your business. It's their family. THEY can choose what THEY want you to know.
Could have been an insane c... (read in full...)
My partner is drinking too much. How can I help him?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for nearly 10 years and he's always liked a drink. Recently though I've become really worried about how much. Throughout the week he will drink vodka, he started putting weight on about 2 years ago when he switched from...
A. 6 April 2022: He is an alcoholic. A high-functioning one.
At some point, he will just be an alcoholic.
He drinks 9 LITERS of alcohol a week! That is ridiculous!
Is he trying to kill himself? Smash his liver to a point of liver failure?
I would sugg... (read in full...)
My girlfriend's brother is a problem
Q. I have been seeing my partner for almost 2 years, and our conversation is now turning to moving in together. We both have our own houses and the plan is that I will move in hers and rent mine out. Decision based in part on her work commute, I work ...
A. 6 April 2022: Actually, OP
I really enjoy all the updates, it gives a better perspective of what is going on. So never feel that you shouldn't do that! It's great.
One thing I have learned in my long-ish marriage (we are at 25 years this year) is that be... (read in full...)
My girlfriend's brother is a problem
Q. I have been seeing my partner for almost 2 years, and our conversation is now turning to moving in together. We both have our own houses and the plan is that I will move in hers and rent mine out. Decision based in part on her work commute, I work ...
A. 5 April 2022: I think FA hit ALL the important points.
You do NOT have an issue with the Brother, you are NOT dating the Brother.
SHE is being wishy-washy with her Brother and babying him because it GIVES her another 18 months to NOT move in with you.
IF ... (read in full...)
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