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writes: Sorry if this is long, I just need to tell how i feel to some one and them not judge me straight away or tell me what to do as it would be better for them.3 weeks ago i went on holiday with two of my mum and dads friends familys, when we went i had been with my boyfriend for a year and this was the first time i was going to be apart from him and when i went i was so depressed i cried and cried as i didnt want to leave him.One of the familys has a boy my age and i used to have one of those silly little crushes you have when your younger on him, but he had changed so much i new i wouldnt have any feelings for him at all, untill two days before he went he cut his hair, changed his style and went back to this person he used to be and if im honest i though straight away how good looking he was. Over the 3 weeks me and him went off on our own, and my friend from the other family which was female said that he had said he liked me and liked the fact that we was close and i had kept feeling jealous when he went off with the other girls.I came home 3 days ago and saw my boyfriend and all my love and feelings came rushing back for him and everything i felt for the other boy went, but then i found myself when i was on my own wishing he was here so i could talk to him, and wishing that i hadnt wished my holiday away, as the whole time i couldnt wait to get home and see my boyfriend.Then i spoke to my friends and heard everything they had been doing and how close they all were it just got me feeling really down and then i spoke to the boy who i went on holiday withs mum and she said he had been out to partys and with his friends and i just though how much i wished i hung around with him..But i no i love my boyfriend so much i would do anything for him, so why am i feeling these petty feelings towards another boy? and why do i feel so left out and alone?Please help xx
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (1 November 2008):
Well do you really feel for your boyfriend or is he just there? Sometimes you can get with a person and just get really used to having them around for that constant good feeling and companionship. The fact you forgot him as soon as you saw a boy with a nice haircut suggests to me your feelings for your boyfriend may be more about convenience than real love.
As for this other boy, is he in your head as a perfect much better alternative to your boyfriend?
Could you be dreaming of escape from your mundane relationship and this new boy just symbolises that?
It could just be a crush and you could improve things with your boyfriend, or it could be a sign that you are in the wrong relationship.
Think long and hard what you want long term.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2008): I think you went from a fun stimulating experience to the same old daily grind and that has not probably helped.Its normal to feel lonley when everyone else is "having fun together" and you feel "left out" I think also that your swinging back and forth for two guys is normal too. Its human nature you not MARRIEd there fore you can feel this way without guilt, and there is no PERFECT person out there so maybe your feeling twords the other boy because of his certain personalities that your bf doesn't have.I think you should get back in touch with your friends and go have fun hang out!
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