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anonymous
writes:My girlfriend of almost 11 months now treats me like shit. She's controlling, demanding and takes me for granted... did I mention disrespectful... she insults me all the time and smacks me in the face or butt when she get's angry. Now I love her and I thought she loved me too, but I'm starting to doubt it now.Now I have a lot of female friends... so she gets jealous all the time and doesn't want me to hug them or even hang out with them, and I have to be with her like 24/7.I'm the one always paying the bill (I know the guy's alwyas supposed to do that, but she can at least offer once) and I'm the only one who buys gifts and stuff and it's like she doesn't care.... I'm the only putting effort in the relationship.Another problem is when we make out, yeah it's magical.... she holds me really tight and touches me down and everything, she grabs me and everything down there but she doesn't allow me to touch her.... I mean it's not like were gonna have sex or anything but she's my girlfriend I have the right to do that right???I don't know what to do, should I stay or get out of this stressful relationship???Any ideas/?
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (2 April 2009):
I agree that she is in the wrong here and you are wrong for putting up with it.
If you take it then she'll carry on doing it so tell her you are sick of it and you want to break up.
One other thing...
You NEVER have a "right" to touch a girl anywhere. You may want to please her and you may want to be with a girl who lets you do things to her rather than one who doesn't... But if she says no then you keep your hands on her top half.
Sorry but that is a BIG rule. If you don't like it then it's one more reason to split up.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, keepitreal03  +, writes (1 April 2009):
Get out of it. She doesn't deserve u and if u are un happy now there is no point in doing this another year or two it will make it worse so just get it over with now. I'm sure she wil cry and try and make u change ur mind but don't! Hold ur own and find someone who won't act crazy and hit u. Because if u hit her back u will be in jail and u don't need to be with anybody who will upset u and maybe one day u might slip and react. Then u will be the bad one. Look at chris brown and rihanna....she has hit him before and even that night and when he couldn't take it he went off it wasn't right but u don't want that to be u
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reader, lotus mama808 +, writes (1 April 2009):
 In these situations, you have to ask yourself, "Is this what I want to deal with for the rest of my life?" You are only young once, do you want to waste these youthful years on a girl that has no respect for you? I wouldnt.
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reader, jessica04 +, writes (1 April 2009):
 Umm, I think if you reread your question then even you will have to agree that this relationship sucks and you should get out of it.
Leave, take time to yourself, and then find a nice girl who isn't so controlling.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2009): first off you what age? 13 - 15? so you shouldnt be thinking of having sexual relations right now.
secondly, especially with a girl who treats you like that. from whatr you say she clearly takes you for granted and looks like she is only with u for the infatuation of having a boyfriend. sahe cant care about you all that much if she does all of that
maybe you should try to just be friends for a while and see how a friendship relationship goes
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