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writes:Should I have a breast reduction?I feel really awkward about this, I am 38G (uk size) in bra size and it's depressing, they are so heavy and yes they retain the shape and they aren't the worst and I understand that some women would love to have breasts this size but im struggling to cope and be grateful for them.I can never get comfy at night. Shopping for bras is a nightmare and there are never Any pretty looking bras for a girl with breasts my size. I get back aches and shoulder aches and my bras leave marks in my shoulders. I feel like the ugliest person in the world. I cant wear any nice tops because of them for people staring. I struggle to find jackets that will zip over them without wearing sizes that are too big for the rest of me.I am a size 16(uk) and average build.For years I have been debating getting a reduction but I am scared of the procedure and the scars.My boyfriend won't support me getting a reduction , he thinks they are fine but he doesn't have to live with them. He tells me women would kill for them and that he has seen ugly breasts. I just don't know if I'm been irrational but I've had it with them. Has anyone had any experience of a breast reduction?I just need some help coming to a conclusion.If im doing this it will be on the NHS and I will practically beg them. I know the wait could be long but I think I need this.Any advice please and thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2022): Your boyfriend only cares about sex, and does not want to lose his busty play mate. Selfish, very selfish, dump him.
The NHS is even more stretched now than ever. I know of people who are waiting for important operations for years and have gone privately rather than wait forever. If this is really bothering you then go private rather than wait and wait for ages and maybe still be told no. By the way, my breasts were larger than yours. I also had guys starting or only being interested in me for fun and games, I also had the back aches and all the rest, the bras that looks like hammocks. I lost weight, and in doing so I also lost a fair bit of my breasts. I did not aim to but it happened.
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reader, 02DuszJ +, writes (15 April 2022):
 If something is affecting your confidence and quality of life to this huge extent, it needs to be addressed.
That is why the NHS offer such services. To you it's clearly a health issue and not rooted in vanity.
Speak to the health professionals ASAP! But just don't waste time, we all have one life and you could be so close to living your best life :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2022): Personally I dont think your size is particularly large.
You have a decent cup size but bear in mind that the difference in cup size is not drastically decisive in how you look and feel.
I'm guessing you've not had children yet?
Most women are delighted with the enhanced breast size they get during child bearing.
But some men are so weird about breasts!
You only have to worry about one very special man in your life.
If he is going to be your future husband he sounds alright with a good attitude.
You really need to arrange a specialist bra fitting.
With a bra the correct size you shouldn't experience any pain.
So you could try a top store to help you find a really comfortable and pretty bra.
They can be expensive but your bra and pants are the most important items in your wardrobe.
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reader, Youcannotbeserious +, writes (15 April 2022):
 I don't think any of the aunts and uncles are medically qualified to give you an opinion. Even if they were, they couldn't do it without seeing you and discussing everything with you, including the risks of surgery (because all surgery comes with risks, albeit usually fairly small ones).
All I would say is that, if you are uncomfortable, if you can't sleep properly, if you are in constant pain, if you hate the size of your breasts, then YOU have every right to do something about it. Your boyfriend's opinion matters ZILCH. (If I were you, the first thing I would get rid of would be your boyfriend.)
I knew a girl years ago who had a reduction. She was petite everywhere else, with these huge breasts. She was quite a shy person (not sure if this was connected to the size of her breasts) and attracted "the wrong type" of attention from males, i.e. letches who were primarily interested in her breasts and in showing off to other guys that they had a girlfriend with huge boobs. What pushed this particular girl over the edge in the end was not being able to ride her horse without severe discomfort, regardless of how tight and supportive a sports bra she wore. Like you, she regularly complained of back ache and used to walk around hunched over and looking at the ground all the time. After her op, she was like a different person. So much more confident, so much happier (because she wasn't in constant pain or being leered at by blokes who only saw her as a pair of enormous breasts). She told me she was so happy just to "feel normal".
Talk to your doctor and get a referral to a good surgeon, and talk to them about the risks, etc. I think you have already made up your mind that this is something you have to do for yourself. Good luck.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (15 April 2022):
 "My boyfriend won't support me getting a reduction "
That is one idiotic BF!
"He tells me women would kill for them and that he has seen ugly breasts." So what? He is NOT the one living with them.
It's not up to him to make this choice. If he won't support you in this it's probably out of ignorance more than anything else. It's not like you are going to have them removed altogether.
If you are in pain and generally uncomfortable I would go get a consult and see what a doctor has to say. You don't have to make a choice right away.
I went to college with a girl who was a 40+H, she couldn't do sports, couldn't run, and her back was in constant pain. She was also very lopsided, so one boob was way bigger than the other. She went for a reduction, I think to a 38C and she never looked back. She went from always wearing big hoodies and having her back hunched so people wouldn't stare to a pretty confident girl. For her, at least, it was a huge help in every way.
None of us can tell you what you should do, Go for the consult and then YOU decide for yourself, this is your body, and your life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2022): If they are hurting your back and making you uncomfortable and you want to do it, then you should, no matter what your boyfriend says - it's your body! If you are just self conscious about them then perhaps the best way to start is to find a tailor or someone who can help you to make your clothes look good even if your boobs are a bit larger than average (or teach yourself to sew). I know a bit how you feel because my boobs are also a bit bigger than average (DD/E) and I struggle to get clothes to fit without looking baggy round the middle or too tight around the chest. There are also shops that specialise in clothes for women with bigger chests.
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