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writes:Okay maybe someone can help me with my dillema, I'm 21 and gay, open about it. Now whenever it comes to relationships I always hit a wall. Most guys approach me and compliment me on my good looks and appearance and then immediately ask me for a "hook up" I always decline because thats not the type of person I am, but it begins to get frustrating when I want to find that one guy that wants to be a in a monogamous relationship and not freely neely with sex.I'm sure I'm not the only one that has been through this situation but is there somewhere I could maybe meet someone that isn't only looking for a "hook-up" or am I giving the wrong impression? I just don't know at this point. Reply to this Question
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reader, HotANDcold +, writes (8 November 2008):
i am completely on your side,it had happen to me many times and it bothers me a lot when boys would just come to me because of mine"good looks". i really wanted a serious relationship which didnt just depend on sex but i must say its hard to find a person like that.
my boyfriend most of the time wants to go straight to my room and even if i tell him listen why dont we just watch the movie he tells me ohh but i really miss your body.
so yes it is really hard to find a person whos capable of expending quality time with you without desiring to have sex.
give yourself some credit for not wanting to have this type of adventures. Hookups are only for people who wants to enjoy life without being happy. and i only settle for a serious relationship,in my case.
So good luck dude
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (1 November 2008):
The gay scene is incredibly focused on sex. If you go out then that is pretty much what is going to be on offer.
What you need is to make some friends with other gay guys or girls that have gay friends. Then they could introduce you to someone nice without that pressure.
Expand your circle of friends in a gay direction.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2008): Hey there, You're incredibly responsible to want to have a LTR rather than one night stands. Unfortunately going out is like stepping into a room full of dogs on heat. It's difficult to find somebody to have a LTR with; it usually happens with a chance meeting or something along those lines. It's not everyone's cup of tea but have you tried any internet sites? Gay web sites where you can specify what kind of relationship you're looking for might direct you towards people in the same mindset as you. You sound like a lovely guy, best of luck, I hope you find Mr. Right soon. :)
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reader, Reebe +, writes (1 November 2008):
 Sounds like your a good looking guy, and unfortunatly, gay or straight, you will get offers like this. Good for you for having the self confidence and respect for yourself to say no.
The right person will come along, and will want what you want you just have to hang in there and wait for them to arrive :-)
Good Luck!
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