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36-40,
*ourden1
writes:ive been with this guy for bout 10 months. I grew to love him. ive been there for him since day one. everything was fine between us. when he needed help with anything i was there. if he ever cheated i never knew because i didnt want to feel hurt and i didnt want to snoop and find things to feel hurt i loved him and that all that mattered. i know i sound real dumb by saying he cheated and i want him back. but i dont know what to do. like i remember he had a profile made somewhere he had my pics up.. after a while he took them down i asked why he made up some story i said yeah what ever, cried about it but left it alone, then i noticed round that time he start acting weird..like always gotta do something or when call he always out and about..breaking our dates.time went by...i just went along with it. like a month ago i found out i was pregnant and talked and made a decision.. but after we met up and talked about what we gona do i saw less and less of him but i always spoke to him but to me i saw less of him because he started a new job...so i thought it was ok.... but i logged on to that site just a few days ago i got a note from someone(girl 1) askin how is my relation with him? like she asked me before but i ignored her and i asked him who she was i was lost and confused cuz the same girl was the one who commented my pics with him saying great pic and blah blah...and then she sent me notes that he wrote to her....i said ok did he ever meet you? she said that he hasn't but he tried and asked...i said ok then leave it alone go on with ya life and leave us alone...then she(girl 1) pointed me to someone else profile(girl 2) ..she left him a comment under his profile she(girl 1) said that it said something with bbm and she(girl 2) luv him....i looked. it said some of those words but not how she put it...i left it be...so the chic(girl 1) who was sending me notes like come one smell the coffee he was talking to me and that proves hes talking to her...im like can you just leave us alone,,,in my head im like we have a bigger situation then this dumb website...and she just kept writing so yeah im like ugh this is getting to me wtf she trying to proove here.....so(girl 1) is now putting (girl 2) in it.. sending notes to her asking her how do she know my boyfriend..(girl 1) copy and paste the notes from girl 2 and she replies back she do know my bf....soooo thats where it started..i ask her who is she blah blah im like this chic(girl 1) pissing me off imma block her and getting off this site....hit me on bbm..so she did we talked no fighting..and she told me about her and him like the time she met..she met him when he took my pics down and she said she knew who i was thats why she stop talking to him..so im like ok well you stop talking to him good this is done...but she said he wanted to make up or somethin im like ok keep going..she said she got trust issues and he needed to work on that ...so the time that he was acting funny toward me ..was him trying to be on her good side.. and but she said that she couldnt take it so she left him alone again like they never met always had plans to but she aint down with it and was like what ever....so i approached him and now he on silent mode he dont wanna talk to me or anything :( i mean he did but once i put it in the open that i knew he has been quiet..like i was tellin him about the girl 1 writing to me and the other girl he like it could be you writing...im like why what for i dont care for this bs but i just want to let you know and im tired of this you got caught i mean you aint sleep with either one but its was the stuff you said about me and crap ..like i just wanna tell him that i dont care about her or that other chic like you never met them you never did nothin i mean you tried to or what ever so how can i be to mad at you...and once again in pregnant and we a have a appointment to go to this weekend i need him to be there i love him dearly and im trying tell him im not calling to fight and im not textin him to bust him i know what i have to and things are done..what do i do please im in tears im pregnant i want him and i dont know wat to do :(
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reader, fishy fish +, writes (17 August 2010):
Well dear , i think your guy is a big flirt , he's definitely been cheating on you and flirting with other women behind your back while you're loving him and maintaining your emotional link and saving your relationship with him, i'm totally against abortion but you should double think about having this baby with an immature father and troubled relationship between you 2, he's definitely not ready to be in a relationship let alone have a baby!!!!
He's immature for sure and turning it on silent instead of being a man about it and fulfilling his responsabilities as a man in a serious relation and future father.
PLz sit with him and have a serious talk here, we're not talking about puppy love, he has to assume his responsabilities, but don't expect a major change dear, i'm rather concerned about the future rather than the past. Good luck.
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