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writes:I know, I know. Some of you might respond with "EWWWW" or "GROSSS" etc., but I just wanted a little input. I didn't mean for this to happen. I've always been straight. Boyfriends, the whole deal and what not, I've been through it.. but recently I met this girl, as we are both in a performance that my school is putting on. She's clearly straight and so am I, so why the hell am I crushing on her? I feel ridiculous for this to even be happening, but I didn't plan it... I know, it's the weirdest thing in the world. So, wtf, does this make me bi? :\
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 April 2009): I am married with kids. I think women are beautiful. If I were in the right situation and single. Yes I'd date women too. Does that make me bi? maybe, so what.love is lovesex is sex.no matter how you look at it. in the end its all relationships. male or female. They all have their same complications. explore. Your young. I'm only 26 and find myself changing and finding out new things about myself every day.
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reader, NightLad  +, writes (1 April 2009):
 Heya, When a person develops a firm perception of themselves, and then they suddenly find cause to question that perception, it can be very uncomfortable and even scary. When it happens to be something as personal as the nature of our sexuality, for many people it can be doubly so.However, as other people have mentioned, what you are going through is not terribly uncommon. Although platonic ‘crushes’ on members of the same-sex seem to be more common in adolescence and early adulthood, it can happen at any stage of life.To answer your question; I would in no way say this makes you bi.Human sexuality is an intricate and deeply personal thing. It is also not black/white. Although there are fully straight and gay people, in-between there exists a wide range of grey. The Kinsey Scale classifies sexuality from 0 to 6; 0 being fully heterosexual and 6 being fully homosexual. This said, to fully understand human sexuality, it is helpful to recognize what it encompasses. To quote from the American Psychiatric Association’s definition:“Sexual orientation refers to an enduring pattern of emotional, romantic, and/or sexual attractions to men, women, or both sexes. Sexual orientation also refers to a person’s sense of identity based on those attractions, related behaviors, and membership in a community of others who share those attractions.”Until you notice a developing pattern of enduring emotional, romantic and/or sexual attraction to women, I would not think of applying the ‘bisexual’ label to you.For now, I would advise you to relax. Understand that what you are feeling may seem strange insofar as your own sexuality is concerned, but it is not abnormal. Many other heterosexual people, boys and girls, men and women, experience the same thing in their own lives.I hope this helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2009): i don't think it makes you bi,but even if it does,so what?honey people are attracted to other people.maybe you see things in her that you love and you two have a lot in common or maybe you have chemistry.whatever it is that's pulling you to her,it's not weird or gross.it's human nature.you might have more in common with her than you ever had with a guy you dated!if you're in love with her then go for it.forget about everything and everyone alse.
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reader, melon  +, writes (31 March 2009):
Nobody with ANY sense will think 'ewww' or 'gross'!! There is definitely no black or white. Don't worry about labels, just go with whatever you think. If you fancy her, go for it. If not, then don't. Forget about gender. It's as simple as that. Good luck xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2009): There are no black and white answers to "am I gay/bi whatever". You feel what you feel - don't label it. If you like her you like her - if you don't then you don't.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (31 March 2009):
Why would anyone think it's gross? It's just human nature.
You are in your teens and still going through hormonal changes. So nothing you feel now means anything really.
This may be the last time you ever feel this, it may be something that carries on.
Just think of it like a rollercoaster. There will be different and scary sometimes but just enjoy the ride and know it will all be ok at the end.
Good Luck!! xx
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