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writes:When I moved into my first apartment I invested in a really expensive ($200) cooking pot. My mom has several that I grew up cooking with and they have lasted her almost 30 years each, still going strong. I LOVE mine and treat it carefully. I now live with my boyfriend and one day he wanted me to cook him a black bean dish with tomatoes, lime and other acidic things in it. The deal is I cook, he cleans. Well I had to go on a trip for a week and half and he left it to sit and basically the acids ate through the enamel and the pot is pretty much ruined. I want him to replace it, but he won't. He's saying it's my own fault for buying an expensive pot and if it can be ruined so easily it's not worth replacing. I'm extremely angry, how can I get him to replace it? Am I being unfair?
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reader, xanthic +, writes (18 July 2011):
 It was his responsibilty to clean it, yet he didn't. His carelessness is the sole reason it's ruined, the quality or price of the pot doesn't matter. There was absolutely no reason for him to leave it uncleaned for such a long time, he most definitely should be the one to replace it. At the very least he should buy a new one for you, something that's not as expensive but still of very high quality. If he continues to refuse to be mature and take some responsibility for his actions, he doesn't get to make any special requests from this point on. Make what you want to make. If he doesn't like it, too bad. You were doing him a favor by cooking something he specifically requested, and he couldn't be bothered to show some appreciation and come through on his part of the deal. Now he won't even take the blame. Does that behavior really deserve to be rewarded?
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (18 July 2011):
 Would he leave an acidic substance on the surface of his car?
Of course he should replace it, he ruined it. If he had held to his side of the bargain, there would be no need to replace it. It was careless and thoughtless.
Does he take care of HIS things or is he generally a sloppy slob of a guy?
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (18 July 2011):
Shows how little respect he has for you, really. Yes, he should replace it since he left it to rot. And if he won't, don't cook for him ever again.
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reader, harleygirl2010 +, writes (18 July 2011):
 IF the deal is that you cook and he cleans than i don't think you are being unfair or unreasonable. He did leave it to sit for a week and a half with the acids on it and virtually ruined the pot. I don't know how to tell him that he should replace it soon as how he ruined and price has nothing to do with it. That would have ruined even cheap pot the same way. Have you tried telling him that the acid would have ruined any pot not matter the price? Why did he not clean it and just leave it there for that long? I hope you can get your pot replaced.
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