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writes:Please help! Im stuck in a rut and dont no wot to do. Im an at home mum of a 9 month old. I feel really depressed, one min im happy, nxt im down and i get really snappy at my boyfriend. I love him and my daughter very much, and hate takin it out on them. I have had post natel depression and still on anti-depressants. I have no interest in sex, i feel ugly sometimes, fat and have no motivation and worst of all i never want 2 go out, i have 2 make myself. I always feel tired and irritable lately. Wot can i do to help myself?
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reader, pinktink1 +, writes (1 April 2009):
Hi i have a 4 year old and am expecting again, I suffered really bad with depression after having my daughter and felt the same way you do now. You really do need to talk to your doctor about this and also friends and family. Its good that your making yourself go out and even thou u dont want to its really important that you do. Also ask ur health visitor about mother and baby groups in ur area and get out the house, talk to other mum's cuz ur not the only 1 who feels like you do. Dont feel bad about feeling like this its just 1 of those things. I know nursery is really expensive and its hard to rely on people for child care but like others have said do things for you, even if its having ur hair done, or part time work it really does keep you sain. Good luck and i hope ur feelin better soon x
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reader, noticable +, writes (1 April 2009):
Hi,I have a 9 month old girl and it's understandable that one minute your happy and the next your not. I felt like that when I was nearer to my due date, my family was far and my husband was out most of the time, I felt the same as you and then after I had my daughter I went back to doing the things I enjoyed. It is hard with a young child and I know I feel guilty but it helps to be out there, talking to friends and family. Ask your family to look after your baby and go out with your boyfriend or your friends. Go to a beauty parlour, treat yourself, do small things like paint your nails, watch a movie indoors.If still nothing helps, seak to your doctor and explain the situation and tell him what you have tried.I wish you all the best and please ask for help if you need it, whether it be someone on this website or other friends, keep in touch. My help was my brother and sister.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2009): It could be depression like Emily said, but it might just be fatigue. Caring for a 9 month old baby is exhausting and can drain you physically and mentally.
Go see a doctor and get some advice from them.
I know it might be impossible, I don't know the specifics of your life situation, but setting aside a bit more time for yourself to relax by changing your routine slightly might help. You could leave your child with your mom for a couple of hours and go to a sauna, go for a swim or do something else you enjoy.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (1 April 2009):
You need to go back to the doc.
These are all symptoms of depression.
He put you on the pills but if they are not doing the trick you have to go and try and different pill or something different. It's exactly the same as anti-biotics, you have to find the right one for the right kind of infection.
I know it's hard but are you eating well, taking vitamins, and doing exercise? That can all help.
Go back to your GP and try a different level of anti-depressant, that should level you out for a while so you can get your head together and then you can work out what will make you happy and normal so you can come off the pills and start living.
Did you work before the kid? Could you go back and work again?
Could you start a work from home business?
You have to get the pills right so you can be a human being and not an emotional yo-yo. But after that you have to think hard and fight this.
Good Luck!! xx
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