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writes:I was seeing a man for 4 months. I found out he was doing a few things to me behind my back. He had lied about his age, he had another women he was spending time with. He never took me on dates,i just felt hidden. It all began to add up. I did confront him and of course he denided it all. So a few days a go I sent him a text and it said " I just wanted to let you know that our friendship is not working out for me and I am sick of your hot and cold behavior and there are plenty of men who would love to be seen with me and have me as a friend. We had a good ride lets leave it at that and take care." He replied he was speechless and then we had a text war and I asked him to talk to me me and he told me he did not want to say anything he would regret. I did text him asking if we can talk like adults. But now he is ignoring me. My question is is he going to ignor me forever and I will never be able to get any answers? Or will he come around? I should not even care but I want to tell him what I know and how he made me feel. The reason why I sent it in a text is becasue thats all we did is text when we communicated we never spoke on phone. Will he come around eventually and get a hold of me? If he never wanted to talk to me again wouldnt he tell me to leave him alone? Which I am and I do not even know why I want to talk to him, closure I guess.Advice?
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reader, mrs.ophelia +, writes (18 March 2011):
You obviously do not want to be a "hidden" item in anyone's life, it is degrading & overtime it will affect the way you view your own self. Texting may be good here and there, but really if he cared at all he would talk with you however you wished. Trust me, I've dated a man just like you've described yours and really they boil down to insecure, uncommitted jack-asses who care only for themselves. Right now he is just waiting for you to keep contacting him so he can have the power again and dictate how your relationship should be, don't give in, stay strong, stay busy. If he is a decent guy he will own up to his shortcomings and apologize for being insensitive to your needs, if not forget about him. Hope this helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 March 2011): Forget about him. He's straight grime for doing you like that. He's ignoring you because he's defensive because you busted him. He also idiot for copping an attitude with you with a text war when it's his dumbass that's wrong. I say you got the closure which is finding out he's a cruel heartless bastard for manipulating deceiving and playing on and your time heart and emotions. Kick that worthless dumbass back into the gutter that he slithered out of. He's a venomous snake.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 March 2011): I would leave it as is and sever all ties with him now. Don't waste your time waiting around on him to talk to you because if and when he does every word out of his mouth willl be a lie just like it's been from him all along. Fck the lowlife player scoundrel. He's not relationship material. You want a man not a skankass playing gutter rat.
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reader, cupidus  +, writes (17 March 2011):
 No he's not going to ignore you forever, but hopefully you'll ignore him forever. You tell him you can do much better than him.. Than do it. Do you really need this?
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reader, fishy fish +, writes (17 March 2011):
I think you did the right thing by sending him that text! wow 4 months of that behavior , you were really patient , my point is he lied to you in more things than one , red alarm ! dump him and don't regret the text you said, especially that he was defensive and acting like a victim here! he's ignoring you cause he has nothing else to say, so plz stop texting him or getting in touch cause you'll come across as the guilty one where you're the one who was lied to and treated badly! you did the right thing! leave him , you'll hear from him in a while when he realises what he did and what he lost ! good luck!
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reader, Jjang19 +, writes (17 March 2011):
Seems like its not worth your time to even bother
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 March 2011): I would send him and email or write a letter which states what you want to say to him instead of in person if he is ignoring you. Then there is not much else you can do after that. Given everything you have stated here, he is not worth your time. Hopefully this will start to give you some closure. Good luck.
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