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*wincess_titi
writes:Me and my boyfriend have been going out for the past year and its been great but recently i feel i really resent him, i don't want to talk to him, text him, see him or anything. I feel as if i want to see other people and have fun. I don't know if its because i'm at university and he's at home trying to look for work but this feeling just came out of the blue. He doesn't have any family apart from his mum, 2 step-brothers and 1 step-sister and feel bad when he says I'm so alone all i have is you. someone please help!
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (1 November 2008):
Tell him to go and do some volunteering work and to join some kind of sports club or writers group or something that interests him.
Get him out of his house and make him make some friends.
You can't stay with him because you feel guilty.
Give him some options to make life easier and tell him to get a christmas job somewhere as that is better than being on the dole.
After that you can split up with him as you will have done all you can.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, shna  +, writes (1 November 2008):
 before i go in to detail you have to decide what you really want. it does sound like you would be happier alone and out there meeting new people. but are you sure you want to let him go??right now becuase you away your in college you might feel it is to much of a drag to come back everyweek you have freedom and you i get them impression its like a chore to make the effort with him , you should give it a chance, but only if you really want to tell him he needs a job he needs to get out there and have a life away from you and not just be pinning for you until you come home. he needs to socialise with people beyond you, dont get me wrong im sure your a nice person but he cant just depend on you for the rest of your time together and im sure you dont want that either . unless you know you have definatly made your ind up then break it off but be nice , unless you want karma to come bk and bite you one day . x
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2008): How can he be an equal partner in a relationship if he has nothing else positive going on in his life? You are not responsible for his well being- he is. If you don't feel the same toward him anymore, break it off with him. It's the kindest thing to do. Maybe he will be motivated to get his own life on track.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2008): look im going through the same problem but im a little bit different...look if u continued with him but u dont want him ull be laughing at him and at ur self and if u leave him now it will be easier for and for him and alot more nicer so i say leave him now before he gets too attached to you
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