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writes:Dear Cupid, Robert and I were best friends for two and a half years and then we decided to be more than friends. I waited on him to figure out what he wanted for four months then we dated for two months, I didn't talk to him for three months and we have been talking every day through text and email only for the last four months. I haven't seen him and only talked on the phone once in the last four months. We do say I love you but extremely rarely. Four days ago I told him I didn't think we should do this between us any more because I honestly don't think this between us is going anywhere and he didn't show much concern other than saying "I'm sorry your mind is obviously made up what do you want me to do?" What does this mean? Please help, I have been physically ill over this and I can't let him go, I can't accept the fact that we are done forever and there will never have been a me and him ever. It just hurts so bad. Will someone please give me some advice? He is the only guy I have ever loved and I have been revolving my love life around him for over a year now. I don't know what to do with myself. Please help. I'm only 18 years old and in college. I love my life but this makes me so miserable. Please help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2009): Doesn't sound like anything is going on here and maybe this is a relationship based mainly in your own imagination, not in reality. How do you revolve your life around a guy you don't even see? Honestly, he's probably like WTF? when you told him you couldn't do this with him anymore. If I didn't see some girl for months and she texted me some thing like that I would think she'd been drinking and texted the wrong person!
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reader, Triskaedeka102  +, writes (31 March 2009):
 The only way to be clear is to contact him again and actually talk about it. What exactly he had in mind before you told him that it won't go anywhere. Was he also feeling the same? Or was he actually crying inside too.
Being physically separated is a really difficult romance situation anybody could ever experience. Statistically it's not a go. However, to get better, kindly ask to meet up with him. A talk over the phone won't do. Tell him it'll be just a talk, tell him you're uneasy about what happened and need the other side of the story.
Good luck hun.
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (31 March 2009):
It sounds to me like you just texted emailed and talked on the phone.
Did you even ever kiss this guy?
I think whatever it was, it's over and you need to move on. Get out and have fun with your friends.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (31 March 2009):
 Sorry but this isn't what I would call an actual romance or anything, I mean you haven't even laid eyes on each other for 7 months. Why is that?
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