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writes:Ok...i have had heaps of issues with my hubby and porn over the past 8 years. He has finally dealt with it through counselling talking etc...Everything is great with us now.Now my problem is at work. See my boss has been visiting porn sites, dating sites etc. (he is married with 1 child). The both of us work in a tiny office..and I use his computer quite a bit for work...when I go on his computer there are images of naked girls everywhere..why do I have to be subjected to that at work now too???I know you will say tell a manager...but it then makes it awkward if he finds out I'm the one who told.How can I discreetly get him to stop??Also he tells me to leave early alot and it doesnt take a rocket scientist to work out why...makes me feel sicky eeewwwwwwI really like my job and he is a good friend but I dont want to see this crap all the time at work. I deleted some of his images while he was away..now they are all back.I dont like confronting him over it as its an embarrassing topic for 2 people who share an office space... what do I do???
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (1 April 2009):
If he is looking at porn discretely and it's just online then it's none of your business.
If you are on his computer and they are there to see then just laugh shout "EWWWWWWWWW!! LOOK AT THIS!!" and show everyone in the office.
If he wanted it to be private then he could have made it private. If he's leaving it in full view then he is open to be taken the piss out of. If you make it a joke and he complains then it's HIS problem because he left it lying around.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2009): Sounds like you can't confront him face to face. Write him a note, state what you've seen on the computer and how that bothers and makes you uncomfortable. That will stop him.
Good luck.
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reader, lotus mama808  +, writes (1 April 2009):
 Seriously, if it is bothering you THAT much, you need to talk to your boss about it. However, it's only a big deal if you make it a big deal. My hubby watches porn, at first it bothered me untill I realized what a huge part of being a guy it is. Now I find humor in it, and can even joke about it with him. Truth be told, it is your boss's computer, and he is entitled to do with it what he will, and you should feel relieved he isn't your husband. Telling a man he can't watch porn would be like telling a woman she can't wear make-up. It kind of strips them of their gender. The only way you can make it so you are not subjected to seeing these naked girls is to let him know that it just isnt your thing, and tell him it totally distracts you from doing your job well. Tell him it would be really cool of him if he could keep these images in a file that you don't have to see everytime you log in.
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