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writes:My ex and I broke up about 3 months ago, we were together for a year, the relationship was tough, we were on and off and finally we both got sick of it called it quits. I've moved on now, I know im not completely over it but i'm fine. He on the other hand keeps sending me messages saying he's not over me and he cares about me and stuff. Then for the 2nd time he goes to my boyfriend and tells him 1st that I cheated (which is not true) and yesterday that I say bad stuff about him behind his back.It made me think he's trying to get my boyfriend to break up with me but I don't know why he would do that since he'd told me that he likes a different girl too. Shouldn't he be trying with the girl instead of trying to ruin what I have. I just want him to stop but I don't know what he's trying to do. Everytime I try to contact him he ignores me and never answers. Anyone have any ideas?
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reader, harleygirl2010 +, writes (10 January 2011):
 That is really messed up and i'm sorry he is doing that to you. You should talk to your bf so he know whats going on and that your ex is lying. I had something like this happen to me about 3 yrs. ago. Some girl i didn't even know and the only my bf knew her was because he was friends with her bf. She told him i was cheating on him and giving other guys head behind his back. We sat down and had a long chat over it and he felt bad for doubting me and listening to someone else before believing me. So just sit him down and talk to him and make him understand that it's lies and your ex is just being and complete and total jerk. Hope this helps you some.
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (10 January 2011):
 You and your boyfriend have to ignore him. If he is trying to ignite even the faintest flame of doubt, you cannot let him succeed and to do that you have to let your boyfriend know what is happening so he can ignore your ex. The moment you hear his voice on the other end of the phone, you hang up. Your boyfriend should do the same. He just wants to watch your relationship suffer and die, for no other reason than the fact that he is not over you. I suppose you could always confront your ex and talk to him about it all, ask him why he is trying to destroy your relationship. No doubt he will deny everything, tell him to stop contacting you or your boyfriend and suggest settling for friendship later on but for now, you both just need time to yourselves to move on. Tell him that he can either accept that or he can remove himself from your life.
I hope that helps.
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael +, writes (10 January 2011):
You and your boyfriend have to ignore him. If he is trying to ignite even the faintest flame of doubt, you cannot let him succeed and to do that you have to let your boyfriend know what is happening so he can ignore your ex. The moment you hear his voice on the other end of the phone, you hang up. Your boyfriend should do the same. He just wants to watch your relationship suffer and die, for no other reason than the fact that he is not over you. I suppose you could always confront your ex and talk to him about it all, ask him why he is trying to destroy your relationship. No doubt he will deny everything, tell him to stop contacting you or your boyfriend and suggest settling for friendship later on but for now, you both just need time to yourselves to move on. Tell him that he can either accept that or he can remove himself from your life.
I hope that helps.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (10 January 2011):
 Your former boyfriend is a bastard?
I do know what your former boyfriend is doing. He's badmouthing you. Talk to your current boyfriend about it.
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reader, Sophyah +, writes (10 January 2011):
 Honestly, sweetie yes thats a classic case of a 'hating' ex..what you need to do is talk to your significant other and tell him the problemlet him know whats going on. Then as for the other guy dont reply to anything he writes you..when you answer anything he says to you, you only show that your still stuck on him as he is on you :) i hope i gave you somethng you can use
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