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*oxy7727
writes:Hi aunts! So I need some advice on what to do in this situation. Me and my boyfriend of 2 months broke up 2 days ago. He was at a party and I was going out to. Well I called him and was asking who was ther and stuff nothing mean though. And he said he didn't want to argue and hung up on me. So I called again and he kept hanging up on me. Then I called again and a girl answered his phone and told me to stop calling and that he didn't want to talk to me. So I got very mad at this point and told her ill call my bf all I want well every time id call after that shed answer. So I stoped calling him and went out. Well about an hour later my friend was talking to his friend and she told him what happend and he agreed that it was messed up and he didn't kno what his prob was. Then I got a text from his phone that said hope u have a good night ;)------3 and I knew he wouldn't text me somthing like that so I started arguin w her again. And I called and she said that they were doing it and he doesn't want to talk to me. I tried calling one more time early the next morning and no answer. So I'm asuming we broke up. Well I wanted to brake up and since he wasn't talking to me I told his friend I didn't want nothing to do w him. And he hasn't called me or texted me. We never had any problems and this came. Out of the blue. I'm so heartbroken and torn and confused I don't know why he would be like that its not like him at all. And I don't want to call him if he doesn't want nothing to do w me which is what it seems like. But I want to kno why he did all that to me. So should I try calling him again and tell him I'm hurt and ask y he did it for closure or should I cut him out w out any more words?
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reader, harleygirl2010 +, writes (26 March 2011):
 Hun i hope everything works out for you. Cheating never feels good and i hope you can get the closure and answers your seeking. Good luck my friend.
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reader, Denise32 +, writes (25 March 2011):
 Thanks for the clarification.I hope that if you are able to reach him by phone, that you will get the closure you are seeking. I will add only that being given a reason/explanation for a breakup often is not satisfying emotionally, because you still want the relationship, so be prepared for that.I'd still recommend that you try phoning him just once more and see if he answers. If he does not, and you get a load of "hoo-ha" (and you sure don't need it!!) from that girl, just let it go. Because it will mean he's not prepared to tell you why.......good luck!
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reader, foxy7727 +, writes (25 March 2011):
foxy7727 is verified as being by the original poster of the question To clarify for denise we were together before the night that girl answered his phone it was that night that I assumed it was over because of everything that happend. But thanks everyone for the advice and the 2 female readers who thought I should talk to him face to face that's what I'm going to try to do I am very upset just because I don't kno why. And if its somthing like he found someone else or cheated or feels bad about talking to another girl I feel like at least ill have a reason. And that's all I'm realy looking for. Going from being happy w my bf to no contact what so ever is horrible. I've been cheated on and I feel I want answers it easier for me to move on knowing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2011): You broke up and are obviously hurting about it, so please concentrate on getting yourself right and leave him and this girl to it. If he has got his new girlfriend or whatever she is to do his dirty work then he is not worth your attention.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (25 March 2011):
 I would consider the relationship over and forget about him, he's obviously too much of a chicken to be up front and honest about breaking up.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2011): This is a reply to the comment bellow were someone says you said you broke up 2 days ago so why were you still calling him .... She means that happened 2 days ago... not that they broke up then.. Just saying :)
And love I think he's a waste of space, just let it go and find someone that's gonna treat you right xx ... there is no point being in a relationship where you're insecure, always wondering what he's up to and calling him all the time.. You'll be in more pain than being happy... Trust me I used to be in one and it was awful... Now I have a boyfriend who's amazing and sweet and I trust him with all my heart 3 ... and I have no doubts that you're gonna find someone who will adore you and treat you right... Just have to wait and not settle xx
Hope this helped x
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2011): He has finished with you in the meanest way. So, as much as you want some closure I don't think you'll get it. What do you want him to say? Nothing will ease the pain you currently feel. Best just to think you are better off without someone who has so little respect for you.
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reader, soon567 +, writes (25 March 2011):
She told you they were doing it....that would mean she going to service him. He sleeping with another female for any reason I think it wouldn't be a second thought on my part. Put this in your head, a vision of him humping her!
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reader, harleygirl2010 +, writes (25 March 2011):
I agree with the previous commentor. I think you should try to talk to him face to face. That is really odd that he acted like that and i know i would be beyond upset if some chick answered my bf's phone. I'm sorry that it happened to you. Trying talking face to face and see what happened that night. Figure out if it was real or just some sort of sick joke. Let him know your feelings and where you stand with him on this situation. Good luck to you my friend. I hope things work out for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2011): I see the other peoples views here but I think the real issue here is that it bothers you that you have no idea what happened....one minute your bf/gf the next minute u call him and nothing, call again and nothing then suddenly theres a girl having a go at you.To me it sounds like you want to know what went wrong (As would I) so I would actually suggest trying to go see him face to face and just ask him and be honest about your feelings.Could be that he got to drunk, flirted with girls (perhaps worse but lets stick with best case scenario) and felt guilty so didnt answer your calls then the girl he was with began to put you down and took control...sorry i have an over-active imagination. Its not a good thing all the time as you can see and my bf hates it.
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reader, Denise32 +, writes (25 March 2011):
Well, you said you broke up two days ago, but yet you kept calling him and getting this other girl.You also said you "assumed" things were at an end, and you wanted to break up with him anyway. So if you wanted an end, what are you so upset about?Yes, its over between you. Just let it go now.
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reader, charliesdevil73 +, writes (25 March 2011):
 Yes, you are correct in assuming the relationship is over. He clearly does not want to be with you anymore. But, it is for the best because he is an a**hole. Any man that treats his gf that way is a jerk. Unfortunately, you were dating one of those men. At least you found out now rather than a year later and he does the same thing. Best of luck with future men.
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reader, kaykay1989  +, writes (25 March 2011):
 What I would say is try one more time to ring and try and get closure.If he doesn't bother speaking to you then leave it and stop ringing him. I know it's hard when you don't have that closure but if he wants to be like that then you better off out of it. Trust me!xoxoxox
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reader, GeeGee255 +, writes (25 March 2011):
 A man in love that didn't want to mess his relationship with his gf up would not have left another girl use his phone at a party to harrass you. Yeah, I'd say it's over.
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