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writes:i have been with my boyfriend for nearly two years and asked him about his views on marriage and children, he gave me answers but also told me that since a situation in his past he has never been able to love anyone since and although he cares for me as much as he can he cant let himself love me.i love him and really want us to be together do you think this is possible if he wont let himself love me...? Reply to this Question
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (1 November 2008):
Well it'll be a big risk to commit to that.
He could stay caring about you and get married and have kids and you could love him with all your heart and then suddenly he meets a girl who he falls in love for and you are left alone.
Alternatively he may fall for you eventually and you get a happy ending.
I would advise sticking with him for now but don't agree to marry him if he can't love you. He would have to promise to love and cherish you and that would mean he was lying.
Try and get him to work through what ever it is that's stopping him from letting go but if he can't do that then you may have to give up and look elsewhere for long term love.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, rcn  +, writes (1 November 2008):
 It is, but he needs to work on overcoming the mental blocks which are disabling his ability to expand his feelings. What happens is when bad things happen in a relationship, and that one ends, even though the person who caused the pain is no longer their, our minds recognize and attach "relationship" to the "pain" which was caused in the past. Therefore being in a relationship is what triggers those fears even though you didn't cause them.
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