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writes:Hi this is going to be an essay sorry. My son met a girl in Aug 2007 just before he joined the army, then in March 2008 she said she was pregnant,twins they got engaged and we had a family celibration party all was well baby due Nov 28, she was meant to move in with us and we had an extention built to provide an anex.this would give them privacy at the cost of £13000.We bought baby items cots,buggies, the usual, she would come shopping and watch me buy two of every thing she picked names one of which the boys name was Christopher the name of my little boy who died of cancer. Then it all became very strange she would ask me to attend maturnity appointment for scans and check ups, when i arrived to pick her up she would say they have been cancelled,or she would not be in. My son would come home on leave and ask to attend scans he was exited about the babbies but all appointments were cancelled according to her.Finally Nov arrived she was not very big for twins but kept saying that the babbies were small.Then on the 5 of Dec she was meant to have a cecerian guess what it was cancceled my son had taken 1 months oleave to prepare for the arrival of his children, by Dec 15 we were al frustrated my son finally got to an appointment to see midwife this was only because he insisted, then while they were waiting she told my son that she had had a misscarrage. Confuse so are we, because she is still pregnant and now tells us that the baby is due in May. There relationship has ended and my son is seeing a councellor he has not been able to see the midwife or Dr because his ex girlfriend will not give permission for them to release any information about her. This girl has brought nothing but heart ache to my very close family. We ars still awaiting the arrival of the baby. things are heated as her family believe that my son has abandoned her, he hasnt now she says that he can have the baby at weekends and that we can see him whenever we like but she has told so many lies i fear it will have to go through the courts, how do i put my family back together
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reader, pinktink1 +, writes (1 April 2009):
Nobody should lead someone on like that. I agree wiv everyone who says go to a solicitor and have it in writing then that way your going to see the babe. As for her family saying he's abandoned her what do they expect? wen she's caused the situation. Also if ur son is away alot and she's now not due till may can the babe be his? be carful she doesnt just pin it on him. Its nice to see that your family are willing to do the right thing and provide for this baby. And im so sorry to ur son who has a tough job as it is and then expects to be a daddy of 2 then its taken away from him like that"!!! its shamefull. Hope everything works out for you and your family and most of all your son. You said you were a close family and time is a healer so im sure you will all be close again soon. take care x x
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries +, writes (1 April 2009):
 oo she sounds a nasty piece of work!maybe she never told you because she had misscarried and was feeling you all maybe disappointed but then again as your son is in the army who knows maybe she has cheated and realizes the child isn't his?you'll probably definitely have to go through the courts though trickey situation like this.don't let her drag your son down he deserves a billion times better!!she's a vindictive little girldon't let her ruin things!there is nothing you can really do to stop all this heartache from happenenig, you just need to let your son know you are going to support him through whatever she throws at you all!that's all you can really do let him know you all support him and are there for him.:)hope this helps.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (1 April 2009):
I think you have to just go through the courts.
This girl is clearly mentally ill to have gone through something like this.
You have to finally call her bluff and not believe anything she says until it is in writing with proof.
I don't think she'll want to go to court as then her family will find out what has gone on.
Also, if the due date has changed by so many months, was this magical second conception at a time when your son was at home.
If she ever does have a baby and it doesn't turn out to be a cushion up her jumper then I think you need to ask for a paternity test. If he's in the army then money will come straight out of your son's paycheck from day 1. It's the one organisation in the world the CSA can actually get it right with.
Do not trust a word she says and in the mean time, take all the baby stuff back and get a refund, you know you have probably increased the value of your house as granny annexes are getting more and more popular as care homes become more expensive, so all you need worry about is helping your son get over this betrayal.
Tell him to always use condoms till after marriage from now on, and that not all women are like this.
Tell her that you want a DNA test after the birth and then you want a court order about visitation and maintenance payments.
Good Luck!! xx
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