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writes:Hi all, I ;ve just sadly come out of a 3 month relationship that was not making me happy- basically the guy had emotional issues, and stared acting withdrawn, both physically, and emotionally, and was playing games with my feelngs E;G - not taking my calls unless I IM'd him, not picking up my calls, he stopped taking me out, and was complaining about his problems all the time. I felt he was controlling, and his problems were too much for me in the end. He was so lovely in the beginning - kind, generous, took me to meet his family, and took me out. I just did not understand why/how he switched and why if he hated me that much - he keeps on coming over. Anyway to cut a long story short -it;s been a week since I last saw him, and I am missing him. He walked out the last time I saw him as I told him I want to get serious about us and I tried to text him, and he told me I was being 'too hard' the next day. I texted him again on saturday,and he did not respond. I canot understand why I am missing him so much, and am so close to contacting him, as I want to know if he still cares. How do I stop myself contacting him? as I know that if I leave it for a longer period of time - I wil find out if he really likes me or not,? and how long will it take to find out until when or if he does call me? How many days? weeks? until I give up and forget it? Thanks xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi Fishy Fish, thanks for your answer. I know you are right, and infact it hadn;t occured to me that I was actually making things worse by keeping on getting in touch with him. I just cannot get my head around how nice and serious he was at the start ( serious enough to introduce me to his family & freinds, buy me a diamond necklace, take me out, do stuff for me) then he turned into a controlling brute. The things is,I still miss him and it;s getting worse - not better or easier, and I go to bed early after work, so I don;t have to think about it, and I cannot bear the thought of him taking up with another girl either, and I still miss the sex which was really good - the best I have had. I stuck myself back on the dating website where I met him last week, and put myself down as ' ready to date' he has seen it, but this mornig I felt guilty, and hid my profile. I feel so addicited to this guy- and it is so not healthy, but am finding i hard to get my head round the fact that he hasn;t even bothered to contact me - i thin khe is waiting for me as per usual. I really hope i can move away for this soon, as I even dream about him, and wake up upset. he really managed to reel me in, and as soon as I trusted and loved him, he started walking all over me. How long wil this take I wonder? But yes, I will keep running as afst as i can, and hope this pain will go soon. Thanks - Natx
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reader, fishy fish  +, writes (25 August 2010):
The guy has clearly big emotional issues! Don't get in touch with him as ur making it worse and letting him take you for granted more and more. be strong and show lots of dignity and strength. You need a man who makes you happy otherwise what's the point of being with someone, better be alone than with the wrong company. Forget about him and stop remembering how he made you happy at start , they all do, he showed his real skin just few months down the road, you're not happy with him you decided to walk away and bravo that was the right thing to do. now stick to your decision this guy is bad news . Runaway.
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