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writes:Me and my ex boyfriend went out for about a year. We were young but both had things for each other for 2 years and were each others first everything. He was my very best friend as I was his, and one could easily argue we were two people living in one body. We got to a rocky part and things fell apart but my love for him never went away. We were friends, not friends, friends, sort of friends, not friends on and off for about 4-5 months. We talked of being friends with benefits but he decided he only wanted to be friends so it never happenedLast month, i found out he was hooking up with some younger, really unappealing girl. We had a four hour conversation after not talking for about a month on the phone which led to us deciding we wanted to start hooking up againHe always said there was a 0 percent chance of us reuniting, but all he talks about now is how he cares about me so, so muchThe problem is we are having casual sex (more like making love) and there's that girl on my tailI know for a fact he really doesn't like her but she thinks they have something specialI can tell inside he still loves me and I was wondering if now that we're sexually together and talking a lot, if he may change his mind and want to be together again? The reason he didn't was because we started to fight, but we honestly loved each other so much and this other girl isn't anything in his eyes
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (1 April 2009):
If he wanted to be with you he would be. He wouldn't be leading this other girl on and shagging her the moment you leave.
Plus, why would he want to get back with you when you keep having sex with him? He's getting what he wants and can go and have what he wants with every other girl too.
He is never going to change his mind while you do this.
Do yourself a favour and cut contact with him. Try and get over him. Let him have his flings and rebound girls. Go and make a life for yourself.
It could be that you two will get back together but in a few years when all this mess is ancient history.
Set him free and go and travel, see the world, get a career.
Good Luck!! xx
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