I distrust my husband with his work colleague as they flirted before, what can I do?
Q. Hi, I found my husband had been flirty texting a work colleague from another office while we were going through a bad patch which is now truly resolved. He was full of remorse and promised he told her it had to stop and has proved with his mobile p...
A. 10 February 2009: That sounds like the type of email that he would send to lots of people, not just her. Are you sure it was just to her?
The fact she hasn't responded says to me that she is keeping her distance and is no longer interested.
I think there come... (read in full...)
I worry I might have herpes, warts, or rash?
Q. My boyfriend and I had lots of sex this one week, and I started to get a little sore during this week. After, I went to the gyno for a checkup on my cervical dysplasia. The gyno said it was mild and took a sample of my cervix. It gave me a strange ...
A. 10 February 2009: You've got the right idea about going straight back to the doc. You don't say if you used a condom with your boyfriend.
I think there is a chance that it is an STD but you might not want to go accusing him before you get checked out just in case ... (read in full...)
Why do I never seem to meet single people who have no hang ups and that are honest?
Q. I am a divorced man and have been single for well over a year. Since my divorce i have been quite active on the dating scene but have got to the point where i am so tired of being let down, or having my fingers burned from dating unavailable people ...
A. 10 February 2009: If you are actively looking then you may just be attracting the wrong types.
Stop looking so hard for a while and just chill out and have some fun, go out looking to make new friends rather than girlfriends.
All the single girls who are lo... (read in full...)
Delayed period, what could it be?
Q. i am a 19 year old lesbian ....i have been with my girlfriend for a very long time i usually get my period two days after her is been about a month passed is till havent gotten it i dont sleep with boys so what could it be im very scared...
A. 10 February 2009: Could be that you are ill, could just be stress, could be any number of things.
If you are more than a week late then go and see your doctor.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
What can I do to make him stay?
Q. Me and my boyfriend was together for 10 months now and we`re not in love anymore.He wants to leave me.What can I do to make him want to stay?...
A. 10 February 2009: Well if you are not in love any more why would you want him to stay?
Let him go and it will all be fine.
You are very young so this is all part of the learning process. If you can figure out the best way to get over someone while you are yo... (read in full...)
He has a g/f but I want him to know my feelings
Q. Oks, so, I like this guy (naming no names) and I'm not sure whether he likes me or not but I'm pretty sure (80% maybe?) that he does. We used to go out a few months ago but split up due to certain reasons, nothing serious though that would stop us ...
A. 10 February 2009: So you want to tell him to make you feel better and because you hope he'll then dump this girl for you.
This is all about you, isn't it?
Why not just leave him be? He was flirting with you and you hung out and had fun so he had his chance to as... (read in full...)
Am I doomed to be one of those creepy cat ladies?
Q. I don't know what to do anymore. My really good friend doesn't talk to me anymore. I didn't do anything wrong. I had a huge thing for him and he might've liked me too, but I never pursued anything. I don't think he even knew. I feel dumb for ...
A. 10 February 2009: You are young and just because you've been rejected by one guy means nothing.
Go out with your girl friends, join a new club or volunteer in some way and meet new people.
You'll be fine.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Why is he giving me the cold shoulder?
Q. At a new year party I met a great guy. We were both drunk and ended up spending the whole night kissing and talking, we had so much in common and I really fell for him. We text a bit after that and last week I went to a party at his house. He ...
A. 10 February 2009: Maybe he has a girlfriend, maybe he was too drunk the first time and didn't recognise you.
As you say you only met him once and spent most of that time snogging, you hardly know him very well and he could just be an arse hole.
If he's being... (read in full...)
Why is he texting me so often when he's living with someone else???
Q. Me and boyfriend finished at christmas after he met someone else, we were together for 11 years he moved in with her straight away. I have received 12 texts since last Tuesday, firstly saying why did I not say hello when I saw him at football, then ...
A. 10 February 2009: I think he's feeling very guilty that he abandoned you and hurt you... and even if he met someone else he's not going to stop caring all together. He wants to be friends so so he's being ultra friendly to try and make you forgive him faster. This ... (read in full...)
What is causing me to have this "brewers droop?"
Q. Ok, bit of a long winded question but I really need help so here we go... Up until summer last year, my sex drive was perfectly normal and I frequently had erections without even thinking about it. Until that point I hadn't had much experience ...
A. 10 February 2009: ED is often a symptom rather than a condition.
My first thought was stress as it's REALLY common for guys not to be able to perform for a girl when it's the first few times and you really care about her. You just get too nervous because it's so ... (read in full...)
Why do we always fall for the wrong people???
Q. Why do we love people who are wrong for us more than the people who are right for us - majority of the time? Is it cos we have less chance to have the person who is wrong for us than the person who is right for us?? are the good ones almost 'too ...
A. 10 February 2009: You don't ALWAYS fall for the wrong people, you have just been unlucky so far.
Or you have a complex where you want to help and "fix" someone.
In these modern times you can either mope about and complain about how technology makes it more op... (read in full...)
I would love to settle down but I don't know if my boyfriend is right for me...
Q. I am 28 years old and looking to settle down and have kids. I get on really well with my boyfriend, we are both sociable and he makes me happy. However, I worried that perhaps he is not right for me if I am looking to settle down. He has little ...
A. 10 February 2009: He said he will grow up and you have said you have given him 6 MONTHS to prove this... why give him any longer than that?
It's 2009, we girls don't HAVE to marry the guy that we're not happy with, we can be picky and choosy.
Why settle fo... (read in full...)
Is it still possible to fall pregnant even although we both had alcohol in our system?
Q. Well my ex boyfriend and I Got drunk and slept together having sex on Saturday 2/7/09 and Sunday 2/8/09 unprotected and about 3 times and all, 3 times I believe he ejaculated in me I checked my ovulation calendar and both of those days we're my ...
A. 10 February 2009: If alcohol was a contraceptive then there would be a LOT less children in the world.
You are almost JUST about in time to get the morning after pill. Go to the family planning clinic in your area RIGHT NOW!
I don;t know who told you that yo... (read in full...)
My guy friend has anger management problems, how can I get him to understand that?
Q. Hi im 17 and I've been having this problem with one of my really close guy friends. His mother has recently passed away and he's only 16. the only people he has in his life is me and his sister. Everytime we are together which is alot he always ...
A. 10 February 2009: He's acting like this (threatening suicide, turning it on you etc) because he is mentally ill. He's depressed and needs help.
Tell him you will only be his friend if he sees a doctor and tell his sister that he needs PROFESSIONAL help, and that... (read in full...)
Should I give her an ultimatum?
Q. my girlfriend have been together for 9 months. she wants to move out of her parents house and move in with her friend and her friends boyfriend another 30 mins away (making her living an hour away after the move). we both consider this to be a very ...
A. 8 February 2009: An ultimatum?????? Do you actually mean that?
Why would you get all serious and threatening about her moving in with you or losing you?
Ask her to move in and if she is ready for that then Yey for you.
If she is not ready and wants to live ... (read in full...)
My g/f is pregnant and now acting all weird
Q. Kay my friend told me she's 10 weeks pregnant (she cheated on her boyfriend with his friend and haven't told anyone yet besides me and other friend of hers) she took a home pregnancy test and it say she was going to be mommy. She completely freaked ...
A. 8 February 2009: This is one of the worst things that can happen to a girl at your age. She was scared, alone, confused and upset, and you made a joke.
No wonder she blew up in your face.
What she needs is support, friendship and HELPFUL advice on what t... (read in full...)
My mate won't talk to me if I go out with this boy, what do I do?
Q. My best mate fancies the pants off this boy she told him that she likes him but he said that he likes me my mate said that i cannot go out with him or she will talk to me ever again. i want to go out with him but i don't want to lose my frie...
A. 8 February 2009: Don't go out with him!
It would be hurtful and nasty to rub your best mate's feelings into the mud like that.
I very much doubt he would be worth hurting your friend for.
Tell him no and go out for a big day of shopping with her to han... (read in full...)
Men, would you let your partner sunbathe topless?
Q. Hey i was just wondering what guys out there would let their GF/Fiance/Wife sunbathe topless in public? Or any women out there who knows if their BF/Fiance/Husband would let them, or if they still would if their partner would let them or not lol?...
A. 8 February 2009: Personally I wouldn't do it anyway, but lets assume for the sake of this question that I love getting sunburned boobies. You can get arrested for public indecency if you do it in the UK so I'll also assume I'm on holiday and on a beach.
My hu... (read in full...)
I don't think my mom approves of my g/f
Q. I have been going out and have been living together with my girlfriend, who has Cerebral Palsy. We have both met my parents twice. I get that impression that she cannot get used for us being together. When I asked my mum what she thought abou...
A. 8 February 2009: Do you think it is because of the CP?
My friend's boyfriend does a lot of caring for her due to a few things she has wrong with her.
Much as she is a wonderful girl, and as much as he loves her, and as much as she looks after him and makes hi... (read in full...)
Should I make the most of our FWB, or ask him to move out?
Q. Hello, I don't know what I should do. I am house sharing (my house) with a much younger male friend, who I have fallen in love with. I have told him, and he says he loves me as a friend but that's all. In some ways I can be content to live like ...
A. 7 February 2009: Friends with benefits ONLY works when you are just friends. If you are in love with him then you will get torn apart by this.
You need to ask him to move out.
I know the fear of being alone can be a big one but you will be fine and if you get o... (read in full...)
Thoughts of a past crush have once again crept into my head but I am in a relationship!
Q. I'm at my wit's end right now. For the past month and a half, I thought everything was fine between my boyfriend and I but thoughts of a past crush have once again crept into my head! Here's a little history.... I have asked for advice in the pa...
A. 7 February 2009: It's perfectly natural when you are unhappy in a relationship to dream of your perfect guy. This isn't ACTUALLY your schoolmate you are dreaming of, it's just that your brain has given him his face.
You'll keep having these thoughts because ... (read in full...)
How can I tell him "I'm a Virgin!"?
Q. I am a 23 year old female virgin that has been seeing a 30 year old guy for about 3 weeks. We have been on 4 dates so far and he made it clear that he wished to come home with me after the last one. I feel guilty turning him down, yet need a little ...
A. 7 February 2009: I don't think you have to tell him that you are a virgin.
But you can tell him that you are a little bit inexperienced and that you want to take things slowly and build up to sex.
If he knows you want it to be special and mean something then h... (read in full...)
Am I a glutton for punishment or just DUMB?
Q. i think i'm either glutton for punishment or clearly DUMB....i've known this guy since school...we are both 25...a year ago we found each other since graduating..and got back together..it was on and off..as he just ended his marriage and had a ...
A. 7 February 2009: The only person who can answer your questions is him.
Who knows what is happening in his head right now?
Why do you play games with him about calling and then hanging up and then not answering?
It could be that if he is a bit messed up at th... (read in full...)
Would a pregnant woman get pregnant again, by having sex during her pregnancy?
Q. hey i had slept with this woman and shes 5 months pregnant, i can't get her pregnant from this aswell can i? ...
A. 7 February 2009: Nope.
This is how the contraceptive pill works... it tricks your body into thinking it is pregnant so it can't get pregnant again.
You might want to get some sex education.
Also, why are you not using condoms?
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
My guy friend has anger management problems, how can I get him to understand that?
Q. Hi im 17 and I've been having this problem with one of my really close guy friends. His mother has recently passed away and he's only 16. the only people he has in his life is me and his sister. Everytime we are together which is alot he always ...
A. 7 February 2009: You can't help him by being his punch bag.
He is probably very angry and it's definitely going to be because of the death of his mother, but that doesn't mean YOU have to take a beating.
You may be doing more harm than good because he is le... (read in full...)
What can I do to help them with their problem?
Q. Hi i need some help ASAP my friend and his GF had sex today and the condom broke they are only 15 and dont have access to any contraceptive pills they ar freaking out what should they do Thanks in advance for your help ...
A. 7 February 2009: Go to a doctor, a clinic, a chemist and get the morning after pill.
You have 72 hours from the time when you had sex.
If they can't manage it alone then they will HAVE to go to a parent to help them. They may get in trouble but they will get in... (read in full...)
Together for 4 years, this Valentines, he is going to a strip club, should I get over it?
Q. My boyfriend just told me that he's going to a strip club with his friends on February 14th... I had planned to take him out to dinner at his favorite restaurant on that day for Valentines day... Now I know Valentine's Day is just a stupid excuse ...
A. 7 February 2009: If my bloke did that I would change the locks while he was out.
How DARE he just announce that he is off to look at other naked girls. The fact that he doesn't seem to care that you would be hurt by this tells me how little he cares about you.
... (read in full...)
Any suggestions on how I can find a guy, please?
Q. WHY IS IT SO HARD TO GET A GUY? I NEED A MAN PLEASE HELP ...
A. 7 February 2009: You are 13 to 15. A guy is the very last thing you need.
Boys your age tend to be idiots.
Be happy and single.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Need a few answers on oral sex, please help?
Q. I give my bf head a lot and when he gets close to cumming he pushes on my head and I can't deep throat him ): and I gag and its embarassing and I really wanna learn how to deepthroat without gagging!...
A. 7 February 2009: URGH I HATE IT when guys do that.
I heard of one girl who just vomited up all over the guy because he did that.
Tell your boyfriend NOT to do that again or you'll stop going down there. Pin his hands down when he gets close or finish him off b... (read in full...)
My intelligence may be getting in the way of our relationship, any ideas?
Q. My boyfriend (we're both 16) thinks I need to stop being smarter then him. He gets d's and c's well I get b's and a's. I don't rub it in his face at all (plus I think its rude as well) and I have been offering to help him get his grades back up but ...
A. 7 February 2009: That's like saying "you need to stop being taller than me!"
You can't change who you are or your IQ.
Try to continue not making a big deal of it and be careful that you are not correcting him or making him feel stupid but other than that, if he... (read in full...)
What did I misunderstand and how might she come around?
Q. Met a girl last summer in a city that I live in overseas (her hometown), and we had about 2 months of casual but fun dating before she moved back to the US to finish graduate school. There were no commitments made when she left, but we kept in touch ...
A. 7 February 2009: You didn't misunderstand anything I'm afraid.
She's just having issues and it's up to her to get her head straight.
There may be someone else after her who is confusing her, she may be going through something that you don't know about.
Y... (read in full...)
Why is my ex flirting with me when he dumped me?
Q. So when I first got there we stared at each other for a bit then I looked away and went to sit down. He didn't talk to me. I found out he told Brian he wasn't going to. Well Brians mom sent us to the store to get food….me, chris, carrie, and bria...
A. 7 February 2009: He's jealous. In his mind it's working like this:
He broke up with you... you should be crying in your room because he was SO AMAZING and now it is over.
You are not supposed to be having fun and talking to other BOYS. How could you do tha... (read in full...)
Controlling boyfriend
Q. I am 18 years old. Me and my boyfriend have been dating for 3 years. We just had a baby in August. She is 6 months now. My boyfriend is super controlling. We were engaged last month but he took his ring back, he usually breaks up with every 2 weeks ...
A. 7 February 2009: Jesus woman!! Are you actually living on the same planet as the rest of us???
In what world is it acceptable for a man to put his hands around your throat??!?!?!?!?!?!?
Or getting angry because you go and buy nappies for your CHILD?!
This ... (read in full...)
Damaged goods?
Q. I was hanging with a friend, who likes me. The feeling isn't mutual. He got mad when I told him we would never be together. And he starting putting me down, stating I was damaged goods. Am I damaged goods because I was in a relationship and ended up ...
A. 7 February 2009: You rejected him. That hurt him.
So he (like the nice guy he is) decided to lash out and try and hurt you back with what ever words he could think of.
You are not damaged goods.
Keep your distance for a while so he can have a chance to sta... (read in full...)
He's moving on after a week, will he realise what he's lost?
Q. Me and my boyfriend split a week sgo. He has already hooked up with 2 girls, and says that their just his rebounds, to try to get over me. He's not in a relationship, just fooling around fun. I'm heartbroken about it. Do you think he will re...
A. 7 February 2009: He'll say anything when he is with you because he obviously doesn't care about what effect it will have on you.
He may have felt like he loved you at that moment but if he has no idea what he wants then he's just going to say what ever is in his h... (read in full...)
Girlfriend's new friend! (Yawwwwwn)
Q. Little stuff with my gf is pissing me off, she met a new friend at work and blew me off, I played it cool cause I love her and she doesn't have many friends. I love her to death, we will probably meet tonight and get a little intimate if you know ...
A. 7 February 2009: She has to let you have friends, if she is that posessive then tell her she needs to sort out her insecurities or it will never work.
If this day was planed for ages then tell her that you are upset at being stood up. Let her make it up to you. ... (read in full...)
I find him attractive but I'm not sure if these feelings are real or if it's his physical appearance I like. Help!
Q. I have recently met a guy who I have been hanging out with a lot. He is very toned and sexy which obviously attracts me to him. I like to hang around him and he really makes me laugh. I am not sure though if my feelings for him are true or if his ...
A. 7 February 2009: One kiss doesn't mean you are married, kiss him and then if it doesn't work out then it doesn't work out.
Try hard to have a conversation with him and find out if you two have anything in common or is he just all brawn and no brain.
Good Lu... (read in full...)
My fake boyfriend.
Q. I asked my crush if he liked me and he said no and that he was about to go out with my best friend. I got mad at her and him and now at school I told 3 of my closest other friends that I had a boyfriend that lived in Canada and they believed me ...
A. 7 February 2009: Simple, say you had a row with your boyfriend, that you have split up and you are now single and ready for someone new.
Tell them you aren't that bothered about the break up because he was in Canada and you had pretty much just become friends ... (read in full...)
How to finish off a great day????
Q. Valentine's Day, HELP! Ok, so my boyfriend and I are going to watch a live sports game! That's at 1:00pm. I'm thinking it will end about 3:30pm. Any good ideas on what to do afterwards?!? I haven't had sex with him yet. I wanted to go out o...
A. 7 February 2009: Well if you don't want to do the restaurant thing then you'll have to come up with some place that is warm, quiet and romantic.
You say you haven't had sex so I don't know if you mean this is what you WANT to do after - in which case a romantic... (read in full...)
Is it time to take the next step?
Q. Hi, so my boyfriend and i were disscussing moving in together and one thing that came up was sex. Now my birthday is Valentine's day and thats pressure to have sex 2 times over so we've known each other 6 months, I've meet his family and he's meet ...
A. 7 February 2009: If you are not ready for sex then don't do it.
But I do wonder on why you would want to move in with a boyfriend if you haven't had sex with him yet.
If you are waiting for marriage or something that is fine but don;t move in together till yo... (read in full...)
Girlfriend's new friend! (Yawwwwwn)
Q. Little stuff with my gf is pissing me off, she met a new friend at work and blew me off, I played it cool cause I love her and she doesn't have many friends. I love her to death, we will probably meet tonight and get a little intimate if you know ...
A. 6 February 2009: So she went out with new friend and you are glad that she has this but don't actually care enough to listen to her as you want her to shut up and have sex with you?
You're great.
Listening is a big part of being a boyfriend. If you can't cope w... (read in full...)
He's moving on after a week, will he realise what he's lost?
Q. Me and my boyfriend split a week sgo. He has already hooked up with 2 girls, and says that their just his rebounds, to try to get over me. He's not in a relationship, just fooling around fun. I'm heartbroken about it. Do you think he will re...
A. 2 February 2009: I disagree with the first poster, as I have read your other question. He is having a great time by the sounds of it, and although you let him treat you like a doormat and he may miss wiping his feet all over you when other girls won't stand for his ... (read in full...)
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