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writes:Hi guy, just a question thats been troubling me for sometime now. I hardly get hit on by the opposite sex. I was wondering if its to do with the fact that im a redhead and have a lot of small freckles on my face and body?. After seeing comments in papers what people say about redheads or as they say ginger mingers do you think that this is the opinion that alot of people have of redheads?
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (18 August 2011):
 It's not your hair or your freckles.. it's the "don't bother me vibe" you send out subconsciously...
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reader, maverick494 +, writes (18 August 2011):
As a non redhead I have to say I love red hair. I even got my hair dyed in that shade (not fire engine red, but natural looking) and I got more attention from guys with it than when I had it in any other color.
I'm naturally a dark ash blonde, a shade often dubbed as dishwater blonde. It's a very common haircolor but the reason you don't see it often on adult women is because almost every one of them dyes it in another color, it's that unwanted. In some lighting it looks almost grey. So in that regard I'd rather have hair in a lively ginger colour than something that resembles mud. Hell, if I could push a switch that would magically cause red hair to grow on my head, I'd do it today.
So the short answer would be, no, it's definitely NOT your haircolor.
I have to say though that because redheads (ones born that way) are so rare, I often notice they're insecure about their haircolor and freckles. That insecurity is picked up by guys and that can be a turn-off. So try to be happy that you're among the few that have this haircolor naturally and be more confident about yourself!
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reader, Tom Obler +, writes (18 August 2011):
 Definitely not your hair. OK absolutely not. I think red heads are fantasstic by the way. As well as the other advice, why not dye your hair as a bit of fun and see what happens. This will then convince you it is not your hair. By the way, I'm quite sure that Nicole Kidman is a fantastic example of how popular red heads are.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2011): Being hit on has little to do with hair colour. Or looks, even! It has everything to do with availability. Guys will generally only approach someone where they think there's a decent chance of their overtures being received positively. An average looking woman with a big smile, open body language, a fun demeanour, and sexy clothes will get hit on more often than a stunning woman who seems uninterested.
However, being 'hit on' is not all its cracked up to be. It can actually be quite demeaning and can make you feel cheap. Try to find your beauty inside yourself, rather than in the eyes of others. Also, honestly, the type of guys that move in opportunistically aren't always the nicest people. Better to find someone who's interested in YOU!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2011): Thankyou guys, maybe its as you say, i do tend to be shy and dont pickup on people checking me out. My friends say i should be more proactive but i find it difficult to put myself out there.
Maybe im scared of meeting a wrong one, arent we all!
I will just go out and try and be more observant the next time x
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (18 August 2011):
 No, it can't be that. Red is SEXY. Have you seen how many dyed redheads are there around ? Zillions, and it must mean something if so many women are willing to spend money to BECOME redheads.
Including me :) I inherited the washed down version of my gingerhead grandfather genes : I am a brunette with natural red highlights, a milky -white skin, and just a light smattering of freckles. I haven't got to the point ( yet ) to draw fake freckles with a pencil on my face :) but I sure do use chemicals to play up my auburn-ess ?( auburn-ity ?) and become the redhead that in my heart I was meant to be. I can't say that I ever noticed my hair colour hindering me in being noticed /appreciated by men- if any ,it helped.
Difficult to say not knowing you , but just throwing a guess, maybe you need to adjust your mental attitude , not your hair colour. Be a PROUD, confident redhead ( rather that a self deprecating one ) and they'll flock to you .
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reader, GRIFF TANNEN +, writes (18 August 2011):
 You hardly get hit on by the opposite sex. Oh dear.
Well I can tell you this, I NEVER get hit on by the opposite sex, and I know plenty of people who never get hit on.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (18 August 2011):
My girlfriend is a redhead, and all my ex's have been redheads, except for one who dyed her hair red. So I'm one of those big fans of redheads.
It's not your hair. Might be a confidence thing instead, or maybe you're not in the right place to meet the right guy.
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reader, harleygirl2010 +, writes (18 August 2011):
 I don't think it has anything to do with your hair or freckles. I'm brunette with natural red and blond highlights in it and it looks bright red when i'm in the sun with thousands of freckles every where. I have had my fair share of hit ons and bfs but it isnt your hair or freckles. Be proud of your hair red is an awesome hair color to have. :)
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (18 August 2011):
 Personality and a smile trumps a million freckles and auburn trusses. Having once married a redhead, I cannot agree that "a lot" of men are not attracted to redheads per se - just work on being a bit more approachable.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2011): I doubt very much it is because you're a redhead. My sister is a redhead and she's had loads of boyfriends (even girlfriends, she's bisexual), and always gets compliments when she's out. One guy could be REALLY attracted to redheads, when another guy wont. Just like one guy could be really attracted to brunettes, when another might not like brunettes. It all depends on the person and I've knew quite a few men who find red heads attractive.I think the whole 'ginger minger' attitude towards ginger people is just school kids and immature young people. The only reason redheads can get it in the neck so much sometimes is because they're different, but what's wrong with being different? I'd love to be unique, you should be proud of who you are and flaunt it.
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reader, TheChupaChump +, writes (18 August 2011):
 I think RedHeads are beautiful people. It's different and I think its good to be different, if eveyone was the same, I think i would die, i wouldnt want everyone to be a phyco like my ex :/
Red heads are beautiful and forget the world you will find the lucky person! :D
Good Luck! x
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reader, RedAthena +, writes (18 August 2011):
 I am 42 and a ginger/redhead, curvy, hot temper, etc...
Some men are not attracted to redheads, just like some are not attracted to (fill in the blank). It does not mean you are unattractive:)
I do get hit on and some men LOVVVVVVVVVVVE redheads and prefer them! Yay us:) Some are afraid of us..(and should be!).
Do not be concerned about hardly getting hit on...the ones that do are the ones that can handle us! :D
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