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writes:I've been dating my boyfriend for almost 5 years and recently he has been sayin that he doesn't deserve me. He keeps saying that I should break up with him and everything. I don't know if he doesn't love anymore or he wants to find some one new. Reply to this Question
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (31 August 2010):
Because you are too good for him. And he knows it. Chances are he wants to break up but is too soft to do it, so is hoping you will. This is the sort of guy you don't need in your life.
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reader, sorceedea +, writes (31 August 2010):
 I've been there with my ex whom i was with almost 5yrs. He always use to tell me the same thing and as it turned out, he always wanted to leave me after he'd say that because he was getting to know another girl. I always got hurt and hence, put up with it all. To be honest with you, he's probably looking at another girl and wants out with you to test the waters. He wants to see which water taste better to then come back to you if for some reason he does not like the other girl. That's what my ex did to me. It's not worth it. You'll get hurt and you'll get played. Leave him while you still can and find yourself a better man who will value and love you. He'll probably look back and regret losing you. Just like my ex did.
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (31 August 2010):
 Have you tried asking him why he thinks that he doesn't deserve you? Does he have low self-esteem or could he be depressed? Other than that there really isn't any genuine reason why he'd be saying these things and actually meaning them...
Generally speaking its not a good sign, especially if he's just started saying it after 5 years, hopefully he's not preparing you for a breakup. But don't torture yourself by over-thinking this anymore... just talk to him!
Best of luck :)
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reader, lil-kitten-02 +, writes (31 August 2010):
 Sweetheart! Take it from someone who has been there. Almost two years ago, I was on here asking the same thing. He is saying that because he may have gotten someone else and is not man enough to come out and tell you. He is doing that "It's me, not you. Let's be friends!" routine. My advice is to let him go. But make sure that he does not go around playing victim like some guilt-ridden jerk! Don't cry! God is preparing you for the right man. Remember, you were too good for him anyway!
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reader, fishy fish +, writes (31 August 2010):
He probably wants out and doesn't know from where to start telling you his decision, might be because of a guilt he's unable to cope with or he realized that u love him way too much and you're not on the same wave length as his. not good sign . sorry
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reader, dirtball +, writes (31 August 2010):
 It is either a manifestation of guilt about something, or a way to test your love. Neither are a good sing in my book.
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reader, LLindy87 +, writes (31 August 2010):
 I'm guessing he secretly wants to break up with you and wants you to break up with him because he's probably feeling guilty about something and doesn't want to fess up to it.
I've used that line before with guys, I broke up with one of my past boyfriends saying that he deserves better because the whole time we were dating, only three weeks, I was a liar. I wanted a boyfriend and lied about my feelings for him. He was a great loving guy, he wished me the world and fell for me very quickly, I began to feel guilty I didn't feel the same but would tell him I did. I finally came to terms with my behavior and ended the relationship right then and there because I wasn't being fair to him, he did deserve better. When someone tells you that...there is usually a big reason for it.
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