Virgin and the Future

A female age 36-40, anonymous writes:

Hello, I am 22 will be 23 in a couple months. I am dating a wonderful guy he is 21 and will be 22 this year. We met last year in Feb at work, he had a girlfriend at the time and would talk to me in getting my point of view on things. She was younger then him. Well they broke up and six months later and he asked me to go out with him, I said no because I am a virgin and never had a serious bf, just the usually talking to a guy but once it got serious i would jump ship. Well in Aug he asked me again and i said no so he basically said he would stop trying, i thought i was going to lose my chance so a few days later i told him i would go out with him (found out from him that he wouldn't of stopped trying, he would of just stopped asking)So he did not have a problem with me being a virgin and knew that i was looking to wait for marriage (made that choice from issues that happen) I told him i loved him two months in which if you knew me i actually did. he told me a month later. well three months later he would open up to be and say it was difficult because he was so attracted to me and wanted to make love to me. we had and have a great relationship --not alot of fighting and we always talk unlike when he was with his ex. i trust him and he trusts me, at one point i told him that i really loved him and wanted to make love to him to but later found out i did not explain myself clearly because weeks later he finally wanted to show me were he lived. he lives with a roommate (his older sister)well we are in his room chilling and then we start making out. i noticed it was leading to sex so i stopped well that day he told me we should be friends because he didnt want to feel like he rushed me into anything and thought i was ready from what i said we talked and he cried but said it had to be done. i cried and cried and never felt like that before and it didnt help that i saw him everyday or in the fact i text him everyday because i was not use to not talking to him. well five days later he told me he missed me and loved me. we talked and i told him i am not looking to wait for marriage due to the fact my mindset changed because i see myself with him and marrying him. i get some days where i want to take that step and then somedays where i dont. i am not going to have sex with him until i am fully ready but i am kind of wondering about the future. his ex still tries and contact him but he does not give her the time of day. she invites him over and he has not had sex for 7 months but he told me some guys shoot most guys would take her offer since they havent and he loves me and does not want to make relationship mistakes again. i know that with him its not about the sex because if it was he would of not gotten back with me and went back with her to have sex. its more of the connection in building on our love and becoming closer then we are. So right now we are good, i try to avoid going over his house but i just dont understand why im afraid to take that step.

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